Why are people so hesitant to be surgically safe?

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by tnt69couple

Surgery? I guess you could call it that. I had a vasectomy done several years ago. Went in on Friday. They numbed my scrotum, made a one inch cut and snip. A few sutures and I drove myself home.

I had sex the following day and went to work on Monday.

Yes, surgery. They invade the body when they do a vasectomy.

As I stated before, by being on blood thinners (coumadin) things get alot more complicated than for people who are not on blood thinners. And having an artificial aortic valve and seven stents is another set of complications. I am not a doctor or surgeon and I have to go on their advice before I can get any procedures done, to include seeing the dentist.

So at this time and probably for the rest of my life, a vasectomy is out of the question.

[steversk]

I got a vasectomy shortly after me and my second wife got married. We both decided we did not want children (I have one from my first marriage), and she did not want to be on the pill. The procedure was about 30 minutes, painless, and I had very little soreness after. Was back to work after a days rest. Went in after a month to have a a sperm count to make sure it had taken. I had zero swimmers so we were good to go. Since then, I have been very glad I had it done. Not having to worry about birth control with my wife is great. With anyone else I would always use a condom. To anyone that has decided for sure that they don't want children (or any more children I would highly recommend it.

[NotSorry]

The answer to the original question is really obvious to me... no matter how quick and easy the surgery, it's a big decision. Personally, it's not something my husband and I will consider for many years as we are not done having children. Maybe it's because we are so detached to the idea of sterilization at this time in our lives that I find this question so bizarre...

I think maybe what is bothering you has more to do with the male response to a vasectomy and the assumption that the birth control responsibility is disproportionately placed on females. I can understand that. I wouldn't want to be involved with a partner that I didn't feel like took appropriate responsibility for protection against pregnancy.

[Nardozzi]

I became V Safe three years ago. I went in on Monday afternoon at 3:00, walked out of the Dr.s office at 3:45 and was at work the next morning. The biggest pain for me was taking two sperm count tests, one at 4 weeks then the second at 8 weeks. It was like getting a new car and not being able to drive it for 2 months!!!!

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by Nardozzi

The biggest pain for me was taking two sperm count tests, one at 4 weeks then the second at 8 weeks. It was like getting a new car and not being able to drive it for 2 months!!!!

I don't understand. Your doctor told you not to have sex until your tests came back? Am I misunderstanding?

My doctor told me to have as much sex as I wanted, to 'clean out the pipes,' so to speak. He told us to use our normal birth control methods until my tests came back negative, but other than that, he basically said that the more I ejaculated, the faster I'd have a "0 swimmer count."

Oh, and yeah, I did use the old "Doctor's orders," line a time or two...

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

My doctor told me to have as much sex as I wanted, to 'clean out the pipes,' so to speak. He told us to use our normal birth control methods until my tests came back negative, but other than that, he basically said that the more I ejaculated, the faster I'd have a "0 swimmer count."

Oh, and yeah, I did use the old "Doctor's orders," line a time or two...

Dave got his V when I was nine months pregnant with our third. I assisted in this little surgery and it was my most satisfying moment at that time. Dave told me I had an evil grin on my face the entire time. (I did??? I don't remember?!)

Our doc told Dave the same thing. He wanted 20 ejaculations then check his sperm count before we could stop using our old BC methods. Dave said he'd see him in 5 years (slap!!)

[bicuriocpl]

For me the biggest concern was when the Doctor cauterized the cuts. Its not a real good thing to be lying on a table and look down and see smoke coming from an area that there really shouldn't be any. Hey doc I'm on fire and not in a good way!

Other than that the Dr. told me 20 times and then test. Also a word of advice if you do get it done, do not go dancing the next day, very painful. Wife said I actually turned green.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by LFM2

Our doc told Dave the same thing. He wanted 20 ejaculations then check his sperm count before we could stop using our old BC methods. Dave said he'd see him in 5 years (slap!!)

Oh man! Three minutes in the penalty box for that one!

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by bicuriocpl

For me the biggest concern was when the Doctor cauterized the cuts. Its not a real good thing to be lying on a table and look down and see smoke coming from an area that there really shouldn't be any. Hey doc I'm on fire and not in a good way!

My doctor gave me a prescription for one pill, with instructions to take it one hour before the surgery, and have my wife drive me to and from his office. I really don't know what that pill was (I didn't pay any attention at the time,) but all I can tell you about it is that by the time we got to his office, I was at 30,000 feet and climbing. He could have used a set of bolt cutters and a propane torch for all I know, and I'd have probably helped him get it lit. I do know that I was in zero pain for that day, and only had a stinging sensation the next, so whatever it was - it worked.

[good times]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

My doctor gave me a prescription for one pill, with instructions to take it one hour before the surgery, and have my wife drive me to and from his office.

That was Valium, if it is the same as my doctor gave me.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

My doctor gave me a prescription for one pill, with instructions to take it one hour before the surgery, . . .

That pill assures that you are in a good moved when he hands you his bill.

Vasectomy was the right decision for me. But consequences down the road are possible. I am now officially a statistic. One out of five-hundred will develop a sperm granuloma, a small, uncomfortable, bead-like structure made of leaked sperm that develops at the site where the tube was cut and blocked. This happened to me twenty-eight years after the vasectomy.

~Michael

[slevin]

Totally forgot about this Family guy song about vasectomies: YouTube - Vasectomy Song

[tnt69couple]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Yes, surgery. They invade the body when they do a vasectomy.

As I stated before, by being on blood thinners (coumadin) things get alot more complicated than for people who are not on blood thinners. And having an artificial aortic valve and seven stents is another set of complications. I am not a doctor or surgeon and I have to go on their advice before I can get any procedures done, to include seeing the dentist.

So at this time and probably for the rest of my life, a vasectomy is out of the question.

Surgery= invading the body. Then my wife has surgery 3 to 4 times a week

[lovefest04]

Well to be honest, I am terrified, after all they have to put me to sleep to do it, you men just get a local, then snip, snip and 30 minutes later you go home.

You're correct, its very simple for the man to get fixed. Mine was completed at 2pm on a Friday, and I was back at it in full force on Monday. Could have been mowing the lawn on Sunday as well, but shoot, I'll use any excuse to get pampered for a few days. And frankly, my wife felt a bit sorry for me. I figured I'd make the best of it.

Never did give the sample, but 2 years later and no new little ones so I guess it worked.

The best part, of course, was being able to legally display my junk to the doctor's 62 year old assistant. She never blinked an eye, totally professional but heck she's still a girl...

Back to the original question. We never used the pill, very unhealthy for the female in our opinion, so having me fixed was a great option for us in our personal activites. That does leave open the issue of her getting pregnant if the condom breaks. I guess we see that as a small risk, but believe me when I tell you I make sure everyone of her partners is sheathed.

Great thread and great input from all.

PS Trixie, I didn't take offense at what you said at all. Direct and clear. Thanks

S

[I'm his]

I have no idea own this became an issue. I got "fixed" 3 years ago and I love it. I never wanted kids; not my thing. So, I found someone who wold do it for me; best decision I ever made.