Swinging safely without contraceptives?

[good times]

I was fixed before we started swinging, but Mr.s GT wasn't and it was one of our main worries. After a couple of years and checking into IUD's and such, she finally had her tubes tied so now we are both fixed, no more worries in that regard.

[cuzzeyesaidso]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

I've heard that the more you swallow the more the chance of pregnancy goes down.

Kind of like the flu shot. Wait....I got the flu shot, and now I have the flu.

[msa223]

Like your husband, I had the vasectomy. In my case, I still had live sperm for two months after the procedure, so you still need to be careful until the doctor clears you.

Wife has an IUD. She said it was somewhat uncomfortable when they put it in, but then you are good to go for 5 years I believe. She is very happy with it now.

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by des1re06

Check out Novasure as well. Best thing I ever did for myself (and hubby).

Isn't it great Mr. D No more excuses I second this as well. Tam had it done last winter. Her OB/GYN had been suggesting it for a couple years as Tam had starting getting very heavy flows too. Well, as we were getting close to our Desire trip last spring, we realized she would start right at the beginning. So, she talked to her Doc about it and set it up (we had a few months yet before the trip). End result is no more flow Funny part was, the trip would have been her first period after the procedure. One day nekkid poolside, she has this horrified look on her face. She grabbed a towel and said "OMG.....I think I'm starting my period." She slinked off to our room to take care of it. She came back a short while later smiling. "Well.....it certainly felt like I was. But nothing to worry about." I know she kept a tampon handy though And a nice side effect is no more pregnancy worries from playing for either of us now.

Brett

[Vjklander]

Tubal ligation is 100% effective and gives you permanent peace of mind with respect to not getting pregnant. You don't have to do anything, remember anything, or count on someone else. I would strongly recommend that to anyone who is 100% sure they don't want to get pregnant.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by Vjklander

Tubal ligation is 100% effective and gives you permanent peace of mind with respect to not getting pregnant. You don't have to do anything, remember anything, or count on someone else. I would strongly recommend that to anyone who is 100% sure they don't want to get pregnant.

In a perfect world, I would agree with you, as it is 99.5% effective (there are known reversals or failures which are acknowledged in the stats).

However, these are not free to many of us. My insurer will pay 80% - AFTER my $3000 yearly deductible (I've been to a doctor three times this year - I am nowhere near making the deductible). Planned Parenthood and other organizations charge anywhere from 1K to 2.5K for the procedure.

In my case, while we have a comfortable income, I'm not comfortable spending that kind of money simply to play safely via an invasive surgical procedure (it is more invasive than a vasectomy). I'm comfortable with the odds of properly used condoms, especially since condoms serve a secondary purpose of reducing the risk of STDs. Wish I didn't have obligations in my life so that I could simply spend 2K on a 99.5% guarantee, since I am childfree by choice. But I do, so given my age and my aforementioned backup plans, I'll stick with the condoms and keep paying the bills and into the retirement fund.

Again - I do agree with you in theory. It is 99.5% effective. Too bad many health insurers don't see the logic in investing in tubals (or even basic birth control).

[sexcupid]

In regards to rpu3's 99.5% success rate, I fall into that .5% of failures. My tubes were snipped just after the birth of my second child. It took 5 years for them to repair themselves. My doctor's response? 'Wow, you heal really well.' No, really?

So I went back on BCP for the first time in about 6 years...and hated every minute of it. Was on them for about a year, and then Jeff finally got snipped. That was in the spring of this year...and I'm happy, and he's happy that I'm not as bitchy anymore (when I'm on BCP, I have PMS all month and then am perfectly sociable for 1 week. lmao...also with the last ones I took, I hardly ever orgasmed and sex was pretty painful... ).

So we use condoms with our playmates, and all has been good. I have watched my cycle for years now, and we don't play all that often anyway.

Maria

[crazycatz]

I can't go on the Pill for health reasons...so I basically rely solely on condoms.
As rpu3 said, condoms might not be 100% getting pregnant is not the end of the world (there are options) whereas contracting HIV is in many ways!
Pregnancy is a secondary concern...STIS are the first.

[TerryforSex]

Never trust the guy that says I had a Vasectomy.
Yes he might have but when....it takes a while for sperm to clear out. even the lazy sperm can have its way with you and find yourself pregnant.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

Never trust the guy that says I had a Vasectomy.
Yes he might have but when....it takes a while for sperm to clear out. even the lazy sperm can have its way with you and find yourself pregnant.

This is true for a time at least. Jay was supposed to have a v 2 weeks ago but the surgeon ended up having an emergent surgery and then strep throat hit town lol....but he will be getting one soon. The dr. told him about how long it takes in order for the sperm to stop going into the ducts. Even after the V though we have decided that he needs to glove up because of std's...however, I would be much more comfie with him going bareback with ladies we know well after the V. We have 3 children, had no problems getting pregnant with them and I cannot afford child support...and now that everyone wipes their own asses in this house I'm not raising any babies LOL.

[TerryforSex]

I have been stupid at times and not used BC.
I know condoms do break onthe guys.

.... how do you tell your husband OOppps..!!! I forgot to use BC during our last party....