how to speak with the gyno about birth control

[curiousswingers]

Wow you really have me thinking here.....I had been thinking of telling the gyno the truth for the simple fact that I think i do want to get tested for stds just to be safe.......I was talking with hubby about just telling her what I wanted and really she does not need to know why......or does she? But after that last conversation I'm not sure if I should say anything. Maybe I should just get a gyno out of town, the problem is originally when I was looking for one I could not get one to see me since I am not an ob patient those are the only new patients they will see and it just so happened I could get into the gyno here in town........and even then of course I needed to wait 2 months....Well keep the responses coming guys it def is helping me to consider all my options.

[havefuninsun]

Here's an idea ... what about a planned parenthood clinic? I have the same damn issues with PCP type insurance -- makes it very hard to just see a doctor. But with planned parenthood, I think the services are probably very reasonable (price wise) and there probably isn't a lot of record keeping ... but I have really no idea about that.

I know a number of high school and college girls who use those types of clinics for birth control, because they don't want to ask daddy for an insurance card to go see an ob/gyn doctor.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by curiousswingers

...I had been thinking of telling the gyno the truth for the simple fact that I think i do want to get tested for stds just to be safe.......I was talking with hubby about just telling her what I wanted and really she does not need to know why......or does she?

You really don't have to tell the doctor why you want to be tested or why you want birth control, just that you do want the tests and the birth control.

All of us who swing have a responsibility to ourselves, our mates, and our future sex partners to be tested regularly. Double that if you play bareback. Whether you get tests from your own doctor without elaborating, go to a different doctor out of town, or go to the free-or-cheap clinic, just please get tested periodically. It's all about health and safety. Don't forget about your husband getting tested periodically, too.

I agree with your thought about just telling her what you want (birth control method, std tests), and not elaborating. These are normal and healthy things for a patient to be asking for. Remember, even serially monogamous people (the general population) should be getting tested for STD's, too. There's nothing incriminating about getting tested.

Good luck! Let us know what you decide!

[curiousswingers]

ok so just got back from the gynos office and i did get the birth control by telling mostly the trueth and a litte fibbing about why but over all it went well and she did not even bat an eyelash at my request. So I guess you could say I did not devulge any info I would not want anyone to leak out and still managed to get the tests and the birth control. Thanks for all your good tips ladies

[njcpl85]

Originally Posted by lovinher

Chicup hit the nail on the head. Your records are NOT private despite what people have been led to believe. A revelation of swinging to your doctor could haunt you for the rest of your life.

Could not agree more to what Chicup has said and all the previous posts regarding the privacy of your medical records. I work for an Insurance Broker/Financial Planner. Medical records of our clients pass through many hands when applying for any kind of Life Insurance. From the hands of the Records Dept in your doctors office to our office and then on to the underwriters at the Carriers we are submitting to. Many times an Insurance broker will submit records to many carriers to get the best deal for their client especially if there are medical issues of any kind. So be very weary of what you reveal to your doctors. I do believe in being as honest as possible to make sure you health is not at risk but be very cautious of how much information you do share with them because at some pont in time it may come back to you in an unfavorable way.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Find a new doctor, get on birth control with them, end of issue.

Exactly! There is no reason I can think of a physician needs to know that you swing. I'm also a full time practicing nurse and I know for a fact that health files are not private. I live in a VERY small community, we have one doctor for the whole town and believe me, I know his nurse and I don't need that kind of shit stirred. I'll be damned if I'm gonna tell him that I have heavy periods. He'd tell me too bad and to eat more fiber or something equally idiotic.

I went out of town to the big city and see a PA-C whom I just love. I told her that my periods are horrendous and I wanted on depo-provera. It wasn't a lie, they are a nightmare, but it wasn't the total truth because I also get the shot for birth control aspects as well. (I actually get some beneficial side effects from the shot and I'm not just talking about no period.) We still demand condoms with play and that is non-negotiable but it's actually nice to play spontaneously. She knows Mr. LFM is surgically safe and has never said a thing. I've pretty much turned over all my health care to her now. She can arrange for STD testing and
she doesn't bat an eye. It's all good.

[twobears]

Hi there, been awhile building a new home been very busy. I am all suprised to hear "we go bare back with ones we trust",trust does not have anything to do with staying HIV negative,it is only an excuse to do what you want to do and put your mind at ease I think. Ican test clean today and a month from now be positive,it takes time for the virus to show up on a test. My husband and I are in the older range and a lot of seniors think they are safe because of the age facter but I read that it is showing up in this age bracket. We are not always taken into a play session because we do not go bare back for anyone, please be more carefull out there the only way to cut back the rate going in the Americas. I have seen grown men cry over a std, please do not fool yourself into thinking your good friends are safe,no one is,ask your doctor if you think I am telling something wrong. Be safe and still have fun!!!

[pervgeeks]

Originally Posted by curiousswingers

OK so hubby had a vas about 5 yrs ago, we are fairly new to the swinging lifestyle and we def like to play bareback with partners we know and trust.......which leads me to birth control.....I am thinking I want to try that merina iud but am not sure how to approach the gyno about it seeing as how she already knows that hubby is vas safe? Anyone else been in this situation and how did you handle it?

The Mirena is great. You tend to have a few months of spotting before everything settles. For most people, it's 3 months. It took 7 months for me. Now I only have 3 days of spotting for a period every month. I love it.

[sexcupid]

Glad to hear the dr's appt went well. I get an STD test as part of my yearly gyno exam, and he doesn't need to know I swing per se....but he does ask how many partners I've had in the last year, I don't think it's because he's nosey and wants to judge. He gives advice on being safe and makes sure that I am ok. I love my doctor, I would recommend him to anyone.

Maria