Would you tell?

michelle101 · 03-02-2007, 01:21 PM

If you caught a curable STD. Say Gonnorea or Clamidia, would you tell previous partners within a month or so, or would you keep it between you and your partner and be treated?

To tell the truth, my first thought was that I would not tell anyone, but in reality, if it came down to it, the health of our friends would come before saving face.
So I am no saint, and would never judge anyone, but I'm curios, How many of you would tell, and how many would keep there mouths shut?

Mr. Truelove · 03-02-2007, 04:28 PM

This would be a good one for an anonymous poll. Maybe Julie can add one.

As for me. I would most certainly tell. And I would truly hope someone would tell me all the same. We all have to do our part to keep each other safe in this lifestyle.

Mr. Truelove

**SW_PA_Couple** · 03-02-2007, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

As for me. I would most certainly tell. Mr. Truelove

I agree. I would most certainly tell, in a diplomatic way, of course, so that it did not sound like an accusation or an attempt to place blame.

After reading the unintentional contradition in your signature "The most fun I can never tell anyone about!", I had to smile.

SuAndBud · 03-02-2007, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

I agree. I would most certainly tell, in a diplomatic way, of course, so that it did not sound like an accusation or an attempt to place blame.

After reading the unintentional contradition in your signature "The most fun I can never tell anyone about!", I had to smile.

Have to say that "we" are lost on this one.

And your point is, exactly............?

Mr. Truelove · 03-02-2007, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

I agree. I would most certainly tell, in a diplomatic way, of course, so that it did not sound like an accusation or an attempt to place blame.

After reading the unintentional contradition in your signature "The most fun I can never tell anyone about!", I had to smile.

Well, it's not really a contradiction as I don't think I would call STDs "fun."

Mr. Truelove

flkeyscouple · 03-02-2007, 10:45 PM

I agree - we would tell, no doubt about it. And also in a diplomatic way - no blame, just fact. I would hope that anyone (and everyone) would do the same - how can a person NOT tell when the information is so important??

Sarah

tribbles · 03-02-2007, 11:07 PM

Have to tell...otherwise we are likely to just get it back from someone who plays with someone who didn't get treated.

So if you plan to still play after treatment, well....everyone has to be treated. Right?

S

**SW_PA_Couple** · 03-03-2007, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Well, it's not really a contradiction as I don't think I would call STDs "fun."

Absolutely in agreement. No kind of STD is fun.

hfire269 · 03-03-2007, 09:32 PM

We would definitely tell.

prettylady · 03-04-2007, 11:03 AM

Yes, Yes, and hell Yes.

Curable or not, these could lead to other problems. Like perhaps losing alot of great friends if it was ever figured out you were the one who didn't initially tell them.

It maybe nothing to worry about, I'm not doctor so I don't know for sure. But if ever one of you playmate catch one of these std's and then turns out to be preggers, there could be a life in danger after all.
Your friend,
Prettylady

Tybee Swing · 03-04-2007, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by prettylady

But if ever one of you playmate catch one of these std's and then turns out to be preggers, there could be a life in danger after all.
Your friend,
Prettylady

What an excellent point, Prettylady. Lots of dangers to a fetus even if the std is curable for adults.

We'd definitely tell.

Mr. Truelove · 03-04-2007, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by prettylady

Yes, Yes, and hell Yes.

Curable or not, these could lead to other problems. Like perhaps losing alot of great friends if it was ever figured out you were the one who didn't initially tell them.

It maybe nothing to worry about, I'm not doctor so I don't know for sure. But if ever one of you playmate catch one of these std's and then turns out to be preggers, there could be a life in danger after all.
Your friend,
Prettylady

Very good point, even more reinforcement that you should mention it.

Wow, prettylady is smart and she can kick (my) ass.

Mr. Truelove

MoonLightKiss · 03-04-2007, 11:30 PM

Yes, I would definetely tell. I do believe in "do unto others." I would definetely want to know from one of my play partners if they caught something.

Something diplomatic would be the best way to go. Something along the lines of "I just got back from the doctor and thought I would let you know that you might want to make an appointment ASAP. I have _____ and I have been treated. So you might want to do the same."

Most people in the lifestyle are well aware of the risks we take and find it much more forgivable to receive a heads up than to suddenly hear crickets in the background.

daisy girl · 03-05-2007, 10:36 PM

I would absolutely tell!! It is in the unwritten swinger ethics book

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***JustAskJulie*** · 03-06-2007, 01:25 PM

I think I'd have to tell the recent partners. Not because I'd think it was their fault but because it's possible that I might have passed it to them and it would be better for them to get checked sooner rather than later.

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View Poll Results: Would you tell?
Yes, I would tell my recent partners	27	96.43%
No, I'd keep it to myself	1	3.57%
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03-02-2007, 01:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
michelle101 Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 97 Location: massachusetts Status: married couple SLS Name:michelle101	Would you tell? If you caught a curable STD. Say Gonnorea or Clamidia, would you tell previous partners within a month or so, or would you keep it between you and your partner and be treated? To tell the truth, my first thought was that I would not tell anyone, but in reality, if it came down to it, the health of our friends would come before saving face. So I am no saint, and would never judge anyone, but I'm curios, How many of you would tell, and how many would keep there mouths shut? Last edited by michelle101 : 03-02-2007 at 01:58 PM.

03-02-2007, 04:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mr. Truelove Beware,noob giving advice Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,011 Location: Fort Wayne Status: Married Male SLS Name:Thetrueloves	Re: Would you tell? This would be a good one for an anonymous poll. Maybe Julie can add one. As for me. I would most certainly tell. And I would truly hope someone would tell me all the same. We all have to do our part to keep each other safe in this lifestyle. Mr. Truelove __________________ The most fun I can never tell anyone about!

03-02-2007, 10:45 PM	#6 (permalink)
flkeyscouple Sarah&Roger's Female Half Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,160 Location: FL Status: couple-female half SLS Name:floridakeyscouple	Re: Would you tell? I agree - we would tell, no doubt about it. And also in a diplomatic way - no blame, just fact. I would hope that anyone (and everyone) would do the same - how can a person NOT tell when the information is so important?? Sarah __________________ Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving. - Albert Einstein

03-02-2007, 11:07 PM	#7 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 859 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: Would you tell? Have to tell...otherwise we are likely to just get it back from someone who plays with someone who didn't get treated. So if you plan to still play after treatment, well....everyone has to be treated. Right? S __________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

03-03-2007, 09:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
hfire269 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 264 Location: Mount Wolf, PA Status: Married Couple SLS Name:hfire269	Re: Would you tell? We would definitely tell. __________________ Blessed Be!

03-04-2007, 11:03 AM	#10 (permalink)
prettylady anything boys can do.... Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,751 Location: Utopia Status: Trouble maker SLS Name:playtoys69 Blog Entries: 1	Re: Would you tell? Yes, Yes, and hell Yes. Curable or not, these could lead to other problems. Like perhaps losing alot of great friends if it was ever figured out you were the one who didn't initially tell them. It maybe nothing to worry about, I'm not doctor so I don't know for sure. But if ever one of you playmate catch one of these std's and then turns out to be preggers, there could be a life in danger after all. Your friend, Prettylady __________________ To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

03-04-2007, 11:30 PM	#13 (permalink)
MoonLightKiss Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 406 Location: Kentucky Status: Couple	Re: Would you tell? Yes, I would definetely tell. I do believe in "do unto others." I would definetely want to know from one of my play partners if they caught something. Something diplomatic would be the best way to go. Something along the lines of "I just got back from the doctor and thought I would let you know that you might want to make an appointment ASAP. I have _____ and I have been treated. So you might want to do the same." Most people in the lifestyle are well aware of the risks we take and find it much more forgivable to receive a heads up than to suddenly hear crickets in the background. __________________ Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. - Marianne Wilson

03-05-2007, 10:36 PM	#14 (permalink)
daisy girl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 264 Location: Virginia Status: married female SLS Name:porttasters	Re: Would you tell? I would absolutely tell!! It is in the unwritten swinger ethics book .

03-06-2007, 01:25 PM	#15 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,268 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: Would you tell? I think I'd have to tell the recent partners. Not because I'd think it was their fault but because it's possible that I might have passed it to them and it would be better for them to get checked sooner rather than later.

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