Swinging in your Baby making years

[dviousangel]

I had to post on this one. I know some of you saw and posted on the thread I started about the condom breaking. Thank goodness it worked out in my favor and I finally started my period. As for swinging in my child bearing years, my husband and I are relatively young, me being 29 and him being 30. We do have 2 young children but I don't want any more.

We started out with the couple we are still with, as soft swing only. Honestly, I never thought I'd be able to go full swap, though we did do it and it is not for us. Part of that decision is because of the risk of pregnancy, condoms breaking and all that. We have a blast with the couple we are with. We all agree that we don't want to do full swap again. Everything else is open, just not actual intercourse. That is what works best for us.

I know my husband and I were extremely strong before doing this, and now it seems that we've become even closer. We have always had such an honest relationship, able to talk about everything, and now it's like we have realized just how strong we are together. To know that we can do this on a weekend and talk and laugh about it afterward just shows us that we can do anything together.

I will be calling my doctor to try to get fitted for a diaphram though.

[Boudicca]

This is one of the major obstacles for us in joining the lifestyle right now. My partner and I are both 29, soon to be 30, with no kids. We are 90% sure that we don't want kids at all, but not sure enough to undergo elective surgery.
I can't take hormones...I had a severe liver toxicity reaction after 7 years on a light-dose pill, and I was so sick I had to be on disability for a year. The doctors thought I had some type of disease where my immune system was destroying my liver, and that I'd need a liver transplant. It turned out in the end that it was primarily the hormones from the birth control, combined with a few other minor diet and environmental factors that triggered the acute reaction.
Needless to say, I will NEVER be using hormonal birth control ever again. This excludes the pill, the patch, Nuva Ring, Depo Provera, Norplant, and most IUDs. Please be careful, ladies...there are many women out there with severe negative side effects from hormonal birth control, but it's most likely underreported. If you're having weird symptoms, mention it to your doctor.
My partner and I use condoms as our sole method of birth control, but I am not entirely happy with this. I would like to use a diaphragm or cap as a secondary method, but they are unavailable in the country where I now live. I am thinking about cycle tracking, too, but our hours and sleep cycle are irregular, which makes it difficult to chart body temperature to be accurate. I track my cycle loosely now, based on day counting, moods, cervical mucus, etc., but without the basal temperature charts, it's not reliable. So, until I can figure out a better system, it will have to be soft swing only.

[Amanda69]

Sounds like the safest best for you right now.... There are many out there with interactions to various birth control methods that make it very difficult to ensure enough coverage for comfort in the lifestyle.

Hey but soft swinging can be a lot of fun, gets you reved up for action with your own partner....

[Boudicca]

Yeah, I just hope it doesn't become too much of an obstacle for people. We're new to this, and our list of do's and don'ts is kinda complicated at the moment. I'd prefer to be able to be a bit freer and more spontaneous, even if soft swing will probably be our preference for a while anyway just for comfort level.

[jsgal31]

I just have to say I love my Mirena IUD... coming up on its 4 yr anniversary. It's good for five years, and when it "expires" I'll be getting another one. We haven't had to mess with condoms, pills, or patches. It's maintenance-free!

[telly2]

Here we have small children and the swinging doesn't interfere with that, we only swing with people we concider friends, we know thier kids and they know ours. It isn't an issue.

As for BC i am fixed so that negates me from getting preg, and MrT uses a condom at all times while swongong, so lets hope that never breaks, anyway we really don't worry about it.

But this was a great food for thought question

[TerryforSex]

with natural family planning method I have to be carefull. during that time...i say no to parties.

i never tell anyone what i do for birthcontrol as many guys wouldnt want to have sex.

i did have a scare and it was my fault for having sex a few days before my actual time. i forgot that sperm is still alive for 3-5 days and that i will always remember.

all my kids are from husbands, none from swinging.