What is it with couples who require condoms for penetration but not for oral?

[lovn2share]

I am very sorry that you had a bad experiance I think all of us would agree that bad times and STDs are NOT what we are looking for. I for one dont make the men wear condoms ONLY because we only play with 2 couples we have known for a long time and are comfortable not using them with. Mr.lovn and I would not feel comfortable going to a club and not using one at all times but that again is why we dont go.

I feel you have to make the decision that is right for you and your SO. If it is using them then do and if it isnt then dont. I think everyone one here making their own choices and you cant fault them on it.

I too have alot of false securitys like if I lock my doors at night no one will break in.. but the truth is if it is going to happen then its going to happen..but geuss what? I still lock em up every night because it is what makes ME feel comfortable. So let them have their "false securitys" as you put it and you have yours.. I would hope you would never want to make a couple feel uncomfortable because swinging is supposed to be fun for all invovled so if their rules dont match yours then keep on enjoying your wife and hopefully you will find some couples that match your requirments. Good luck on your search.
Mrs. lovn

[LICouple4u]

I'm coming in obviously VERY last to this discussion, so I apologize if I'm bringing up old wounds. I see the OP is no longer posting here (due to their location).

I didn't see our reasoning mentioned, so I thought I would respond...

1. We grew up in the 80s and condoms with sex were basically forced down our throats
2. I am only 30 and even though I have an IUD, there's still that chance and I'm not quite into having another man's baby and testing all the daddies on Maury
3. I really don't like that 'drip factor' afterwards. It's one thing at home, I can go to the bathroom and take care of that. When you are in a club, at a party, in a hotel or at a playmate's house - not always easy.

Yes, we perform oral with no protection. Yes, I have known people who have gotten herpes due to oral sex. We use our eyes and if something looks funny, we do something different.