What is it with couples who require condoms for penetration but not for oral?

[lovn2share]

I am very sorry that you had a bad experiance I think all of us would agree that bad times and STDs are NOT what we are looking for. I for one dont make the men wear condoms ONLY because we only play with 2 couples we have known for a long time and are comfortable not using them with. Mr.lovn and I would not feel comfortable going to a club and not using one at all times but that again is why we dont go.

I feel you have to make the decision that is right for you and your SO. If it is using them then do and if it isnt then dont. I think everyone one here making their own choices and you cant fault them on it.

I too have alot of false securitys like if I lock my doors at night no one will break in.. but the truth is if it is going to happen then its going to happen..but geuss what? I still lock em up every night because it is what makes ME feel comfortable. So let them have their "false securitys" as you put it and you have yours.. I would hope you would never want to make a couple feel uncomfortable because swinging is supposed to be fun for all invovled so if their rules dont match yours then keep on enjoying your wife and hopefully you will find some couples that match your requirments. Good luck on your search.
Mrs. lovn

[LICouple4u]

I'm coming in obviously VERY last to this discussion, so I apologize if I'm bringing up old wounds. I see the OP is no longer posting here (due to their location).

I didn't see our reasoning mentioned, so I thought I would respond...

1. We grew up in the 80s and condoms with sex were basically forced down our throats
2. I am only 30 and even though I have an IUD, there's still that chance and I'm not quite into having another man's baby and testing all the daddies on Maury
3. I really don't like that 'drip factor' afterwards. It's one thing at home, I can go to the bathroom and take care of that. When you are in a club, at a party, in a hotel or at a playmate's house - not always easy.

Yes, we perform oral with no protection. Yes, I have known people who have gotten herpes due to oral sex. We use our eyes and if something looks funny, we do something different.

[StewartP]

This may seem provocative, but I don't mean to flame...

I really don't want to get together with a couple if all I'm going to taste is latex. If I'm approached by people in latex gloves and I have to have a rubber wall in front of my mouth, then let's just not bother.

I presume to avoid this "double standard" kissing is also out?

[Agile_Galaxo]

Originally Posted by lcjtsd

However, it seems that the people here would rather stick their heads in the sand and completely ignore the issue, (Which I feel the lack of voting in the poll illustrates). In other words, if a question or opinion comes up that goes against the majority here (which it seems that this one does) the issue is ignored by the majority, no matter how important the subject.

Your opinion is valid, but you seem very aggressive in promoting it. Swinging does not have to be about oral if you don't want it to be. Many people get off nicely with soft swapping and vanilla play that does not involve unprotected oral sex. Might be slightly more challenging to find these folks, but they certainly exist in number.

You emotionalism seems to indicate a deeper issue unrelated to the topic.

[two4youinswva]

Folks, feel free to continue this thread, but keep in mind that it is over five years old, and the OP hasn't been back on the board in over five years as well.

[StewartP]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Folks, feel free to continue this thread, but keep in mind that it is over five years old, and the OP hasn't been back on the board in over five years as well.

Yep, I saw that, but figured the thread was still twitching...

[Just Passing By]

Ok will own up to seeming double standard.

Always used condoms with others for intercourse. Once met with a cpl that wished to use condoms for oral also. Maybe there is some secret methods that aren't highly unpleasant to give or receive thusly , but it wasn't intuitive , and eluded us. Afterwards we both concluded that should the issue arise again about avoiding unprotected Oral , that hand job/ soup stirring would be preferable.

[cs305b2]

What if the woman is sucking off two guys at once? Is there risk that one guy can pass something on to the guy next to him via her mouth?