Swinging w/Condoms

My wife and I have swung in the past. On both occassions, they were seperately. My question is this: Have any of you ladies swung w/o a condom but told your spouse you did?

The first time I know she used a condom, because I saw it in the trash can. However, a few months after the second swing she seemed very concerned about getting an HIV test? I don't know if it was just because of the "multiple partners" thing or because she felt guilty about not using one? She had told me that she had, but many of the other details were conflicting. After all, the situation was more suitable for no condom - on a beach, after meeting some guy at a club.

Just curious if the ladies think there is a cause for concern?

[just1gurl]

i never use condoms on a beach

dadgum or is it I never use used condoms??

or do I just beach about condoms?

I've had tequilla too many tonites.

any sec people will be along to anwser your question

I'm merely the entertainnment.

would you like to see me jguulgel some balls?

(I wonderif there gonna fuss atme forthis?)


no condom, no sex. stay to ask lots of questions. ok?

lots of no=legdeable people here.

now i shall juggle some fire!



anyone smell smoke?

[just1gurl]

well, sweetie, they'll be here tomorrow!

[sexyshelby]

Personally, as much as I hate them I always use a condom. It's one of our rules. I would be furious if my boyfriend broke this rule and didnt use a condom.

I would also be upset if I thought he was lying to me about it. Lucky for me, he's a bad liar so I can almost always figure it out. Swinging, or any relationship for that matter, is built on trust and communication. If you feel that either of these are lacking between you and your partner, you need to take a step back and reevaluate.

Would I be concerned? Ask her if you should be. Wanting to get tested doesn't always mean that they didn't use a condom. It's about being safe and responsible.

So ask her, and talk to her about why she wants to get tested. Let her know that you feel like she is hiding something from that night and that you want to know what happened.

Just talk it all out. Oh, and get yourself tested too. No harm in it.

~SS

[Spoomonkey]

We don't play seperately, so that hasn't been a concern for us. That isn't the reason we don't play seperately - I trust my wife completely - but it does have that advantage, I suppose.

If she is not completely honest with you, you certainly may have something to be concerned about - condoms being only a small part of the issue.

Spoomonkey

[BiloxiCouple]

We've only been asked a couple of times to use condoms and we have only asked a couple of times for someone else to wear condoms.

It's all in what you are comfortable with.

It's your body, do what is right for you.

[northindycpl]

I think that if you are doubting the condom's useage... after she told you she used one... then there are red flags everywhere and you guys should take a good long look at your relationship before continuing to swing.

There is something there that is making you not belive her.

[keysync]

We only "play" with a couple we've known since High school.
Myself and the other guy have had the BIG V for a couple years now. so we don't use condoms. They suck anyways if I remember correctly.

[JTcamp05]

You do have some issues to work out....I see nothing wrong with playing apart....but we as a couple with children dont feel comfortable "playing" with out a little security...... I suppose under certin yet very strict circumstances we could loosen up.....but if that were to ever happen both of us are smart enough to know what those circumstances are !

[keysync]

Dito Dito Dito
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