G spot trauma? Being open with OB/GYN?

[lindyswing]

This is sort of a follow-up to my recent post about being open with one's gynecologist (don't know how to include the link to the thread). I'm going to start with my main questions, and then give some background/details about why I'm asking them:
-Can intense G-spot play and intercourse that straddles that boundary between vaginal pain and pleasure lead to vaginal/cervical trauma that then leads to bleeding between menstural cycles? (Damn, this is embarrassing to ask even anonymously!)
-If you suspected your new swinging sex life as a possible cause of getting your period early (day 10), would you go ahead and broach the subject with your OB/GYN about having mulitple partners outside your marriage? Or would you still try to get your healthcare without sharing your swinging ways, so that you have no risk of your lifestyle ending up in your not-very-private medical records?

So some background on the intense G-spot play & intercourse:
We're relative newbies to swinging, and as newbies, we have been experiencing new types/levels of sex play with partners who are more sexually experienced and knowledgeable than us. I was with a partner a few weeks ago who did this intensely pleasurable G-spot stimulation that I've never experienced before. It was intensely pleasurable at the time, but it left me feeling sore (like almost bruised) on my labia around my vagina for a week! During 2 previous play sessions, intercourse with a swinging partner also went back and forth between, "Ouch that's my cervix," and "Yes, yes, yes that's my G spot" and I stupidly didn't ever say "Ouch that's my cervix" and instead tried to shift my position and hold my PC muscles tighter. Last month I got my period on day 20, and yesterday, my period started again on day 10, 3 days after my last period ended!

Tomorrow I've got an appointment with my OB/GYN and I'm again debating: how honest should I be? Based on research on the internet and in my health books, it's quite likely that my period problem is being caused by something else (uterine fibroid, polyps, hormone imbalance, etc.). It also seems possible that my pain during intercourse is just a symptom of an underlying problem that's causing the early bleeding AND the painful sex/over-sensitivity to pleasurable G-spot stimulation. But it also seems possible that my wild new sexual experiences and pain during sex are the root cause--for example, one potential cause of bleeding between cycles I've seen on the web is "cervicitis" which can be caused by trauma to the cervix. Another example, STD's may be a factor, and although I recently tested negative for chlamydia, gonnorheia (sp?) and HIV, I'm wondering if there are other STD's that my OB didn't test for because she thinks I'm at lower risk than I am...because she doesn't know I'm having sex with multiple partners. Plus, the ridiculously early periods have coincided with the sometimes-painful play in a very suspicious way.

So at this point, I'm planning to do this based on previous advice from this board:
-ask her if we can have an "off the record" discussion about something that I don't want to have in my medical records
-then tell her I've got beliefs and a lifestyle that, while legal, many people disapprove of, and I'm worried that sharing it with her would affect her opinion of me and thus my healthcare
-then go ahead and tell her about partners outside my marriage as long as she seems cool about keeping it confidential and reassures me that its her responsibility to provide me with the highest care no matter my beliefs

What do you all think of my plan? Do you agree I should do the above, or do you think its unneccessary because its unlikely that the sex caused my problems? Any women out there who can relate to my painful intercourse and G-spot play issues?

[njcoupleready]

Hi Lindy, well, I am a nurse, however, that that really does not make me an expert or anything. You have to do what you feel is right for you. My 2 cents is that it really is not necessary to confide this information in this instance, especially not right off the bat. Perhapes you should wait to see what your doc has to say first. There is no way your doc would know if all the wild bangging is with 50 different people or just 1. The other thing I would take into consideration is how long of a relationship you have had with your gyno. If you've been going to this doc for many years, maybe you trust her w/this info more so than a doc you just started going to. At any rate, until they come to you and say, "hey! the problem is you are screwing too many people, too hard!" I personally would hold off. You can always share this info later if you feel you should, but once its out there you can not take it back.
~ T.

[mrs good times]

Dito I had this experience a few years ago with irregular periods and spotting after intercourse. It turned out to be a uteran polyp and once removed things were fine. I'd see what the gyno might think the problem is without knowing your lifestyle first.

[MuttinJeff]

My mother was a public health nurse - we used to call her the sex doctor.
From my experience and others I've heard about in strange/lecturing circumstances...be as honest as possible. Two reasons: 1. Its confidential. 2. It may be important. No you dont have to go in with a big sign "I'M A SWINGER", but to mention you've had multiple sexual partners could be important. i.e. different tests to be performed, different things to take note of, and irregular periods. My gyno is the only person to know how many sexual partners I've had, male-female-past bi-or drug abusers (i've grown alot), what drug and how much I've taken and god forbid how many times the condoms broke. Yah it can be embarrasing, and I've gotten a lecture (or 2 or 3 - hey i said i've grown) but its how I learned smoking and drinking affected the pill, that bv is different from trich, and that 7 hrs of vigerous sex will require explanation and assurance that you are not being abused. (and i couldnt understand why it would be so sore)
The point is, this person knows you in a very unique and important way. And as I'm sure you value the little lady as an oh so important part of the total package, than spread your legs, cover your face and start talking. And by the way, they've heard it before in every variation you could imagine.

[michelle101]

On occation, after rather vigorous sex, I have bled a little. Usually the next day. The first time it happened, I saw the doctor. He ran the normal tests and everything was fine. (Yes, I told him about the vigorous sex. ) I've noticed it will most likely occur the week after my period has stopped. This is the only time that deep penetration may hurt. At other times during the month, deep is a good thing, and very welcome. but in that week after, it's almost like my cervix is lower. Sounds stupid, I know, and I have never done any research on it, but that's how it seems to me. As with you, it coincides with deep penetration.

As for confiding in you doctor, I would. Let him know what he is working with, so he can do what's best for you. I have an appointment next month, and plan on asking for the whole spread of tests, and telling him why, if I need to, to get what I need. If he is an ass about it, I can always get a new doctor. And if nothing else, maybe his reaction would be worth it. Most likely, it's nothing he hasn't heard before.
Mrs.101

[Chicup]

My take on this is really the same as always.

Being a swinger makes you open unfair/untrue judgements by a lot of people who don't understand the lifestyle. The only benifit of having them know you are a swinger is to help lazy doctors remember to check for STD's. As long as you have this aspect covered either by your doctor (they should check reguardless) or other means, I see little use in telling them you are a swinger.

In this case, it doesn't matter if it was swinging sex or just plain old vanilla sex that may have caused the trauma. I would mention you thought it might be sex related, but no more than that.

[just1gurl]

you mention the medical records too, and no they are not private.

I think you'd give insurance companies potential to turn away care in the future. They are concerned about how NOT to pay. The post was a few weeks ago, but I'm throwing this in for that only.

Like some others said, there is no particular reason that any temporary problems from aggressive sex would not necessarily just be from the hubby.

Practicing a high risk life style you should definately be thinking about your own risks to std's and seek attention accordingly and there are those that mention going to public health clinics or those doc-in-a-box on every corner for those. Again, your insurance company is looking for a way to pocket your money and deny you benefits.

signed:

temporary conspiracy theorist!

GOOD HEAVENS!! dont hurt my g-spot