Should we be using condoms for oral sex?

Just had our first experience as a couple.

So far only progress to oral which was uncovered (know couple tho)

Already a "rule" than always covered for penetrative sex. However am not sure that we did the right thing with uncovered oral, and perhaps we should always cover with other couple for oral as well?

How do others deal with this?

[TheGeek]

I want to second this. We also just had our first experience with another couple, and the swapping stayed on the oral side. We brought condoms, and when the other woman was about to start down on me I started to ask "Do you want me to wear a condom?" but by the time I got to the word 'wear' my dick was already touching her tonsils.

I've heard, but not necessarily from reputible sources, that most STDs, even AIDS, don't thrive so well in the acids found in the oral cavity. Is this even partly true, or just a myth?

Also, a slightly different condom issue: I haven't had to use one for years. My wife was always on birth control, and then last year I got a vasectomy so she could quit. My dick is just large enough that putting on a condom isn't very easy, and the other night when I tried, I would get so frustrated trying to get the damn thing on that I'd lose my erection.

Does anyone have any advice, beyond the obvious 'practice practice practice' on how to get used to wearing condoms again? Also, are there 'large' condoms, and if so, what size guys are they made for? (I'm about 8" long, 2" thick)

Thanks in advance for your comments!

--J. the Geek

[BiDrywallChick]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Just had our first experience as a couple.

So far only progress to oral which was uncovered (know couple tho)

Already a "rule" than always covered for penetrative sex. However am not sure that we did the right thing with uncovered oral, and perhaps we should always cover with other couple for oral as well?

How do others deal with this?

well, for us its usually my choice ( or the other persons). I do not like the taste of condoms, even the flavorsed ones. So, for us its uncovered unless the other person wants to cover up per say. I will add that I have known all my partners very well before having oral with them, so I may not be the best advice for ya.

[BiDrywallChick]

Originally Posted by TheGeek

Also, a slightly different condom issue: I haven't had to use one for years. My wife was always on birth control, and then last year I got a vasectomy so she could quit. My dick is just large enough that putting on a condom isn't very easy, and the other night when I tried, I would get so frustrated trying to get the damn thing on that I'd lose my erection.

Does anyone have any advice, beyond the obvious 'practice practice practice' on how to get used to wearing condoms again? Also, are there 'large' condoms, and if so, what size guys are they made for? (I'm about 8" long, 2" thick)

Thanks in advance for your comments!

--J. the Geek

This one I have first hand advice for. My husband is large ( better than 10") so we have had the battle of the condoms here. We have found that the large condoms are a little easier to get on and stay on without breaking. trojan makes some. They come in a black and green package or used to. I havent bought any in awhile. I will say that its easier to get the damn things on without losing the erection if its part of the "foreplay". Almost like a game. My husband likes for his partner to watch him put on the condom and engage him in dirty conversation ( including the condom in it). Not only does it help keep the excitement up, it also helps ( in my experience) for the other person to "relax" as well. Fair warning though, the large condoms are still just as prone to tearing as the regular ones and are usually rolled up backards in the packaging ( according to my hubby). As much as you hate to hear it... practice, practice practice until you are comfortable with them

[Atilla]

I usually like to put the condom on my manly partner myself. It's just all part of the foreplay. However, we've never covered up for oral which brings up another topic.

Friends of ours insist on condoms and that's all fine. She was blowing my hubby and he came in her mouth and she swallowed. I am fine with that, we are D&D free but I thought to myself that it is kind of defeating the purpose of condoms, isn't it. If she was willing to ingest his cum, then she could take it down below too, couldn't she? The implications are the same, aren't they?

[SBcpl]

Originally Posted by Atilla

If she was willing to ingest his cum, then she could take it down below too, couldn't she? The implications are the same, aren't they?

No, oral sex is less risky than penetrative sex. For example, check out this link.

A couple of excerpts from that page...

... Herpes is probably the biggest STD risk during oral sex. ...

... HIV can be passed through unprotected oral sex, but it is more likely to be passed during unprotected penetrative sex. The infected semen/precum or vaginal fluid must enter the body through a cut or sore in the mouth or esophagus. The virus is unlikely to be passed from a person’s mouth to another person’s genitals. ...

... the mouth is the place most likely to contract something like HIV, so the conventional wisdom is, “swallow or spit, just don’t let it sit.” ...

... HPV can be passed during oral sex, but it is rare. ...

~ B ~

[ncdragonpair]

I think I either missed something in this thread or it wasn't mentioned, but what about dental dam usage? I didn't see any female on female, oral to genital contact mentioned by anyone in response. We have a Lesbian friend who told us that she used saran wrap, but I don't know how well that works. I would get frustrated with trying to keep the area wet. She had a roomate that had HPV she was always considering bedding, but she was still wary. I don't know what she ended up doing. We never got to visit her, since she's several states away. Are Lesbians less prone to disease according to stats? I'm just curious, wondering about dental dams in general as well.

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