Oral precautions.

06-14-2002, 06:53 PM

Ding and I are planning on visiting our second party in a couple weeks. We have decided that if the opportunity presents it'self we are ready for oral sex with others.

You may recall that we are a bit STD-phobic. Any precautions we should discuss? The idea of giving a BJ to a guy wearing a condom is a bit distasteful to ding. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" /> Is it really necessary?

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-18-2002, 12:33 PM

The risks for her are greater than the risks of you giving oral to a woman without any protection, and even greater still if he comes in her mouth.

I would say the majority of people don't use protection during oral sex. However, if it's something you feel uncomfortable about then you should go with what feels right to you. If you feel safer using protection then do. There are some great flavored condoms on the market to help you along.

06-18-2002, 07:06 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JustAskJulie:
 There are some great flavored condoms on the market to help you along.<hr /></blockquote>Thanks Julie! I have an assortment on order right now. :p They should be her in plenty of time for our next party, July 6th.

BedroomAccess · 07-07-2002, 05:07 PM

I'm gonna have to disagree with Julie. We are also STD-phobic and "if it feels right" doesn't really do it for us if we have a change of contracting any ( and especially deadly ) STDs.

Playing at a swing club is the most risky thing you can do, since most people who attend parties like that are not very much concerned with STDs as is.

However, if you ARE going then you can use flavored condoms, so it tastes good for a woman, but there is pretty much nothing you can do about giving oral to a woman. The only thing is that the risk of contracting an STD from a woman to a man is very very small.

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-07-2002, 07:53 PM

My point with what I was saying was not "if it feels right do it" but rather than whether or not to use condoms for oral sex is a choice they have to make. Very few swingers do use condoms for oral sex, but if a couple feels that they should, then they should regardless of what others do.

Quin · 07-12-2002, 01:32 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />I'm gonna have to disagree with Julie. We are also STD-phobic and "if it feels right" doesn't really do it for us if we have a change of contracting any ( and especially deadly ) STDs.
<hr /></blockquote>ANYTIME you have sex you run the chanCe of contracting any STD. PERIOD. The only 100% foolproof way to avoid this is abstinence.

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Playing at a swing club is the most risky thing you can do, since most people who attend parties like that are not very much concerned with STDs as is.
<hr /></blockquote>This statement is false. MOST people who do go to swing clubs ARE very concerned about STDs and the transmission of such. Contrary to popular belief, swing clubs are NOT a hot bed for STDs. Both swing club owners and those that patronize (whether it be on occasionally or frequently) swing clubs are concerned. While I am aware that sometimes a person will try to get by without using any form of protection (which should send up a red flag to anyone), on the whole, swing club owners and swingers are very responsible when it comes to providing a disease-free area/atmosphere.

<blockquote>quote:<hr /> However, if you ARE going then you can use flavored condoms, so it tastes good for a woman, but there is pretty much nothing you can do about giving oral to a woman. The only thing is that the risk of contracting an STD from a woman to a man is very very small. <hr /></blockquote>There is pretty much something one can do when giving oral to a woman....Saran Wrap or Plastic Wrap. While not 100% effective or not even 95% effective such as condoms are, it's still a functional barrier between the genitalia and the mouth. I have also heard that one can purchase latex sheaths (not condoms) that are shaped to cover a woman's genitalia...haven't seen them myself, only heard from a few friends about them. Finally you state something that is the truth, I've italicized above, but while the chances are small...that doesn't negate the fact that the opportunity for transmission is still there.

VOTE FOR JULIE!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" />

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ciscosv · 07-12-2002, 02:02 PM

"I have also heard that one can
purchase latex sheaths (not condoms) that are shaped to cover a woman's genitalia...haven't
seen them myself, only heard from a few friends about them."

Those are called dental dams. Pretty cool looking when you put it over your mouth and stick your tongue out. I am sure they are flavored as well.

Quin · 07-12-2002, 11:40 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr /> Those are called dental dams. Pretty cool looking when you put it over your mouth and stick your tongue out. I am sure they are flavored as well.

<hr /></blockquote>Thanks, ciscosv. I called my friend, with whom I was just talking to the other day about this, and asked her if it was dental dams as she couldn't remember the name of them either and well, it was. She got a little bit more excited about knowing the correct name than I think she should have but with her it doesn't take a whole lot to get her going. Like her husband says...I can say fuck when I cut my finger and she'll respond by saying 'sounds good to me' and pulling her panties down, meanwhile he bleeds to death. <img border="0" alt="[ROFL]" title="" src="graemlins/rofl.gif" />

VOTE FOR JULIE!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" />

Quin
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06-14-2002, 06:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
Len & Ding Guest Posts: n/a	Oral precautions. Ding and I are planning on visiting our second party in a couple weeks. We have decided that if the opportunity presents it'self we are ready for oral sex with others. You may recall that we are a bit STD-phobic. Any precautions we should discuss? The idea of giving a BJ to a guy wearing a condom is a bit distasteful to ding. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" /> Is it really necessary?
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06-18-2002, 12:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	The risks for her are greater than the risks of you giving oral to a woman without any protection, and even greater still if he comes in her mouth. I would say the majority of people don't use protection during oral sex. However, if it's something you feel uncomfortable about then you should go with what feels right to you. If you feel safer using protection then do. There are some great flavored condoms on the market to help you along.
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06-18-2002, 07:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
Len & Ding Guest Posts: n/a	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by JustAskJulie: <strong> There are some great flavored condoms on the market to help you along.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Thanks Julie! I have an assortment on order right now. :p They should be her in plenty of time for our next party, July 6th.
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07-07-2002, 07:53 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	My point with what I was saying was not "if it feels right do it" but rather than whether or not to use condoms for oral sex is a choice they have to make. Very few swingers do use condoms for oral sex, but if a couple feels that they should, then they should regardless of what others do.
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07-07-2002, 05:07 PM	#4 (permalink)
BedroomAccess Active Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 24 Location: CA	I'm gonna have to disagree with Julie. We are also STD-phobic and "if it feels right" doesn't really do it for us if we have a change of contracting any ( and especially deadly ) STDs. Playing at a swing club is the most risky thing you can do, since most people who attend parties like that are not very much concerned with STDs as is. However, if you ARE going then you can use flavored condoms, so it tastes good for a woman, but there is pretty much nothing you can do about giving oral to a woman. The only thing is that the risk of contracting an STD from a woman to a man is very very small.

07-12-2002, 01:32 PM	#6 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">I'm gonna have to disagree with Julie. We are also STD-phobic and "if it feels right" doesn't really do it for us if we have a change of contracting any ( and especially deadly ) STDs. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">ANYTIME you have sex you run the chanCe of contracting any STD. PERIOD. The only 100% foolproof way to avoid this is abstinence. </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Playing at a swing club is the most risky thing you can do, since most people who attend parties like that are not very much concerned with STDs as is. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">This statement is false. MOST people who do go to swing clubs ARE very concerned about STDs and the transmission of such. Contrary to popular belief, swing clubs are NOT a hot bed for STDs. Both swing club owners and those that patronize (whether it be on occasionally or frequently) swing clubs are concerned. While I am aware that sometimes a person will try to get by without using any form of protection (which should send up a red flag to anyone), on the whole, swing club owners and swingers are very responsible when it comes to providing a disease-free area/atmosphere. </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif"> However, if you ARE going then you can use flavored condoms, so it tastes good for a woman, but there is pretty much nothing you can do about giving oral to a woman. The only thing is that the risk of contracting an STD from a woman to a man is very very small. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">There is pretty much something one can do when giving oral to a woman....Saran Wrap or Plastic Wrap. While not 100% effective or not even 95% effective such as condoms are, it's still a functional barrier between the genitalia and the mouth. I have also heard that one can purchase latex sheaths (not condoms) that are shaped to cover a woman's genitalia...haven't seen them myself, only heard from a few friends about them. Finally you state something that is the truth, I've italicized above, but while the chances are small...that doesn't negate the fact that the opportunity for transmission is still there. VOTE FOR JULIE!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" />
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07-12-2002, 02:02 PM	#7 (permalink)
ciscosv Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 755 Location: Redford, Michigan Status: Married Couple	"I have also heard that one can purchase latex sheaths (not condoms) that are shaped to cover a woman's genitalia...haven't seen them myself, only heard from a few friends about them." Those are called dental dams. Pretty cool looking when you put it over your mouth and stick your tongue out. I am sure they are flavored as well.
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07-12-2002, 11:40 PM	#8 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif"> Those are called dental dams. Pretty cool looking when you put it over your mouth and stick your tongue out. I am sure they are flavored as well. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Thanks, ciscosv. I called my friend, with whom I was just talking to the other day about this, and asked her if it was dental dams as she couldn't remember the name of them either and well, it was. She got a little bit more excited about knowing the correct name than I think she should have but with her it doesn't take a whole lot to get her going. Like her husband says...I can say fuck when I cut my finger and she'll respond by saying 'sounds good to me' and pulling her panties down, meanwhile he bleeds to death. <img border="0" alt="[ROFL]" title="" src="graemlins/rofl.gif" /> VOTE FOR JULIE!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" />
	__________________ One thing about me is that I'm consistant in my behavior, my thoughts, and my posting. I don't sell out or change for any reason outside of my own self wanting to. What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that.

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