Had sex without a condom now I'm worried

05-16-2001, 03:14 PM

and I could have ruined my life. Just as we are about to have sex I stop and said I'm getting a condom. We had talked previously about how condoms make her sore the day after. This should of threw me before had but in the heat of the moment her saying just stick it in got to me and I did. Now I am EXTREMELY worried. And advice?

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-16-2001, 04:53 PM

I think you are right in that it should have thrown you beforehand.. it was obvious that she didn't intend to use a condom based on her remarks and you should have made it clear that you did. Unfortunately it's too late for that admonition.

We all do things in the heat of the moment that sometimes we end up regretting. Hopefully, you'll be lucky and this will only serve as a lesson to you to make sure the intent is more clear up front.

As for what might have happened... you'll pretty much have to wait and see. I don't know what the times are on most STD's but I know that with AIDS it can be up to or more than 6 months before you test positive (if you have contracted it). Unfortunately, with a lot of STD's guys can carry the std and never know they have it, never show any symptoms, etc.. but they can still pass it on to others.

I think the best/only thing you can do at this point to put your mind somewhat at ease to talk openly with her/them and ask them up front if they have any diseases that they know of. Obviously if they don't know they have it they can't tell you. But being open with them.. might help put your mind at ease.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

LIZA · 05-17-2001, 02:33 AM

well an STD is a possibilty . It IS difficult for a man to catch AIDS from 1 time intercourse with a woman, unless you have open sores on your penis.

18 years of child support payments is another possibilty to ponder, while you are thinking about it!

LIZA · 05-17-2001, 02:35 AM

p.s. condoms make me sore as hell too.....I literally can hardly stand to sit, pee, etc for days after, forget more sex for at least a week! It IS a valid allergy women can have but for me I stick to oral sex rather than go thru that pain or risk an STD or pregnancy

05-17-2001, 08:12 AM

The possibilities of getting STD's from oral sex is still there! Don't kid yourself and think that it's not, or that just because the percentage rate is low. The bottom line is, you can STILL get STD's while having UNprotected sex and/or oral sex, PERIOD!

The same goes for AIDS....AIDS is AIDS, same as STD's is STD's! No matter how you look at it, percentages or no percentages! Like pregnancy, all it takes (for some), is to have intercourse once, and you can STILL get pregnant/STD's/AIDS.

As for condoms, there are a lot of women that are highly allergic to them, as well as other means of birth controls, etc. Maybe a good lubricant along with the brand of condoms one uses, may help lesson any irritations?

We can never be too safe, when it cums to sex nowadays. Either way, check with both your doctors, and hope for the best!

GOOD LUCK & STAY SAFE!
Wife of CyberMWCouple

Stratecpl · 05-17-2001, 12:38 PM

Lamb skin....lambskin condoms...less chance of allergic reaction..less irritation...

baaaa...

Connie... feeling sheepish today..hahaha

OH! Today is Ron's Birthday! Happy Birthday to my hardbodied, hunky, God of studliness!

ummm tonight, tonight..ohhhh yeah..

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-17-2001, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Stratecpl:
Lamb skin....lambskin condoms...less chance of allergic reaction..less irritation...

Happy Birthday Ron,
I'm allergic to certain types of condoms (I think it's Trojans with spermicide or something.. I just avoid all Trojans to avoid the pain), so I definately know how it feels.

Lambskin is definately an option.. they are pretty much allergy free and better than saran wrap...lol.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

anandjeff2 · 05-17-2001, 03:34 PM

The problem with Lambskin is the fact they cannot protect from STD's.As a natural source product they can/will allow viruses to shed thru the condom.There are the new polyurethane condoms which will protect against STD's. If it is just pregnancy you are worried about with your partner, Lambskin is fine as they allow more sensitivity to the male while using them. This is especially helpful if the man has a problem feeling with a regular latex condom.(yes it can happen despite some protests!) There are also the female condoms as well! Equality in all things..VBG..keep in mind as well the high expense of Lambskin as oppoesed to regular condomd..the polyurethane ones are more expensive than latex but not as expensive as Lambskin.

An

05-17-2001, 10:25 PM

HAPPY BIRTHDAY RON!

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05-16-2001, 03:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
SBMnewtothis Posts: n/a	Had sex without a condom now I'm worried and I could have ruined my life. Just as we are about to have sex I stop and said I'm getting a condom. We had talked previously about how condoms make her sore the day after. This should of threw me before had but in the heat of the moment her saying just stick it in got to me and I did. Now I am EXTREMELY worried. And advice?

05-16-2001, 04:53 PM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,268 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	I think you are right in that it should have thrown you beforehand.. it was obvious that she didn't intend to use a condom based on her remarks and you should have made it clear that you did. Unfortunately it's too late for that admonition. We all do things in the heat of the moment that sometimes we end up regretting. Hopefully, you'll be lucky and this will only serve as a lesson to you to make sure the intent is more clear up front. As for what might have happened... you'll pretty much have to wait and see. I don't know what the times are on most STD's but I know that with AIDS it can be up to or more than 6 months before you test positive (if you have contracted it). Unfortunately, with a lot of STD's guys can carry the std and never know they have it, never show any symptoms, etc.. but they can still pass it on to others. I think the best/only thing you can do at this point to put your mind somewhat at ease to talk openly with her/them and ask them up front if they have any diseases that they know of. Obviously if they don't know they have it they can't tell you. But being open with them.. might help put your mind at ease. Julie http://www.swingersboard.com __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

05-17-2001, 12:38 PM	#6 (permalink)
Stratecpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2000 Posts: 456 Location: TN, USA	Lamb skin....lambskin condoms...less chance of allergic reaction..less irritation... baaaa... Connie... feeling sheepish today..hahaha OH! Today is Ron's Birthday! Happy Birthday to my hardbodied, hunky, God of studliness! ummm tonight, tonight..ohhhh yeah.. __________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history"

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05-17-2001, 02:33 AM	#3 (permalink)
LIZA Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 426 Location: ORANGE COUNTY, CA Status: Married Fem.	well an STD is a possibilty . It IS difficult for a man to catch AIDS from 1 time intercourse with a woman, unless you have open sores on your penis. 18 years of child support payments is another possibilty to ponder, while you are thinking about it!

05-17-2001, 02:35 AM	#4 (permalink)
LIZA Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 426 Location: ORANGE COUNTY, CA Status: Married Fem.	p.s. condoms make me sore as hell too.....I literally can hardly stand to sit, pee, etc for days after, forget more sex for at least a week! It IS a valid allergy women can have but for me I stick to oral sex rather than go thru that pain or risk an STD or pregnancy

05-17-2001, 08:12 AM	#5 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	The possibilities of getting STD's from oral sex is still there! Don't kid yourself and think that it's not, or that just because the percentage rate is low. The bottom line is, you can STILL get STD's while having UNprotected sex and/or oral sex, PERIOD! The same goes for AIDS....AIDS is AIDS, same as STD's is STD's! No matter how you look at it, percentages or no percentages! Like pregnancy, all it takes (for some), is to have intercourse once, and you can STILL get pregnant/STD's/AIDS. As for condoms, there are a lot of women that are highly allergic to them, as well as other means of birth controls, etc. Maybe a good lubricant along with the brand of condoms one uses, may help lesson any irritations? We can never be too safe, when it cums to sex nowadays. Either way, check with both your doctors, and hope for the best! GOOD LUCK & STAY SAFE! Wife of CyberMWCouple

05-17-2001, 03:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
anandjeff2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 121 Location: Western NY,USA	The problem with Lambskin is the fact they cannot protect from STD's.As a natural source product they can/will allow viruses to shed thru the condom.There are the new polyurethane condoms which will protect against STD's. If it is just pregnancy you are worried about with your partner, Lambskin is fine as they allow more sensitivity to the male while using them. This is especially helpful if the man has a problem feeling with a regular latex condom.(yes it can happen despite some protests!) There are also the female condoms as well! Equality in all things..VBG..keep in mind as well the high expense of Lambskin as oppoesed to regular condomd..the polyurethane ones are more expensive than latex but not as expensive as Lambskin. An

05-17-2001, 10:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	HAPPY BIRTHDAY RON!

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