How can we swing and avoid STDs?

[Funlovincouple]

As much as I'd like to try this, I am VERY WARY OF STDS. My brother, who has been monogamus for nearly 20 years has Hep-C. He probably got it from a TATTOO parlor. If anyone thinks that they "know" that a person or couple is free from STDS, they are deluding themselves. How can we do this and remain safe? I'm not sure it is possible and will detract from the experience. How do we confidently engage in sex with others so that it is enjoyable?

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J&M testing the water...

Ask them. Be polite about it, but just tell them that this is an issue you feel strongly about, and you need to know.

You may go as far as to get yourself tested, and require testing for any of your partners.
We have been tested and we are clean, and intend to stay that way.

Husband of CyberMWCouple

As we mention here about how important communication is, amoung trust & honesty, and all that other good stuff in any relationship, it's also important to know if your swinging partners are clean of STD's!

When it cums to having sex outside of your marriage/relationship, you not only want to know what their likes & dislikes are, and what their fantasies are, etc....But also, if they're STD free, and visa-versa. It's all part of communicating with your playmates, and I think this is an important issue that needs to be brought up when each of us are "getting to know" one another!


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[DJ9lives]

Well keep in mind Hepetitis C is not an STD. You can get it anywhere. But it is true some tend to delude themselves about who is clean and who isnt. One just never knows. And that is the danger. And unfortunatly there are very few who KNOW they have something communicable and remove themselves from the circle. Which is very sad. =o(

Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
As we mention here about how important communication is, amoung trust & honesty, and all that other good stuff in any relationship, it's also important to know if your swinging partners are clean of STD's!

When it cums to having sex outside of your marriage/relationship, you not only want to know what their likes & dislikes are, and what their fantasies are, etc....But also, if they're STD free, and visa-versa. It's all part of communicating with your playmates, and I think this is an important issue that needs to be brought up when each of us are "getting to know" one another!


Wife of CyberMWCouple

Originally posted by DJ9lives:
Well keep in mind Hepetitis C is not an STD. You can get it anywhere.....

I didn't think I've said, that it IS an STD. I know for a fact, that it's NOT an STD. I have the Hepetitis anti-bodies, therefore I can't get Hepetitis (according to my doctor, who I let handle the technical details).

I THOUGHT we were just talking about STD's in general, besides being able to pass on anything else that a "playmate" has....

But you're right, one NEVER knows who has what! I say, just be up front and communicate with whatever is on your mind, and just find out by simply "asking" them. And if you still want/need more information or "proof", then ask for that too! This may sound harsh, but when it cums down to it, how much risk are you willing to take?

Our doctor reassured us, if we need it in writing, they'll be more than happy to provide that information for us, since it IS in medical our records.


Wife of CyberMWCouple