Condoms and sexual satisfaction

There has been much discussion here regarding safe sex and having the male cover his penis with a condom if he is going to stick it into his partner's vagina for intercourse.We are curious to know if the female gets a more intense orgasm if the male ejaculates his semen in her vagina when he climaxes.

We are four couples who know each other very well and swing regularly. When we do swing in our own small group and swap partners for sexual intercourse we normally do not have the male use a condom. The ladies and the men feel that use of condom deprives both partners the pleasure that comes from intimate contact of the the penis with the female vaginal walls. Men think it is like taking shower in a raincoat because one can't feel the warmth and moisture of the female canal. Likewise, the ladies say they feel a more intense orgasm with bare penis and when the hot semen hits the vaginal walls as the man ejaculates inside her vagina. When we do have intercourse with a couple we do not know well we, of course, play it safe and insisit on man covering his penis before entry into the lady's vagina. So the ladies and men have a sort of A/B (condom/no condom) pleasure comparison.

We would love to get kind of a poll (however unscientific) from other swingers, both male and female regarding this issue. If safety was guaranteed without protection, which would you prefer-penis covered with condom or direct skin-on-skin penile vaginal intercourse? Does bare intercourse give you greater pleasure? Does the lady have another orgasm as the jet of hot seminal fluid hits her vaginal walls?

Thanks for your input.

N&A

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[LIZA]

Personally I have had nothing but bad experiences with condoms......extreme irritation, accidents, etc. This was before I was married and hopefully will never have to use a condom again! We find it more enjoyable not to have intercourse with others, and less stress and worry. It would not be worth it to me to have intercourse with any other man because that would mean using a condom and I HATE CONDOMS!

But I do not think for women the "hot semen hitting the vaginal wall" is going to push them over the top....You really don't feel it "hitting" anything and it is no "hotter" than the inside of the human (female) body to begin with.
I think if women do not like sex with condoms it is probably because like me they are allergic or irritated by latex and the whole experience is just NOT enjoyable

Originally posted by neal7310:
We are four couples who know each other very well and swing regularly. When we do swing in our own small group and swap partners for sexual intercourse we normally do not have the male use a condom.

Safe sex IS the most important, and we responsible swingers should set an example. Like you, we are lucky enough to have long standing friends (two couples, one we are with frequently, one less so) that we swing with, so condoms are not necessary because of our trust.

Zac and Fay (swing with Mal & Bev, and Shane & Rose)

[JustAskJulie]

I will share my oddball view here.... I actually enjoy the feel of a condom.. maybe it's a throwback to when I was younger, I don't know.. but I love the feeling when the tip of the condom hits my pussy.

As for guys coming inside of me, I hate that, I don't even like it when my husband comes inside of me and I usually have him pull out and come on me or in my mouth, so my answer would be no... feeling my partner come does not send me over the edge (ok, sometimes when I'm right on the brink, I have him stay in because if he pulled out I would lose mine but only because I am that close).

I've only had 1 guy in the entire time we've been swinging complain about condoms...

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Well put Liza and Pcouple. Julie you are in minority . Hope we could get more couples to respond so we have a good vaild statistical sample.

As far as my wife goes, she has a very sensitive vagina and is prone to irritation from a condom. Therefore she hates condoms. Even without she needs some lubrication like KY or Astroglide spread in her vagina and also on the tip of the penis. That is why we generally limit actual fucking to the four couples.Two of four ladies seem to have enough natural lubrication and seem not to mind a penis with condom even during a hard fuck.

My personal preference is for intercourse without condom. I want my penis to feel the warmth and moisture of the female vagina along its entie length during intercourse. Everyone to his own, I guess.

On a side note, can you ladies tell whose penis is in your vagina (assuming you two have fucked before)if the guy slid his penis into your vagina, with your eyes closed? I suspect each man's penis has a different feel to the vagina depending upon his size-length and thickness.

Neal

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[LIZA]

You're funny Neal.................No, if I had sex with an old boyfriend while blindfolded, I would not have a fucking clue!

They all feel pretty much the same...there are only VERY rare instances of a lot of variety in size and thickness

[JustAskJulie]

I couldn't identify my own hubby's penis out of a line up if they were all sticking them in my pussy. I can usually tell a differnce in size between really small or really large.. my hubby is pretty average (and just right if you ask me).

I would be able to tell it was him more likely by the way he fucks than by the feel of his cock.

Could you tell who's pussy you were in just by the feel of it?

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[TNT]

LOL, yes I could tell if it was my husband's penis in my pussy or another mans..my husband has a frenum piercing and I can definitely feel it when he is inside of me. I have yet to meet another man with one also.

As far as condom versus no condom, well, it really dosen't feel any different to me. My husband is the ONLY man that enters me without a condom on and even when we did use them in our early years of marriage, I still could not really tell the difference.

It is not so much the feel of the ejaculation that I like when a man cums, (only on rare occasions have I actually felt my husband's ejaculation )but the feel of their hips as they give those last few thrusts.

Julie, at a party once, wives were blindfolded in turn and had to tell by fondling the cocks which was hubby. My wife got it right! Her theory was that the other men's cocks would get much harder than mine at her touch due to being fondled by not the wife! According to her, whenever it was any woman's turn, the other men got harder at her touch than her own hubby. I don't know it that's a joke.

By the way, it was a big pleasure getting my cock fondled by about 9 women!

Pcouple, I can suggest a more erotic version of this game. The wives are blindfolded, with thighs spread eagle and each man in turn slides his penis in her vagina for 10 to 15 seconds. Have the ladies tell which is her hubby's penis

neal

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[CuteCouple]

I don't really feel the difference between having sex with or without a condom. I especially like studded condoms for extra fun. My partner is the only one I have sex with without condoms for safe sex reasons. As for ejaculation, I don't feel it's the cum that's the extra turn on, it's how the man gets wild just before and during it.

As for being able to pick my bf's penis out of a lineup, maybe not by touch of the hand but inside me yes... for sure.

[JIM & Jodi]

As far as the question of condoms goes, it is an uncomfortable necessity with new partners. On the other hand, it's kind of a nice thing to let your parter know, that yes I will risk dying by fucking you because I like you that much. Condoms suck, and something is gonna kill you, I'd rather dfie of A.I.D.S. as a happy swinger at 50 than at 80 in a monestary somewhere!

[pelagic argosy]

The turn on for me is not being in control of whether the guy comes in me or not. I let them decide what they want to do. I'll tell them they can do what they want if they ask, but most guys never even ask, and probably wouldn't listen if I told them to use one. You might as well forget using condoms during a gang-bang, no one is really interested in what the woman wants during gang-bangs.

[Us]

kind funny how this topic popped up again! I am new to this message board...have been lurking for a while. Hello to all!

Julie says she enjoys the feeling of a condom...call me crazy..just realized I did too! This past weekend hubby and I used a condom (went off the pill and it was fertile time) I could not believe how good it did feel!! We use condoms with other couples and never noticed...but dont know what the men feel like without one! Of course the hubby would rather have me natural....but he did get a kick out of it!!
I do also enjoy the feeling of him cumming inside of me...dont always feel it but do get lucky once in a while.
So I guess we will use a condom once in a while just for kicks and see if it feels great again!!
Thanks Julie...showed my huby your post...now he does not think I am THAT crazy!!
As for being able to tell what penis was in me...only if I could feel his gut!! RLMAO :p