To cum or not to cum?...inside, that is!

[sensuality]

This is kind of a spin off of the thread about condoms for intercourse, but not for oral.
Ladies: When playing with someone other than your SO, if you do not use a condom for intercourse, do you let the guy cum inside of you or make him pull out?
And, if you use a condom,does he stay inside or does he have to pull out?
And,Gentlemen:
How do you feel about these questions?

I prefer the guy not cum inside of me,I'd prefer he pulled out.
However, I am noticing some people think differently about this topic.So,I thought it would be interesting to strike up a conversation about it

[onenosbest]

It depends on the couple we are with.

[akamgaxoxo]

Personally we always use condoms for sex....not for oral. Go figure right. I just don't think I would find it satisfying to do oral with a condom on. I do not make our play friend pull out when he cums since he has a condom on I do feel alot safer with that, plus I like to feel and know that he has cum...maybe I am a weirdo?

[sensuality]

Of course you're not a weirdo We all have our preferences I was just curious to see how others feel about this subject.I go back and forth about wearing a condom for oral,because of the reality that the AIDS virus is in pre-cum...but as for intercourse,I absolutely want them wearing a condom and to pull out,because I'm not on any kind of birth control{Can't take hormones, yada yada!!}

[Alura]

We do our safe sex evaluations early in the friendship. If we feel there is any possibility of a problem, be it pregnancy or stds, we don't play with that couple. That's probably why we've only played with five couples in 24 years.

In the past, when we've decided a couple was within our "safety envelope" we've played with no restrictions.

Mrs. Alura and I were talking about this subject recently. "When I take a guy's cock into my mouth," she said, "I expect that I'll be drinking his cum shortly. He doesn't always cum in my mouth, but I always expect it. Same thing with my pussy. If I didn't feel safe with him, I wouldn't be in bed with him."

And I wouldn't be in bed with his wife.

Again, that's how we've done it in the past. How we approach this issue in the future will depend entirely on the couple we're approaching it with.

Mr. Alura

[hotblonde47]

I'm with the "depends on who you're with" theory. The single male and the couple we play with currently are very, very safe bets. But we've been with other (not a ton, but a couple of times) who have obviously been "out there" and I've insisted on protection. I'd like an explanation of the aids being "pre-cum" not sure what you meant by that. I guess so far I've thought that if I feel its ok to fuck without then its ok to suck without! If its not ok to fuck without then I don't want to suck either. That's not true ... I do want to suck but I won't

[sensuality]

With regards to the AIDS virus being present in pre-cum..{the clear stuff that comes before actual ejaculation}.I have read that the virus is found in that as well as the actual ejaculate.I read it on the CDC website and a few other sites while researching the subject.If you want to read up on this,let me know and I'll try to re-locate the sites for you. I've contemplated going without for oral, but then I read that and that scared the crap head bang out of me,so now I've come up with an idea for oral with a condom...I hope it works...they have that new KY that creates a warming sensation,so I'm thinking...you put a drop or 2 inside the condom before you actually slide it on...and hopefully that will heghten the sensations... We'll have to see

[helen102000]

Being young I have been swinging with the same group for several years and we all enjoy good naked parties. If i trust the guy i will permit him to cum inside me and let me enjoy the warmth of his cum. As far as oral goes I much prefer that he withdraw and let me see it "cumming"

[Greg & Sheryl]

Even when we don’t use a condom, Sheryl doesn’t mind having a guy cum inside her pussy. However, she prefers to have him finish in her mouth.

How does Greg feel about the question? It’s a legitimate one. Whenever Greg is ready to cum, he usually asks the lady where she would like him to do so. Most ladies consent to have him cum inside her pussy, even without a condom. However, he will occasionally request for the lady to finish him with her mouth.

[xxoticangel]

It depends on the couple for us also but we never use condoms for oral. Adam says "Why bother?" and I detest the taste of latex. When we are using condoms I will sometimes finish the other male orally or ask him to pull out and finish on my chest. One the rare occasion we don't use a condom I don't really care but there is something very naughty about having the seed of two different men inside me.

[nandc3536]

I am very surprized by the amount of people that don't use condoms. What is "feel safe", or "they're a safe bet"?

[sensuality]

You and I both
I'm just not willing to compromise my health for a few hours of pleasure.Even my hunny refuses to not wear a condom.Now, I have told him it's fine to receive a blowjob w/o a condom{yeah, I know,how hypocritical :rollseyes }, but afterwards...after ANY contact with someone else, before he touches me, he needs to clean up.Paranoid? Maybe so, but that's the way it goes.

[WesternSwing]

We always use condoms for intercourse. It's just not a matter of cumming inside her, but for us, also just safe sex. And Mrs. WS doesn't want another man's cum in her pussy, that is a bit to intimate for her. And for me. That is something she reserves just for me.

Mr. WS

[hotcplinewa]

I would have to agree with "it depends on who it's with". My first time with another man (with hubby present ofcourse) we used a condom, and we do use condoms with guys I find at partys that want to fuck me right then. Sometimes at really wild parties hubby lets me troll around and get fucked. Then I return with quite a grin and he knows I've been both pleasured and safe. Now we do have a regular couple that we fuck together and I let him cum in my pussy and hubby cums in hers. Then the girls lick our man's cum from each other. I do give oral without a condom but only hubby cums in my mouth. So it really just depends on the situation.

[curious1519]

Think everyone has legitimate points and truthfully I think it depends on the couple(s) and/or single(s) involved. Just have to respect those that you are playing with. I have been with both single females and couples in which some want you to wear a condom, no glove no love, and others prefer no condom.
As it has been mentioned by a few, some woman like the feel of a man cumming in her mouth or pussy. Others want a man to pull out and usually the ground rules have been laid out before playing so you know what to do.
I will say most, if not all of the woman who ask that I wear a condom while inside of her enjoy that I don't pull out and cum in her with the condom on.
Use your own judgement and respect those that you play with.