Are V-Safe Men More "Valuable" In The Lifestyle?

[lovers]

We were recently browsing some of the local swingers websites and noticed that a number of the ads had "V-Safe Male" or the like on them. Is it just us, or is the V-Safe male more "valuable" (for lack of a better term) because of the fact that he is like a Sunkist orange (all juce, no seed)?

What are your opinions?

[frenzb4sex]

I don't think it makes them (well, us, because I am one) more valuable than anything else. Perhaps for those that consider not playing with condoms, this makes a difference because of the lack of ability to procreate.

It would be nice if it was considered more valuable so I can justify having frozen peas as my best friend for 3 days, but I don't think that's the case. I truly think it just comes down to those that have the "upon request" preference for swinging.

Tim

[biblonde]

More valuable to me since hubby is fixed and i am not and ya know condoms can break! I wont say NO to someone if they arent I just feel better when they are. Half the men have been and it is always a question I ask.

just my 2 cents for the day

We dont have it in any of our profiles that I am v-safe because we are condom people most of the time (everyone slips once in a while ).

But when it does come up in conversations with couples when we are meeting for the first time the response is almost always the same "OOOOHH, You cant get me pregnant!! "

And even if they claim they are condom people the woman sometimes will ask me if I HAVE to wear one since I cant get her pregnant.

[knightmare]

I can't imagine that anyone actually likes using condoms. To me they are more of a "necessary evil". To be able to play w/o one is a bonus but I don't think I'd say that V-safe men are more "valuable", just less constrained in one small way.

I guess it really matters why people are using them in the first place. If the goal is to prevent STD's then there is no advantage to being V-safe. For preventing pregnancy, V-safe is certainly a plus, especially in where you can enjoy each other. Pools, hot tubs, showers, anyplace spontaneously, ...

Excuse me for a while

[DuncanDoughnut]

There isn't any Full proof birth control out there!!!!!!

Hubby was (and still is) a V safe, yet he managed to send a fish or two my way and WALLAH!!! The birth of our 4th child.
We are certain it was him since we weren't with another couple at all during that time frame. We were in the process of moving and just did not have time for extra cirricular activities. I must admit it was a shock as it had been 5 years. But our daughter is very special and we are thankful for unexcepted blessings.

Anyhow- the moral of the story --- bring your own protection. Don't count on someone else!!!


Oh, one other spin I just thought of. Just because someone says they are V safe, doen't mean they are. Hell, you don't have any scarring or glowing orange spots that says "He did it. He had surgury." :rollseyes

Well, I guess that goes back to what I oringinally said "BYOP" Bring your own protection.

[frenzb4sex]

Actually, there are marks along side each side of the scrotum (albeit they don't stick out like some Frankenstein nutsack) which you can tell that someone has had it done. There's also just a slight feel along where the vas deferens is tied that is a small "bubble" that you can tell as well. I realize that some people are deceptive in this lifestyle, but I would think there's a one in a thousand that would actually say this and not be legit--why would you even consider putting yourself through that should the woman get pregnant?

Tim

[Spoomonkey]

We are both "surgically safe" - and we see a lot of ads that say "surgically safe" in them. But our main concern isn't getting pregnant. I would take that over HIV anyday.

If we chose to play without condoms (huge - way down the road - kind of if) it wouldn't matter to us.

And, Tim, the bag of peas... Check... How many movies did you manage to watch during your couch time? I put away six movies and a Stephen King novel - then went back to driving a fork lift... Then went back to the couch. And just to set the record straight - a shot in the nuts feels EXACTLY like you would expect.



Spoomonkey

[good times]

I was fixed about 15 years ago, and after reading this thread I had to go check to be sure, but no, their are no visible scars.

Two novels for me and multiple pea bags.

[frenzb4sex]

Spoo-I believe that I watched the entire Godfather trilogy, Shrek, A Fish Called Wanda, Shrek, Goodfellas, Shrek, Rounders, and Shrek. We have a two year old so I had to at least endure the Green Ogre 5 times. My wife hasn't cooked peas since.

;p

Tim

[HotMoCpl]

I have been V-safe for nearly 30 years. WHENEVER I tell a woman that I have no seed, they go ape shit crazy in the bedroom....or where ever, and they always want you back for more.

[graygo98]

We can't really say a "V-Safe" man is "more valuable" ... for some people we suppose its one less thing to worry about and that can be a good thing.
Just thought I would weigh in on all of the "frozen peas" stories with my own experience. It might help someone considering a vasectomy.

My best friend had a vasectomy years ago. It was perfomed by a small-town GP in Northern Ontario. If anything, the frozen peas stories in this thread understate the ordeal he went through. To this day he has periodic "blowouts" which cause intense pain and swelling and send him back to the freezer.

Three years ago (with very sweaty palms!!!) I booked in for a procedure at one of Canada's largest and most respected teaching hospitals. The urologist who performed the procedure averages about 90 a week. He used the "scalpel-less" techique where one small incision (about a quarter inch long) is made in your scrotum at the base of the penis. All the work is done through that hole. At the end, no stiches, just a bit of tape. The result: I took one pain killer as a precaution in case it started to hurt, but it never did. We went to a party that night, and just to see if things still worked had sex the next day. (OK, there was a bit of "show off" going on as well) Four days later I resumed running. And, never a problem since.

The point of this long post: it doesn't have to be an ordeal. Find someone who does lots of V's, not somenone who does one once in a blue moon. Make sure that she/he uses the most modern techniques. Do some research. Travel if you have to. And, enjoy! For us at least it has made sex even more fun, more spontaneous.