Are we going to find others who like soft swap too?

alabamafuntonig · 06-27-2003, 06:44 PM

Ok just answered a reply to a add on sls. The lady asked if we full swap I said we are into soft swap at the moment. She went on this diatribe on if we are into swinging we will have to do full swap sometime or the other. Well needless to say I told her good bye.

Is this true. We have done full swap before but we rather do soft swap and playful things.
We just like the soft stuff ! are we going to find others like us.

mopek · 06-27-2003, 06:57 PM

Don't listen to her...LOL ...

You don't have to do anything you don't want to....good job in telling her good-bye.

Swinging means anything from just watching, to slight touching to full orgy. Her definition of swinging was actually only a narrow slice of what it really is.... so yes, you guys are swingers

mopek

thump29 · 06-27-2003, 07:38 PM

Im glad you told her goodbye. She is the one that is wrong. If you dont want to do a fullswap right now then dont. You do what you feel and dont let anybody tell u that you have to do something. Good luck and I know you will find others that are not like her.

jrgwife · 06-27-2003, 07:50 PM

Wow, she could really ruin it for those of us out there trying this on slowly.... I plan on eventually doing full swap, but we have to meet the right couple first!
RG

Vjklander · 06-27-2003, 07:58 PM

You are right on bama. At least y'all got the facts out in front, even if the other was a bit rude about it. Imagine finding out her perspective after you met !!! We refer to what it is that we do as 'sharing pleasures', which means everyone has to be comfortable with the activities. Anyone who can't go along with that can just 'git along' as the Texans say.
J

imsnowman · 06-27-2003, 08:07 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by alabamafuntonig
Is this true.

No. What you do sounds like fun.

MassageCouple69 · 06-27-2003, 10:55 PM

Quote:

She went on this diatribe on if we are into swinging we will have to do full swap sometime or the other.

Did she think that she could intimidate you into it or something...!?
Some people...
Good choice telling her goodbye

fun_pairTX · 06-27-2003, 11:59 PM

While we are a full swap and orgy type couple there is no reason to denigrate anyone for their personal choices. Some people just have no class whatsoever. Choices encompasses all of swinging, wait till you find what you want. It is out there.

alabamafuntonig · 06-28-2003, 08:19 AM

After being on the boards for a while I have learned a lot about what other swingers in the lifestyle thought. I was a little appalled by what this couple had to say. I can’t remember one regular on this board who ever said you either full swap or leave. I did think she was being pushy, and that’s pretty sad to do when you have not even met someone. As if I was going to give up my beliefs for her. Oh well thanks guys for all the advice.

Ps. When I told Mrs. Bama. She said I did the right thing by telling her good bye.

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-11-2003, 02:22 PM

Do what you feel comfortable with. I know a lot of couples that DO fullswap but only when they are ready... until then they do softswing and enjoy it just as much.

BodyScape02 · 07-11-2003, 03:14 PM

Yeah, what they said! You did the right thing in saying, "goodbye!"

fun_pairTX · 07-11-2003, 08:31 PM

While we would probably pass on a soft swap couple there is no excuse for being rude and crude. Stick to what feels good for you.

alabamafuntonig · 07-12-2003, 08:48 AM

Quote:

While we would probably pass on a soft swap couple there is no excuse for being rude and crude. Stick to what feels good for you.

true thats how i feel I know not everone is going to be atracted to us . but a soft swap is our thing sure it can get intense at times and maybe one day go to a full swap but if you ever get to read our add on the sls you will see we do not make us out to be any thing more than that! by the way we are alabamafuntonight so take a look and tell me what you think!

BodyScape02 · 07-12-2003, 12:02 PM

As for full swap versus soft swap...who's to say once you go full you can't go back???

There are times I feel like soft for one reason or another.

I certainly hope that couples in this lifestyle understand that variety is the spice of life and sometimes I just want to enjpy the georgeous man I brought with me...but you can watch...( wicked wink)

As for the couple insisting you change what you want to do to suit them...you definetly did the right thing. Move at tyour own pace and enjoy!

~Cat of Bodyscape02

M&B · 07-12-2003, 02:00 PM

Rude aint for this dude.

If anyone wacks out on ya like that again, just gimme a call.

I'll wack 'em with my walker!

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06-27-2003, 06:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Active Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	Are we going to find others who like soft swap too? Ok just answered a reply to a add on sls. The lady asked if we full swap I said we are into soft swap at the moment. She went on this diatribe on if we are into swinging we will have to do full swap sometime or the other. Well needless to say I told her good bye. Is this true. We have done full swap before but we rather do soft swap and playful things. We just like the soft stuff ! are we going to find others like us.

06-27-2003, 07:58 PM	#5 (permalink)
Vjklander Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 809 Location: VA Status: Couple, Straight M, BiFem SLS Name:Vjklander	You are right on bama. At least y'all got the facts out in front, even if the other was a bit rude about it. Imagine finding out her perspective after you met !!! We refer to what it is that we do as 'sharing pleasures', which means everyone has to be comfortable with the activities. Anyone who can't go along with that can just 'git along' as the Texans say. J Last edited by Vjklander : 06-27-2003 at 08:11 PM.

06-27-2003, 11:59 PM	#8 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Glad you gave em the gate............. While we are a full swap and orgy type couple there is no reason to denigrate anyone for their personal choices. Some people just have no class whatsoever. Choices encompasses all of swinging, wait till you find what you want. It is out there. __________________ fun_pairTX

06-28-2003, 08:19 AM	#9 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Active Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	thanks guys After being on the boards for a while I have learned a lot about what other swingers in the lifestyle thought. I was a little appalled by what this couple had to say. I can’t remember one regular on this board who ever said you either full swap or leave. I did think she was being pushy, and that’s pretty sad to do when you have not even met someone. As if I was going to give up my beliefs for her. Oh well thanks guys for all the advice. Ps. When I told Mrs. Bama. She said I did the right thing by telling her good bye.

06-27-2003, 06:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
mopek Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 36 Location: canada Status: couple	Don't listen to her...LOL ... You don't have to do anything you don't want to....good job in telling her good-bye. Swinging means anything from just watching, to slight touching to full orgy. Her definition of swinging was actually only a narrow slice of what it really is.... so yes, you guys are swingers mopek

06-27-2003, 07:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
thump29 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 333 Location: okeechobee, fl Status: couple	Im glad you told her goodbye. She is the one that is wrong. If you dont want to do a fullswap right now then dont. You do what you feel and dont let anybody tell u that you have to do something. Good luck and I know you will find others that are not like her.

06-27-2003, 07:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
jrgwife Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 58 Location: Arkansas Status: Couple	Wow, she could really ruin it for those of us out there trying this on slowly.... I plan on eventually doing full swap, but we have to meet the right couple first! RG

07-11-2003, 02:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 21,263 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 53	Do what you feel comfortable with. I know a lot of couples that DO fullswap but only when they are ready... until then they do softswing and enjoy it just as much. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

07-11-2003, 03:14 PM	#11 (permalink)
BodyScape02 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 556 Location: off the board	Yeah, what they said! You did the right thing in saying, "goodbye!"

07-11-2003, 08:31 PM	#12 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Soft Swap While we would probably pass on a soft swap couple there is no excuse for being rude and crude. Stick to what feels good for you. __________________ fun_pairTX

07-12-2003, 12:02 PM	#14 (permalink)
BodyScape02 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 556 Location: off the board	sometimes As for full swap versus soft swap...who's to say once you go full you can't go back??? There are times I feel like soft for one reason or another. I certainly hope that couples in this lifestyle understand that variety is the spice of life and sometimes I just want to enjpy the georgeous man I brought with me...but you can watch...( wicked wink) As for the couple insisting you change what you want to do to suit them...you definetly did the right thing. Move at tyour own pace and enjoy! ~Cat of Bodyscape02

07-12-2003, 02:00 PM	#15 (permalink)
M&B Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 808 Location: Southern Cal Status: quo anti bellum	Here's the skinny, Bama....listen up. Rude aint for this dude. If anyone wacks out on ya like that again, just gimme a call. I'll wack 'em with my walker! __________________ EGBOK!

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