What do you think is soft swinging?

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by NandTfromCA

QUESTION: Is this uncertainty significantly more common with soft swing couples than full swap couples?

If so, I would imagine it could be frustrating to be a down to earth, stable, secure soft swing couple trying to find others that are the same.

All that said, maybe I am way off base. What are your thoughts?

Mr.

I think its a natural progression as 2j's said. You will find more drama in soft swingers because many are in the newbie stage and have yet to slay the green eyed monsters. Sometimes the monster wins.

We have found one VERY well adjusted soft swing couple, who is more 'lifestyle' than any of the full swap couples we know, but its pretty rare I'd guess. Once you go full swap its hard to go back and you see it wasn't really that big a deal in the first place.

[Swingercast]

The answer to your question Fuse is No. In our experience we have not found any marital difficulties with the "experienced" soft swap couples we play with. In fact, we have found the opposite to be the case...our experiences with these couples have been positive like westernswing, chiccup, and Fuse described. I don't think the experienced, well adjusted, enthusiastic soft swing couple is that rare either ...but only speaking from our on premise club and swinger resort experiences(we have never done the online dating scene..maybe it is different there?) I guess there is a big mystery for some couples why a couple in the lifestyle for many years chooses not to full swap...just ask them, and I'm sure you will find that the green monster is NOT their reason.

xoxo,
Allie
-we play with all levels of swing couples(mostly full swap cpls) and put our experiences on our podcast if you are interested.

[The Fuse]

Thanks for your response, Swingercast. I think the original question was NandTfromCA's (the OP of this thread) so hopefully my version of it wasn't too far off of theirs.

[3sumff]

We started off soft, then of course we moved into the harder stuff. Even for the first time, it almost seemed liked we were already to jump into the full swap. The couple we met were a very nice couple. All talks were with the intentions of having soft play only. Sexual excite got the best of us, but didn't get all of us. My gf wanted to but didn't go through with it, but the bf wanted me to have sex with his gf. Was a great and exciting time for all of us. First time for anyone.
Now, that my gf has experienced another man. She enjoyed herself, but the thought of getting together with another man, again and again does not sit well with her. I totally respect her wishes. That is why we are currently looking for a single female only at this time. We enjoy the lifestyle, but it isn't our lifestyle. Its not a everyday, week, or month. Just something that adds a little spice once in awhile.