Swinging without Swapping?

[imsnowman]

After you both spend some time reading past threads on this board (do a search for similar topics) I'd recommend the club route to start. You're in the environment with no chance for misunderstanding what someone else is suggesting. Look at reviews of clubs in Colorado Colorado clubs and pick one that suits you both.

Maybe on you first visit plan to just dance, smooch etc.

I think you'll find as others have said "No means No". So any problems you have will most likely be of your own making. (You'll discover that just by reading threads on this board about others' problems.) If you trust yourselves and have talked about your expectations and fears I'm sure you'll be able to go and have a good time

[Neofree]

I think we are going to try the webcam thing first...

BTW, I think I realized what the show said.. I remember both words starting with a S and they had to just be swinging and swapping. They just said that swinging could be done with or without swapping.

Thanks,

Neofree

[anotherway2liv]

Recently my lady and I have gone to a club to "just watch" for the first time. That is all we are comfortable with. We felt it was quite easy to just watch (or as we ended up watching and playing with only eachother). People were very respectful and nice. From what I've read and heard most people don't want to be known as "the pushy couple". So saying "NO" goes a very long way.

really it was just an amazing time. Was just wonderful.

[Neofree]

When my wife told me she is not comfortable with soft swinging, I offered her two alternatives, one was to go to a club just to watch as you suggested, the other was to try webcam. She was interested in the webcam. She is afraid that if we go to a swingers club to only watch that we will have to keep telling people no over and over, that someone would touch me or her, or that someone would give us an uncomfortable look. Keep in mind we don't do very well in normal social situations as we are kind of shy. When we are in small groups then we become very open and talkative.