What is soft swinging?

[Sam]

Obviously we are beginners. What is softswing. Thanks.

[JustAskJulie]

soft swinging is basically anything but full swap (you don't have intercourse with someone other than your partner). As for what it is within that, that depends on the person using the term. It could just mean same-room sex (watching another couple have sex as you have sex with your partner), or it could mean anything but.. meaning that you swap for foreplay and oral sex but when it comes time to do the deed you do that with YOUR partner.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

meaning that you swap for foreplay and oral sex but when it comes time to do the deed you do that with YOUR partner.

And it really is not a bad way to start... but eventually you'll probably go "over the falls" and share intercourse. THAT is the best part.

Originally posted by AmyS:
....And it really is not a bad way to start... but eventually you'll probably go "over the falls" and share intercourse. THAT is the best part.

I agree, that softswing (no swapping for intercourse) may be the way to "start" off at first....But personally, going "over the falls" (full swap) isn't the "best part"...For us, seeing each other being sexually aroused while being watched, pleasing and being pleased by other swinging partners as well as each other (of course) is what sexually turns US on. Now for us, THAT is the best part! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Again, it's personal preference... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

I suppose I cannot argue with that! I was thinking more from the receiving perspective than the giving perspective. (I was a little horny.) When my husband is with the other wife it is a HUGE turn on. (I have not had the courage to "help" him yet.) Before getting married I was a virgin but I had experienced most activities short of intercourse. I think that is why when we full swap with our friends I enjoy screwing more than anything else. Enjoying the forbidden fruit maybe?

AmyS...Yes, I know whatcha mean. *lol @ your "horny" comment, knowing the "feeling"...* You GO girl! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

I enjoy watching hubby with our female partner(s), seeing UP close of his HARD thick cock sliding in & out of another HOT WET pussy, making her dripping with her cum! THAT turns me on to NO end! *Fanning myself, feeling my temperature rising just thinking about it...lol* ;D

And the lovemaking & HOT WILD SEX we both have of the "after effects" is no doubt another BEST part of our swinging rendevous! OMG! I think that "horny" thing is kinda catchy here now, AmyS! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/eek.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[quote] OMG! I think that "horny" thing is kinda catchy here now, AmyS! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/eek.gif


Well, the guys are quiet so be careful or we'll be trying something new tonight...

[quote]Originally posted by AmyS:

....we'll be trying something new tonight...

COOL! Wooooooo hoooooooo!!! *lol*

HHhhmmmm....I wonder what that "something new" could be????? *VBG @ Hubby...* http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif

Anticipation, don'tcha just love it?!! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

Well, I have never tried another woman before but everything I have ever done that was worthwhile got it's start with a single experiment! We are drifting closer to that type of experimentation with the couple we share with. It gives me butterflies and a head ache all at once. The last time we swapped my husband put my hand on her pussy after he came in her. I knew what he wanted but I wasn't sure what she thought of the idea. I'm not even sure what *I* think of the idea!

Originally posted by AmyS:
....It gives me butterflies and a head ache all at once. The last time we swapped my husband put my hand on her pussy after he came in her. I knew what he wanted but I wasn't sure what she thought of the idea. I'm not even sure what *I* think of the idea!

Have you talked with your female friend (of this other couple) of your feelings about having any bi-experiences with them? Both of you & her sharing these feelings & thoughts together really makes a BIG difference too. This way there's no guessing games or ill feelings (like you're experiencing with them headaches & butterflies, etc.). And it helps with enjoying any new sexual experiences for all of you! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

Just take your time and move at YOUR OWN pace. No one should push you into doing anything that you're not ready for. If it happens, it happens, if it don't, it don't. Don't pressure yourself, just relax and continue to do whatever it is that you enjoy doing! YOU'LL know when the timing is right, YOU'LL know when you're ready to venture into maybe having any bi-experiences, YOU'LL know especially when the MOOD is right! As long as YOU are in control of the situation, and you & her are ready to take on this new adventure....Believe me, YOU'LL know! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif It sounds like I'm rambling on here, but if you need clarity on any of this here, I'm more than happy to help out! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

As I mentioned in an earlier post on the "Bisexual Females" section....For me, the timing and chemistry is important to help set the mood....I get turned on by my hubby being turned on just watching me give the other female orgasms after orgasms! I enjoy turning on another female the way "I" like it! Although I've never had any problems with the males that we swing with of turning me on "the way "I" like it" either! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif............. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

ANYway....*lol* Hope this helps! Communication is VERY important! Take your time and relax, just do what cums naturallly! And at the meantime.....HAVE FUN & ENJOY YOURSELVES! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif


GOODLUCK!
Wife of CyberMWCouple

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 01-18-2001).]

I know I need to talk to her but I have no idea how to broach the subject. I also know the guys would like to watch us together. I don't know if the idea of being with her turns me on or not. I know it gives me butterflys if that means anything. The thing that really DID turn me on was seeing my husband's sperm leaking out between her pussy lips. I had never touched another woman before that night but now I have not been able to stop thinking about it.

Originally posted by AmyS:
I know I need to talk to her but I have no idea how to broach the subject.

Well, when we first meet or chat with a new couple, one of the questions we ask them/HER is "Are you Bi/Bi-curious"? If she says "No", that's cool and we respect their choices. Of course, we let them know of our sexual choices/preferences, we don't necessarily have to swing with couples with "Bi" females....

If she say "Yes", we usually ask HER/them what bi-experiences they've had? What turns HER/them on? What did SHE/they enjoy most about it? It becomes an interesting subject most times! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

Another COOL thing about chatting with other couples in the lifestyle, we can discuss almost ANYthing about SEX! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Originally posted by AmyS:I also know the guys would like to watch us together. I don't know if the idea of being with her turns me on or not. I know it gives me butterflys if that means anything.

I know that my hubby and the other hubbies enjoy watching the females in sexual activities together! Trust & comfort plays a BIG part in swinging, no matter what combos you're looking for! If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, that's fine too! I find that talking about it with the other female(s) makes it a whole lot easier! Once you two know where you're cummin' from, what turns you on, what doesn't turn you both on, knowing both your boundries and limitations (if any), etc....Only then, can you both comfortably encounter your desired bi-adventures. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

Originally posted by AmyS:The thing that really DID turn me on was seeing my husband's sperm leaking out between her pussy lips. I had never touched another woman before that night but now I have not been able to stop thinking about it.

What was it that you can't stop thinking about that "touch" of her pussy? Was it the feel? Curiousity of having any bi-experiences with her? Questions running thru your mind such as maybe:
What would've happened if "I" acted upon it?
How would I have "touched" her pussy again?
Would I have used my mouth, maybe my fingers, probing at her G-spot, sucking & licking her clit? Maybe all at the same time?

Does it make you wet at the thought? Tingling & twitching inside? Maybe fantasizing about it and sharing it with your hubby about you & her having any bi-experiences? http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif

And you know what? THAT'S how/where it started for ME! Hubby & I shared these fantasies together for AWHILE before we ever acted upon it, and even the thought of swinging too! And when it finally happened, it was AWESOME & SO EROTIC! The RUSH was UNbelievable! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/eek.gif You'll know when you're ready, and if this is what YOU want to try....And when you do, you'll do what feels right to you! We did.... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 01-19-2001).]

A[quote]Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
[b] What was it that you can't stop thinking about that "touch" of her pussy? Was it the feel? Curiousity of having any bi-experiences with her? Questions running thru your mind such as maybe:
What would've happened if "I" acted upon it?
How would I have "touched" her pussy again?
Would I have used my mouth, maybe my fingers, probing at her G-spot, sucking & licking her clit? Maybe all at the same time?

Yes to all of the above. We are meeting our friends tomorrow night to play. And unless I loose my nerve I'm going to try it. It's certainly a tylenol pm night tonight.

*LOL @ the same thoughts I had before MY 1st "Bi-Experience"....VBS*

You GO AmyS!!! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

We're looking forward to hearing the UPdates here! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

what is softswing?