Will we go from soft swinging to full swap?

curious_in_ont · 11-13-2004, 08:54 AM

This is new to us less than 5 months. Everything is exciting and fun. I have expressed from day one I will not full swap. Will this change? Do some couples remain "soft swingers" their entire life?

mustang3 · 11-13-2004, 08:57 AM

I don't know because I'm brand new also. Only soft so far. However, the experience has been so intense I think if we found the right couple I would be open to full swap. Good luck.

11-13-2004, 09:04 AM

I think most couples start as soft swap only, but that usualy does not last very long

I am sure there are some who start soft swap and stay at that level but most start there because they are unsure what they are getting into and do not want to jump in completely without testing the water first.

BradAndJanet · 11-13-2004, 01:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by curious_in_ont

...Do some couples remain "soft swingers" their entire life?

curious_in_ont, some may, some don't and some drift away from swinging altogether, I suppose.

The main thing is that you should do what you're comfortable with, what you have fun with. See where that leads you. There isn't one way to swing, there are many.

-B

DBStPete · 11-13-2004, 01:55 PM

I think BradAndJanet nail it (again).

Some folks do indeed stay soft swap - with some "softer" than others. It's nothing to feel ashamed of, nor to feel pressured that it's something you need to "grow out of".

Realize that there is (imo) a certain tendency in the "mainstream" of swinging to portray it a certain way. That protrayal is not invalid, but it's somewhat limiting, and there are folks out there doing all *sorts* of variations on "swinging" that don't meet the standard definitions.

As long you *you're* having fun, who cares?

Mr. DBStPete

ALilOEverything · 11-13-2004, 03:35 PM

According to the poll here some stay soft and some decide to move on. I think it just depends on what you're looking for and your comfort levels.

http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...ad.php?t=13733

couplenyc · 11-13-2004, 05:49 PM

Were so new at this. The only swinging we have done is, some soft feels while we have sex. We love to be watched and love watching. We also hope to stay (soft swing)

easygoin · 11-13-2004, 05:52 PM

Well it all depends on what you want...you know...we always said we would stay soft and she never wanted to swap and we never did and i never forced the issue and thats one thing you never wanna do is force anything but like they said if you find the right people it could go all the way...you ve come to a great place to get answers

WesternSwing · 11-13-2004, 07:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by curious_in_ont

This is new to us less than 5 months. Everything is exciting and fun. I have expressed from day one I will not full swap. Will this change? Do some couples remain "soft swingers" their entire life?

I would bet it will change. However we dove right in on the first experience with a full swap and never looked back. It's only been recently we tried a soft swap, and it was erotic. Like a live porn show.

But I would think the more comfortable you got the more you would experiment with touching and oral with others, and probably later move to full swap. But like I said, this is as you get more comfortable. It's okay if you don't.

Mr. WS

curious_in_ont · 11-14-2004, 01:16 AM

Thanks for everyones opinion. This board has answered and helped in so many ways. This is the male speaking ..... now to elaborate on that question. When and if you full swap, knowing 100 % both couples are disease free, I have been fixed, he hasn't, I hate the feeling of a condom, but for him, its a necessity because of the risk of pregnancy. With me being fixed and tested, is there really a reason for me to wear one? What do all the guys do in their full swap situations?

Fred&Wilma · 11-14-2004, 05:55 AM

Realize that glove is also there to protect you from STD's, not just to avoid pregnancy.

BradAndJanet · 11-14-2004, 05:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by curious_in_ont

... With me being fixed and tested, is there really a reason for me to wear one? What do all the guys do in their full swap situations?

Let me point you to the STD/Safe Sex forum for a couple of threads on the subject:

Reasons TO USE condoms
reasons for NOT using condoms

There are some other good discussions in there too.

-B

WesternSwing · 11-14-2004, 05:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by curious_in_ont

Thanks for everyones opinion. This board has answered and helped in so many ways. This is the male speaking ..... now to elaborate on that question. When and if you full swap, knowing 100 % both couples are disease free, I have been fixed, he hasn't, I hate the feeling of a condom, but for him, its a necessity because of the risk of pregnancy. With me being fixed and tested, is there really a reason for me to wear one? What do all the guys do in their full swap situations?

There are several good threads on this exact subject if you do a quick search, some of them very exhaustive with many responses. But in short, we always use condoms. For us safe sex is safe sex. Period.

Mr. WS

curious_in_ont · 11-14-2004, 07:23 PM

Hubby and I totally agree, condoms will always be used. We love the view point that "no condems" is reserved for us only.

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11-13-2004, 08:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
curious_in_ont Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Southern Ontario	Will we go from soft swinging to full swap? This is new to us less than 5 months. Everything is exciting and fun. I have expressed from day one I will not full swap. Will this change? Do some couples remain "soft swingers" their entire life?

11-13-2004, 08:57 AM	#2 (permalink)
mustang3 Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 13 Location: Northern New Jersey Status: couple SLS Name:kimberlee0716	Re: Soft Swinging I don't know because I'm brand new also. Only soft so far. However, the experience has been so intense I think if we found the right couple I would be open to full swap. Good luck. __________________ The emotional, sexual, and psychological stereotyping of females begins when the doctor says: It's a girl. - Shirley Chisholm

11-13-2004, 09:04 AM	#3 (permalink)
Mr&Mrs-naughty Posts: n/a	Mr here I think most couples start as soft swap only, but that usualy does not last very long I am sure there are some who start soft swap and stay at that level but most start there because they are unsure what they are getting into and do not want to jump in completely without testing the water first.

11-13-2004, 01:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
DBStPete Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 81 Location: St. Pete. Florida Status: Married 31 yr SLS Name:DBStPete	Re: Soft Swinging I think BradAndJanet nail it (again). Some folks do indeed stay soft swap - with some "softer" than others. It's nothing to feel ashamed of, nor to feel pressured that it's something you need to "grow out of". Realize that there is (imo) a certain tendency in the "mainstream" of swinging to portray it a certain way. That protrayal is not invalid, but it's somewhat limiting, and there are folks out there doing all sorts of variations on "swinging" that don't meet the standard definitions. As long you you're having fun, who cares? Mr. DBStPete __________________ What's in your head? What's in your heart? What's between your legs? Let's get down to brass tacks here! - B

11-13-2004, 03:35 PM	#6 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,472 Location: Michigan Status: Couple	Re: Soft Swinging According to the poll here some stay soft and some decide to move on. I think it just depends on what you're looking for and your comfort levels. http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...ad.php?t=13733 __________________ ~Lilo

11-13-2004, 05:49 PM	#7 (permalink)
couplenyc Registered Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 3 Location: nyc	Re: Soft Swinging Were so new at this. The only swinging we have done is, some soft feels while we have sex. We love to be watched and love watching. We also hope to stay (soft swing)

11-13-2004, 05:52 PM	#8 (permalink)
easygoin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 202 Location: TX Status: M.male	Re: Soft Swinging Well it all depends on what you want...you know...we always said we would stay soft and she never wanted to swap and we never did and i never forced the issue and thats one thing you never wanna do is force anything but like they said if you find the right people it could go all the way...you ve come to a great place to get answers

11-14-2004, 01:16 AM	#10 (permalink)
curious_in_ont Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Southern Ontario	Re: Soft Swinging Thanks for everyones opinion. This board has answered and helped in so many ways. This is the male speaking ..... now to elaborate on that question. When and if you full swap, knowing 100 % both couples are disease free, I have been fixed, he hasn't, I hate the feeling of a condom, but for him, its a necessity because of the risk of pregnancy. With me being fixed and tested, is there really a reason for me to wear one? What do all the guys do in their full swap situations?

11-14-2004, 05:55 AM	#11 (permalink)
Fred&Wilma Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 95 Location: Michigan Status: Couple SLS Name:Fred & Wilma	Re: Soft Swinging Realize that glove is also there to protect you from STD's, not just to avoid pregnancy. __________________ You can get there from here!

11-14-2004, 07:23 PM	#14 (permalink)
curious_in_ont Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Southern Ontario	Re: Soft Swinging Hubby and I totally agree, condoms will always be used. We love the view point that "no condems" is reserved for us only.

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