Full-Swap vs. Soft-Swinging

[JustAskJulie]

Some questions for you......

Question 1: Do you consider yourself full-swap or soft-swingers (if you haven't swung yet go with what you hope/plan to do).

Question 2: For full-swap couples are you willing to do soft-swing only, with the right couple?

Question 3: For soft-swingers... what do you consider soft-swinging?

[fredandwilma200]

Right now we are soft swap. We have had sex in the same room as another couple and had a male join us. We are looking for a single female to join us also but never realized how hard it is going to be, so at this time we are willing to alter to a couple however, we are not willing to swap. We are willing to have four in bed together having fun all together. I would consider oral swap but not full out and out full swap. If we did do the four together...I wouldnt mind him having sex while I am as long as we are in touching range....Maybe I think of this different then others.

[biblonde]

we are a full swap couple. but we have done soft swap although we didnt really enjoy as much as full swap. Beings that we are pretty comfy with almost everything (not m/m stuff) we usually let the other couple set the limits. we have no jelousy problems with anything done, as long as nothing painful. We do prefer full swap and with couples who have done so also. We also prefer more experianced couples over newbies...nothing wrong with newbies but .....we have had some newbies that have freaked out after the fact although they told us they wanted it all, and didnt speak up to say they didnt feel right about something.

my 2 cents for the day!

[mrbandsatl]

We are full swap but have no problem with soft. Just depends on what everyone feels comfortable with. Actually, some of the most fun we have had was with a soft-only couple.

B+S

[frenzb4sex]

We are full swap and make it clear that's what we desire in others. Soft swinging, to us, is like putting a steak in front of your face, letting you smell it, look at it, feel it, maybe even lick it, but you can't eat it...Not our cup of tea.

Just like biblonde said--we just seem to get along better swinging-wise with experienced couples--because in newbies, since they are still feeling their way (literally), sometimes it's difficult for them to express what they are really looking for until they get in that situation, and by then, we don't really want to be in a scenario where a question mark is still present. Just our preference!!

Tim

We are full swap. Soft swap would be Ok. After all its how we started. But that only lasted till our first experience .

We would like to find couples that are interested in the lifestyle just to hang out with. Someone we can talk about our wild side with. If they only did soft swap but we got along great as friends that would be cool with us.

[fun_pairTX]

We have always been full swap, but we would be happy to accomodate a couple that we were attracted to.

[RW1F]

Soft-swing only here..........

[CB_n_Red]

Full swap here. The occasion hasn't arisen where we have been asked to soft swing, so not sure whether we would or wouldn't.

CB

[pink-n-sparx]

Full swap

[cpl4playmass]

Started out as soft swap and that lasted about six months. We went full swap last month but like the variety so we'll still do soft. It's interesting how each experience teaches you something and how most of the fears you have seem to be unfounded. Since we started as soft swap we will do our part in helping others into the lifestyle by always be willing to help newbies. Of course we'll still be looking to go all out in a frenzied orgy as well!!

[DandS]

We have done both and are okay with either depening on the couple and what everyone is comfortable with. For us part of the fun is spending the evening hanging out, going to dinner, dancing, flirting, etc in addition to the sexual encounter.

One of our favorite couples is soft swap only, we have so much in common with them and enjoy spending time with them. We would have missed out on a lot of fun if we had not gotten to know them just because they didn't full swap.

D

[HotCoupleGnS]

We have only done full swap, but would be open to soft. It doesn't make much sense to me, people that won't do soft at all. I mean you are getting to play around with other people, then have sex with you spouse. That sounds like fun to me!

[MIbbwcpl]

We are full swap only. We don't understand the point of soft swinging. I wouldn't go as far as to say that soft isn't swinging, we just don't understand it. It's not for us. Nothing against anyone who likes it though. Different strokes, ya know?

[chickadiva]

We're also full swap, but we've done soft as a lead-in on occasion. We don't rule out soft-swap couples, particularly those that say they'd be open to considering full after some time passes.

What we don't like are soft-swap couples that try to "borrow" M only for fmf, saying that their female doesn't "want" or "need" other men...oh, but would M play with their male half?!?! Uhhhh.....NO!

M (the female half)