Am I a cuckold?

[smithp]

My partner and I have been swinging for quite a while now, playing mainly with couples but also at parties, clubs and gangbangs. As time goes on I have come to realise that most of my pleasure derives from watching my partner enjoy other men, either singly or in groups. She is very vocal, responsive and multi-orgasmic, and a real joy to watch.

We sometimes play bareback and my greatest pleasure is the moment when a man ejaculates inside her, especially if, as often happens, she orgasms at the same time. I like her to keep his semen in her to show me as soon as possible so that I can taste their mixed juices and give her further orgasms by sucking her. I also enjoy the "different" feel of her pussy around my cock when she has been with a man (or men) already, especially when she is full of cum.

My partner very much enjoys this play (she gets lots of men and lots of orgasms!) but she is uncomfortable with my role as she considers it too close to cuckoldry. I am never humiliated by her or her men (we choose carefully) so, although I am doing "cuckold things" (like eating sperm from her vagina) I do not feel anything wrong with it and I don't feel submissive. Nevertheless, she says the thought of me *being* a cuckold reduces her enjoyment.

Am I a cuckold? Should she be worried? How can I convince her that I enjoy all the things I've mentioned but I don't feel in any way compromised by the role I enjoy so much?

Thanks,

Peter

[it'sso]

Being a cuckold is the ONLY way I would ever consider felling the need to taste another man's cum. You may feel free to be whatever you wish just as long as it doesn't harm another.

[ENCRYPTEDTX]

Is it so dire that you live life by a label?

Are you happy?

Is she happy?

Do you communicate and talk about things openly? Honestly?

I think happiness is waaaaaaay more important than a label.

Kyle

[slevin]

Originally Posted by ENCRYPTEDTX

Is it so dire that you live life by a label?

Are you happy?

Is she happy?

Do you communicate and talk about things openly? Honestly?

I think happiness is waaaaaaay more important than a label.

Kyle

I think in this case it is important to read between the lines of what she is trying to say. Is she bringing this up because she likes when her husband is dominant, or in control, and she feels like perhaps this isn't in line with that? Is she worried that it might be humiliating to him? Perhaps she finds it humiliating for him? Or she worries that he doesn't truly enjoy it?

I don't know her so I can't say what is on her mind, but I do think it is important to look at her perspective on this. It's not just a simple matter of whether he is ok with what they are doing. Rather she needs to find a way to be ok with it.

[lustylearning]

Eh, but since you're looking for a label... Wouldn't this be more of a "hot wife" thing than classic cuckoldry, since it's not wife control/humiliation based? I'm not totally up on the terminology, just going by what I've heard.

[Cajun2Step]

Am I a cuckold? Should she be worried? How can I convince her that I enjoy all the things I've mentioned but I don't feel in any way compromised by the role I enjoy so much?

Thanks,

Peter
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What difference does it make if you are or are not cuckold? If you enjoy your role in the situation, you must do what ever it takes to make her comfortable. Talk to her. Take a role that is of less concern to her. If the queen isn't comfortable and happy, you are headed for problems in the future.

[fun4Ds]

Welcome to the Swingers Board, Peter


Are you a cuckold?

Nope, I think you just enjoy getting off, on everyone else getting off around you. Especially, your partner I can get caught up in the same as well.

I would be concerned about your wifes concerns though. They're valid, if some of the men/women belittle you, and your not catching the vibe.

Ask your wife what she perceives others think of you. Be prepared for the worst and hope for the best, but listen closely to what she says.

fun4ds

[Trace Ekies]

It seems to me that to be a cuck would require that you do as you are told...like it or not...

As LustyLearning said, these are hotwife activities.

I have trouble getting Mrs. Ekies to quit worrying about me in a MFM, MMFM and related scenarios...she's concerned that I'm being left out or feel like I should give her space to play...

It took some time for her to come to terms with the fact that I like to watch...and then join. It gives me pleasure to see her pleasured and I like to give her space to be the slut that she really wants to be.

After about 6 months she got over it and has really cut loose a couple of times...much to my pleasure...

You're back to the old "communication" line...talk will cull out the facts so that you both are comfortable and get what you're after.

Trace

PS...We'd love to see her in action...hehe.

[smithp]

Thanks, all of you, for your contributions!

I feel more assured that these are more hotwife activities than cuckold. As I said, I am not humiliated and I don't feel that I am controlled by my partner or the other men.

She does enjoy me eating her cum-filled pussy and often has strong orgasms as a result. She still does not understand why it is attractive to me to taste her and her man's sperm - the trouble is, I don't really know fully myself! It's not a submission thing, it's just the joy of seeing, smelling and tasting the results of the sexual activities that gave her such pleasure, feeling so proud that I have a partner who can give herself up to the enjoyment for both of us that can come from sex with another man, and gratitude for allowing me to be part of that.

The only remaining concern is the "label" - her fear that these activities *might* be thought of as cuckoldry, and that some of the men might have a low opinion or or contempt for me. Strangely, she did not worry about what the men thought about me when I took her for an 11 man gangbang and watched her being fucked 30 or 40 times in 3 hours! Maybe the fear will fade in time. Guess we have to wait and see.

Thanks again.

Peter

[ClosetSwinger]

I also wouldnt call this cuck...more like "hot wife".

Labels suck and I don't think anyone should pigeon hole themselves. I was hung up for a while on if I was straight, bi, bi curious or whatever. I like boobs, I like kissing girls but I can totally do without that part......so I don't know what you call that. I don't care at this point....I just like what I like!

[SecretAsianMan]

I've always interpreted the "cuckold" husband as one who is doing this out of a need to be humiliated or "put in his place" by the wife... not in the open-sharing of his wife with others.

For example, if she were doing this while degrading you or your own performance (i.e., "Look at how sad & pathetic my husband is - just sitting there while this other guy fucks me... he doesn't deserve more than that & it's his role to eat your cum out of my pussy") ... THAT is what I feel is a classic-cuckold-role

Yes... you're on similar terrain -- but as long as you (and your wife) don't see it that way, I think y'all shouldn't worry about what anyone else may see or try to label y'all. (And I'm pretty sure that if a "bull" were to come along and try to disrespect you while doing your wife - he probably wouldn't be there for long, right?)

[richdon03]

Originally Posted by smithp

It's not a submission thing, it's just the joy of seeing, smelling and tasting the results of the sexual activities that gave her such pleasure, feeling so proud that I have a partner who can give herself up to the enjoyment for both of us that can come from sex with another man, and gratitude for allowing me to be part of that.

I wouldn't get caught up on labels, either. I totally get that sentiment. Just work with her so that she wraps her head around it. This is not submission. This is guts.

[appliancesex]

I don't think its fair to tell the op that he is worried too much about labelling. He is reacting on his wife's interpretation of the situation. Personally it seems as though she has issues with the submissive aspect of eating out a freshly cummed pussy.

I agree with slevin here in that it is important to read between the lines:

Originally Posted by slevin

I think in this case it is important to read between the lines of what she is trying to say. Is she bringing this up because she likes when her husband is dominant, or in control, and she feels like perhaps this isn't in line with that? Is she worried that it might be humiliating to him? Perhaps she finds it humiliating for him? Or she worries that he doesn't truly enjoy it

In my opinion I would have a frank conversation with her about her feelings about gay sex. Not that you are even remotely even bisexual! I'm not saying that. It's just that you're interests in eating her out directly after or fucking her after she is worn out could be construed as acts of homosexual behavior. Plenty of people worry that bisexuality coincides with sub behavior. Your interest in this seems totally heteroflexible but I can see where she might have some issues with it.

Like fun4 says, be prepared for honesty, but that's the best way to figure out where to go from here.

[Pleasure King]

Originally Posted by smithp

My partner and I have been swinging for quite a while now, playing mainly with couples but also at parties, clubs and gangbangs. As time goes on I have come to realise that most of my pleasure derives from watching my partner enjoy other men, either singly or in groups. She is very vocal, responsive and multi-orgasmic, and a real joy to watch.

We sometimes play bareback and my greatest pleasure is the moment when a man ejaculates inside her, especially if, as often happens, she orgasms at the same time. I like her to keep his semen in her to show me as soon as possible so that I can taste their mixed juices and give her further orgasms by sucking her. I also enjoy the "different" feel of her pussy around my cock when she has been with a man (or men) already, especially when she is full of cum.

My partner very much enjoys this play (she gets lots of men and lots of orgasms!) but she is uncomfortable with my role as she considers it too close to cuckoldry. I am never humiliated by her or her men (we choose carefully) so, although I am doing "cuckold things" (like eating sperm from her vagina) I do not feel anything wrong with it and I don't feel submissive. Nevertheless, she says the thought of me *being* a cuckold reduces her enjoyment.

Am I a cuckold? Should she be worried? How can I convince her that I enjoy all the things I've mentioned but I don't feel in any way compromised by the role I enjoy so much?

Thanks,

Peter

No you're doing what many men do in clubs and at parties; watching other men with your woman. Even if you only watch and never join in there's a tremendous bonding experience that goes on during that time. My girlfriend loves it when I'm talking to her and looking in her eyes when a guy is fucking her. It feels like he and I are both inside her.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by smithp

Thanks, all of you, for your contributions!

I feel more assured that these are more hotwife activities than cuckold. As I said, I am not humiliated and I don't feel that I am controlled by my partner or the other men.

She does enjoy me eating her cum-filled pussy and often has strong orgasms as a result. She still does not understand why it is attractive to me to taste her and her man's sperm - the trouble is, I don't really know fully myself! It's not a submission thing, it's just the joy of seeing, smelling and tasting the results of the sexual activities that gave her such pleasure, feeling so proud that I have a partner who can give herself up to the enjoyment for both of us that can come from sex with another man, and gratitude for allowing me to be part of that.

The only remaining concern is the "label" - her fear that these activities *might* be thought of as cuckoldry, and that some of the men might have a low opinion or or contempt for me. Strangely, she did not worry about what the men thought about me when I took her for an 11 man gangbang and watched her being fucked 30 or 40 times in 3 hours! Maybe the fear will fade in time. Guess we have to wait and see.

Thanks again.

Peter

Peter, since you are searching for a term to define the activities..

Look up Creampie rather than cuckold

More importantly, its time to have a frank conversation with your lovely, about the pleasures you enjoy.. There is nothing wrong with it, so long as you both are enjoying what you are doing. As far as those you choose to participate in your pleasures, again, if they have any thoughts about what you are doing and worry about the definitions, then they really need to thank you and move along..

Best of luck to you both..