Turning someone down during "that time"

[grabbyzz]

Just wondering how to politly turn someone down so it doesn't sound like and excuse during "that time of the month". We don't wanna just say "Sorry but she is riding the cotton pony...."

[sexcupid]

Be honest....'that's not a good day to play...but we would love to meet', 'its that time of the month', 'out of comission', or whatever other phrasing. Telling someone in advance might be a bit embarrassing, but it may possibly lessen the feeling like an excuse to get out of playtime once you've met someone if that makes sense.

Riding the cotton pony? Never heard that one before. lol

[two4youinswva]

Say whatever you're comfortable saying. Mrs two4you usually says something like "I'm out of commission", or something along those lines. She has also used the phrase "I'm broke", but there are those on here that don't care for that phrase, as it isn't true, since it's a natural part of being a woman. Whatever, it's just a phrase.

You can tell me straight up, "I'm on my period" without concern. I'm a big boy. I know what it is, and can handle the P word.

On a secondary note, don't be surprised if this knowledge doesn't deter some guys from continuing to pursue.

[The Fuse]

Yeah, among people who play, "It's my time of the month", or "I will be having my period that day, so it's a bad day for a date" is common to say and hear.

And yes, some people are fine with playing during that time. If you really want to play with someone and it doesn't gross you or them out, then it can be fine. If oral is out, say so, or say you assume it is out. It's very courteous to tell people and find out what's okay or not okay. If we were making a date with someone and our proposed date was during the lady's period, we would expect to be told.

[ALilOEverything]

I always said "FYI, I'm broke tonight, but not completely" if I thought the night had any potential to go anywhere. I've never had anyone not know what I mean by that. I used it in the couple months after my hysterectomy too and it always went over well.

[sweet_tna]

It's really no biggie. It's a part of life, so you're not likely to freak anyone out/embarrass them by letting them know. Whatever terminology you're comfortable with should work. (I use, "it's biologically inconvenient for me to play.") Just be sure that if you are interested, that you let the person know you'd like to get together when it is a better time for you.

=)

[lizandtom]

The Mrs. usually just states that her Aunt Flo is in town but her mouth works if that's any consolation.

[asncpl]

My time of the month is pretty regular since I am on the pill so I don't mind telling in advance. If it's someone we want to play with, I usually suggest an alternative meeting date so it doesn't sound like the "I have a headache" excuse.

[Dynamar]

My usual phrase is "I'm down for routine maintenance" and generally is good for a laugh or two.

[spvcouple]

It's hard for me to understand (but then, I'm a guy) that a lady would envision having sexual relations with someone, yet be too shy to say that she is on her cycle. Isn't the sex more intimate than stating a fact of biology?

Having said that, I am assured by my beautiful bride that it is a VERY embarrassing thing to reveal.

I guess it's one of those things that keep men so puzzled about the fairer sex.

[SecretAsianMan]

I've heard, "I'm having my monthly visitor" or "I'm out of commission" as euphemisms for her having her period/menstrual cycle

[LagniappeDC]

One time we were at a getaway with a group of friends and @mrs_lagniappedc had to announce her "condition" to the entire group. Was pretty funny and everyone got a laugh.

[dr_pepper]

I would think that open and honest communication would be the rule here. I know that unless the lady has a problem with it, I would happily join her regardless.

[JoCoCpl]

Or... "The kitty has a nosebleed."

We've found that using a bit of humor in explaining the situation helps ease the embarrassment. We're all adults, we should all be able to handle the situation as adults. Suggesting to meet without play or to suggest an alternative date does help them to know you're not just avoiding them.

[realcplub2]

Or the RED TIDE is in...

And yes usually when its a ENGINEERED meeting... That has taken many tries to get set up..