What on earth happened to my penis?

[laser200]

Ok.. I'm brand new on here but I need to turn to someone for help. First off I'm a 41 year old average male with a 7.5" penis. Not bad on the eyes. 165lbs/5'11". Today at 11:00am I met a couple for a threesome. We have been talking for a short time and arranged for a surprise meeting at hotel today. She was blind folded and he let me in and her surprise was very hot for all 3 of us just to make a long story short. She started sucking us both. I got hard. He laid her on the bed and I did oral. Then he started fucking her and she gave me oral. Then we took turns. The first time I fucked her i was hard but it started to get limp. I pulled out then he started as she gave me head. The damn thing would not get hard again. We worked on it for about 30 minutes but her boyfriends rock hard dick done worn her out. She took the blind fold off and was delighted to see me and we sat and talked for a while. I said I was very sorry that this never has happened before and it hasn't. She still had a great time. I ate her out a few times and she got to do a double blow job and managed to get us both in her mouth but I was still half limp. I couldn't even get a damn rubber on. Excuse me for being a little sharp but im very mad because I didn't perform well at all and I know she wanted a hard dick for this occasion. It was her first threesome with this guy. They are very very nice sweet respectful people and I hope they don't think I was turned off or something because I was turned on believe me. We didn't even get to do double Vag. as me and him talked about. Ergggg! But anyways I sure didn't mean to make a story out of this but has anyone had this happen tot them? What happened to my penis today?

[funat40]

Welcome to the club, laser. It's happened to me before (even to the point where I actually ejaculated without being hard), and it's happened to almost every guy we've been with so far. It's so common, it makes you wonder why we guys do this at all!

The good news is that if you keep doing it, you'll push your way through it eventually. It's a mental block. You just have to keep thinking positively, relax, and live in the moment.

I'm guessing this happened to you as soon as you put the condom on. That's when the troubles begin for me. After not using condoms for 17+ years, using one now is a major turn-off and distraction. But it's an unfortunate necessity.

[laser200]

Yep. Thats what happened...And you know what sux? I have not heard back from them. Yeah as soon as I got the condom on and I had my turn doing her it started to get limp. So I pulled out, took the condom off and she started oral while he was doing her. It never got hard again.
Im not going to bother them. I just hope they got some excitement.

Thanks for the reply Bro. I think your right. It also was very warm in the motel room. they just got there and the A/C hadn't cooled the room off yet and I was sweating liike crazy too and it freaked me out also. So yeah the NERVES was a factor for sure. I have done a few MMF threesomes b4 and all was ok because we all had a few drinks and talked and took it slow. This was walk in the door, shook hands with gentleman, took close off, started getting BJ. She was sexy woman too and the first word out of her mouth was "whoa"..LOL.. Followed by intense sucking. BUT...I was a little nervous because that was a first for me. Everything happened so fast. But anyways if they don't contact me back that's OK. I don't blame them. It does suck because I blew my fantasy of double vag. penetration and she was wanting that too and I surely couldn't get my limp thing in there. Ugh!

[ClosetSwinger]

Awwww I feel for you. Every male in the lifestyle that I know has told me this has happened to them at least ONCE. You are normal. Nerves can really screw with your head....both of them ;-).

Two men I have played with in the past had this issue and it was really not a big deal to me, just made me try harder :-). The one guy it was his first time full swapping so nerves, etc played a role and the other guy had three women in the room and was trying to take care of all of us and I think he was overwhelmed.

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by laser200

Yep. Thats what happened...And you know what sux? I have not heard back from them. Yeah as soon as I got the condom on and I had my turn doing her it started to get limp. So I pulled out, took the condom off and she started oral while he was doing her. It never got hard again.
Im not going to bother them. I just hope they got some excitement.

Thanks for the reply Bro. I think your right. It also was very warm in the motel room. they just got there and the A/C hadn't cooled the room off yet and I was sweating liike crazy too and it freaked me out also. So yeah the NERVES was a factor for sure. I have done a few MMF threesomes b4 and all was ok because we all had a few drinks and talked and took it slow. This was walk in the door, shook hands with gentleman, took close off, started getting BJ. She was sexy woman too and the first word out of her mouth was "whoa"..LOL.. Followed by intense sucking. BUT...I was a little nervous because that was a first for me. Everything happened so fast. But anyways if they don't contact me back that's OK. I don't blame them. It does suck because I blew my fantasy of double vag. penetration and she was wanting that too and I surely couldn't get my limp thing in there. Ugh!

Not certain in your situation but many times, if and when we decide to play with a single male, it's usually a one time event. We don't look for regular, single male, playmates and treat it more like an "impulse buy"

Don't take it personally but if you continue to have the problem then maybe read some of the threads about Viagra or Cialis and see if they might be a fit for you. There are a lot of distractions in swinging and definitely stopping play to put on a condom is a penis killer that some of us just need a little extra boost to keep up during condom play.

[SecretAsianMan]

It's a common enough thing... usually caused by mental / emotional stuff. You're not 100% comfortable or relaxed with the situation... or nervous ... or you're feeling too hot or too cold - those are all situations I've encountered where it just hasn't happened for me at that moment.

The next time around... everything worked fine. But there are just instances where you're not fully comfortable & your penis is the first thing to tell you it ain't right.

[MsGoneWild]

while the (soon to be )Mr. and i have had this happen with a few of the single guys, most of the time it turned out to just be nerves or a known condition (one of the gentalmen we play with has a back problem and his meds can cause some problems sometimes).. BUT one time, with a couple the guy was having a problem getting and keeping and erection and this was not normal for him. He went to the doc after it persisted the diagnosis was that the muscles in his back were so constricted they were cutting off nerve signals to his penis and keeping him from getting an erection.

If its a one time thing, don't worry about it. But if it persists, see your doctor as there may be something underlying causing it.

[laser200]

Man!!!. Thank all of yall so much. i should have been on this forum a long time ago. Very supportive.
Thanks msgonewild...I have started taking blood pressure medicine since my last threesome about 2 years ago which was a success. But I have not had a any problems with GF's. So maybe the BP meds. are an issue. But mainly I think it was nerves. Its just darn funny how the penis works. The thing is I was turned on! It just wouldn't stay hard. I'm 41 and dating and usually have great erections. i didn't think I was doing to bad for that age. One thing I never have got to try was a double vaginal pen. and they were also wanting to try. She asked for it and I couldn't do it. I thought I was going to die. But like I said they were really awesome folks and we still had fun. She had about 6 orgasms. One thing I am proud of is that I gave her awesome oral I know a lot of guys dot like this but it was even better after he got done with her and she really liked having that too, Guess that's called sloppy oral..LOL..
Question. I don't consider myself bi or gay. But for instance. She was riding him reverse cowgirl while I licked her clit. It was very exciting for me. And they sure didn't seem to mind. She kept shoving my head down on her. And he asked if she liked that. New experience for me but it was hot as hell. I didn't lick him or want to. I just enjoyed eating her out with a dick in her at the same time. Does this mean I might be a little Bi? I think I will make a new thread on this topic. But once again thank yall so much for responding. BTW..He did contact me back and all is good. We may do this again in a few weeks. I wont count on it and if we don't its all good but Im hoping we do and Ill do better...

[Pleasure King]

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Lots of good information there on penis health.

[lizandtom]

Laser, I'd bet the ranch that the primary issue was that deep down you knew this woman had no idea who you were, you were just a stunt double dick to her, and that there wasn't any real chemistry with her. You can tell yourself how hot the girl is and that you know you should be really into her, but that's worlds different than if a girl sizes you up, digs what she sees, and goes hog wild for you.

I would never do a threesome again with a blindfolded wife who has no idea who I am, or if there's any chemistry or not. Did it once, was fun, girl was hotter than hot, but I had to rely on my oral and finger skills to get the job done. All the while I was telling myself, am I nuts? Beautiful blond in a teddy, awesome rack and legs, flat stomach total package...

[magnum]

Originally Posted by laser200

Ok.. I'm brand new on here but I need to turn to someone for help. First off I'm a 41 year old average male with a 7.5" penis. Not bad on the eyes. 165lbs/5'11". Today at 11:00am I met a couple for a threesome. We have been talking for a short time and arranged for a surprise meeting at hotel today. She was blind folded and he let me in and her surprise was very hot for all 3 of us just to make a long story short. She started sucking us both. I got hard. He laid her on the bed and I did oral. Then he started fucking her and she gave me oral. Then we took turns. The first time I fucked her i was hard but it started to get limp. I pulled out then he started as she gave me head. The damn thing would not get hard again. We worked on it for about 30 minutes but her boyfriends rock hard dick done worn her out. She took the blind fold off and was delighted to see me and we sat and talked for a while. I said I was very sorry that this never has happened before and it hasn't. She still had a great time. I ate her out a few times and she got to do a double blow job and managed to get us both in her mouth but I was still half limp. I couldn't even get a damn rubber on. Excuse me for being a little sharp but im very mad because I didn't perform well at all and I know she wanted a hard dick for this occasion. It was her first threesome with this guy. They are very very nice sweet respectful people and I hope they don't think I was turned off or something because I was turned on believe me. We didn't even get to do double Vag. as me and him talked about. Ergggg! But anyways I sure didn't mean to make a story out of this but has anyone had this happen tot them? What happened to my penis today?

Could have been meeting a "new couple" which made you nervous? Where you worriered about not being able to please her? Were you not attracted to her? Did the husband make you feel uncomfortable?

Maybe you "lost" the mood???

I know I have to be in the mood to play, although, I can say that I have always been able to get hard, it is staying engaged that can be a problem for me...If I am not in the mood etc.

There could be several reasons for that? Good luck...

[laser200]

Originally Posted by lizandtom

Laser, I'd bet the ranch that the primary issue was that deep down you knew this woman had no idea who you were, you were just a stunt double dick to her, and that there wasn't any real chemistry with her. You can tell yourself how hot the girl is and that you know you should be really into her, but that's worlds different than if a girl sizes you up, digs what she sees, and goes hog wild for you.

I would never do a threesome again with a blindfolded wife who has no idea who I am, or if there's any chemistry or not. Did it once, was fun, girl was hotter than hot, but I had to rely on my oral and finger skills to get the job done. All the while I was telling myself, am I nuts? Beautiful blond in a teddy, awesome rack and legs, flat stomach total package...

That about sums it up.... Thanks...

[onesweetashoney]

Sometimes it is all in your head and a little mental stability goes along way. My husband at first had no trouble during swinging, then we had one experience where he could not keep it up! this completely haunted him where it happened again. A friend gave him some generic viagra ( you can get it online) and has never had a problem! usually we will not swing with a new couple without it....he will tell you it is all in his head like a little security blanket. Oh and of course never happens with me. He says its the pressure sometimes of swinging and other guys we know in the lifestyle say its all happened to them and is usually worse the hotter the female. Hope this all helps and don't worry most swingers know this is normal