Beat by another girl!...:)

[kimba71]

Hi everyone.
First I would like to thank everyone for the advice you and info you gave to me in my last question, in regards to my girlfriend going down satirs alone with another man alone, It was very help full, and it help very much, as my girlfried I have talked about it and we understand each other, and are ok with everything.

I do have another question which might sound dumb, and funny because kind of is. last time we were at the club, and had a threesom with anothe women, it was great, but when we left and we were talking one the way home, She said the other girl was a really good kisser, and enjoyed she kissing here very much, and that she gave her really good orgasm, orally, at first I did not care because it was another girl, butt hen I started thinking about again today, and I started wondering, am I bad kisser or not able to give her the same orgasm as the girl did? I know that she likes to kiss me, and told me that I am good kisser, and I have been able to give her orgasm orally.
I guess I am just wondering if, I should not think about it, because often girls know more who to treat another girl as they know where all the women spots are, and what triggers them. More then a guy does. But I am just curious to know. Know I also know that this girl was not really our type as far as looks go, but we did like her personality and fun. Anyway. If any women could let me know if this is normal or comments it would be great again thank you for all your advice it is greatly appreciated

[LikeMinds321]

Hi kimba ~ I have to ask, since you are referring to your "girlfriend" (yet previously called her your wife) what is your relationship...are you married to her?

How long have you been together?


Your thoughts are not unusual and I wouldn't try to forget them, rather, discuss your thoughts with your girlfriend.

When you swing there will always be people she will have sex with who are as good as you at sex/kissing/etc. and some ever better.

If you continue to swing you'll need to be comfortable knowing this. If this isn't something you can handle, you shouldn't be swinging.

When a couple is in a sound, healthy, loving relationship they don't leave one another simply because they find someone who gives better oral, or kisses better. You should feel secure in knowing your level of committment to each other goes beyond sex.

The advantage to having someone different to have sex with is that you can often learn new things to do with your partner. Even if you can't do something just like someone else can, you can be happy that your partner has experienced a new pleasure when swinging with another person.

I don't seek out women to play with so I can't comment on whether women are better than men at finding women's hot spots.

LM

[AskMeOk]

This seems to beg a very simple question: "What did you like about what she did?"

Most women don't come with an Operator's Manual, so you're going to have to ask them for operating instructions and their evaluation of operator competence....

[N8ture Girl]

Like Minds said it well. Swinging is about experiencing the variety. So what if a playmate is better than you or her? If it bothers you in the slightest that a female is a better kisser or gives oral better, then how will you feel when a man comes along and does it better? It is common to feel as you do or question it. Just make sure you ARE ok with it or there could be problems down the road.
On another note, just because it she was a "good" kisser or was "great" at giving oral doesnt mean it was better, just could have been different in a good way

[DiscreetDesires]

Women are no better or worse at finding the hotspots on other women than men are.
All women don't work the same way, so even if a woman knows what works for her and tries it.. that doesn't mean it will work for another woman.
It's just different with another woman, and more times more sensual than the touch of a man.. but all women don't posses the sensuality as others will.

It's most likely because this was new and different and was very thrilling for her to experience.
Like others have said, there will be partners who are better than you are at kissing, oral, or sex with her and well as partners who are with you, that are better than she is.
If this is a problem, then you both need to discuss this and figure out where you go from here.