Headed to Meet and Greet after serious injury and I'm self-conscious

[Tnlovers]

Hello, We have been swinging lightly for about 4 yrs. Not a great deal of experience, maybe once a year or so. Recently I was involved in an accident that nearly took my life but I came away with an injury to my hand and now I am missing almost half of my middle finger and part of the thumb on L hand.

For the first time since we started swinging I am self conscious. I know its not an extremely noticeable injury but It's not something I am happy about either. I want people to see me for who I am and not have to tell the story a thousand times.

I am just wondering I guess how much of a deal breaker something like that is. Other than that I am in pretty good shape, decent looking and have not had any trouble at meet and greets getting attention from the ladies. This will be the first time since the accident that we have attended a function and I guess I am just a little nervous.

[PB&J]

I have a friend in the lifestyle who is missing one finger after an accident. It's never stopped me from playing with him.

[Fundamental Law]

From a healthcare professional...

Humans are curious. You will inevitably be asked. This will happen in the vanilla world as well. Your best strategy may be to develop and practice a one sentence remark such as, "I prefer not to discuss the accident other than to say that it has taught me to value each day and the people I am with."

In the vanilla world, this can be followed with a conversation changer such as "What's new with you today?"

I'll leave you to write your conversation changer at a M & G, or beyond.

[LikeMinds321]

Your unique hand wouldn't bother me at all, unless I could see that it was bothering you, then I'd have to focus more thought on your hand, your discomfort with your situation and how I'd need to help you feel better. Although I don't mind helping a person feel better about themselves, I'd rather get right to chatting you up, flirting and thinking about having sex with you. If I could tell from the moment I saw you that you weren't the least bit uncomfortable about missing a couple fingers that would be a plus in my book. I like self-confident people.

Many times in my life I've seen someone who had something physically different about themselves that was noticable at first, but I quickly thought no more about it when I could tell that person wasn't at all self-conscious.

Your attitude, how you carry yourself, will do wonders. I suggest never trying to hide your hand. Keep it as visible as you did before the accident. If I could tell you were trying to keep your hand out of view, I'd be thinking about your hand all the time.

You'll do great. After your first time out again, you'll feel right at home in no time.

LM

[LagniappeDC]

You'll see it here time and time again -- a good attitude, self confidence, a big smile are often what most of us here find attractive. Just be the same person you were before the accident!!

We've been to desire 3 times now and when you spend a good part of the day naked in front of others, every "flaw" is out there. Most often they go overlooked. Sometimes they generate discussion. Either way, it didn't get in the way of what we were all there for - to have fun with like minded couples.

At the end of the day, you also have to ask yourself, would you want to be with the type of people who would reject you simply because you have an injury?

Get out there and have fun!

xoxo

[Chicup]

If you are older, tell them it was in Vietnam
If you are younger Iraq.

(I keed).

[Tnlovers]

Thanks for the replies so far. I appreciate the kind comments. I am generally a fairly confident guy,(not arrogant just not shy or anything) I think I will just forget about it and let things happen however it turns out. One of the comments about saying it was Iraq or something brought up a story I thought I would tell.

I work in peoples homes and on computers etc. I was in a little old ladies house it was cold and I had left the wrap at home that I used to insulate my finger when it gets cold.

I found some electrical tape and wrapped it just long enough to get through the job and get to a Walgreens. I think I had been back to work a week. The little old lady asked me what happened to my finger and what I said was said jokingly and I thought she took it that way but later found out it wasn't seen that way. I told her I was messing around outside on her telephone pole (I do line work as well) and got it caught, it took the finger off at the joint but I wanted to finish her job before I went to get it looked at. She walked away. I thought she knew I was kidding. but to this day she thinks I hurt it at her house. I felt bad but also thought it was funny as hell. I'm tough but not that tough!

[lizandtom]

Jerry Garcia was missing 1/2 his middle finger since his teen years; didn't stop him from being a famous rock and roller.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Tnlovers

The little old lady asked me what happened to my finger and what I said was said jokingly and I thought she took it that way but later found out it wasn't seen that way. I told her I was messing around outside on her telephone pole (I do line work as well) and got it caught, it took the finger off at the joint but I wanted to finish her job before I went to get it looked at.

"Just walk it off Johnny!"

That's really the attitude to have with it; one of fun and indifference.

Based on your description of the accident, I was going to suggest that you tell everyone you have developed a modified version of The Shocker.

[Tnlovers]

I have found an inventive use for it. My wife loves the way I use it while eating her out. It massages perfectly just in side her pussy right at the g spot and a little forward. Makes her buck around on the bed. Maybe I should nickname it the rabbit! LOL

[AskMeOk]

Originally Posted by Tnlovers

Recently I was involved in an accident that nearly took my life but I came away with an injury to my hand and now I am missing almost half of my middle finger and part of the thumb on L hand.

For the first time since we started swinging I am self conscious

OK... pardon my poetic liberty, but... as a girlfriend once noted, "a two inch tongue beats a three inch finger, ANY day..."

Seriously, it probably won't be noticed, but if it is, most women expect a few scars and bruises on a real man.

Carry on, man..... waltz in and own the room.... it won't bother anybody else, don't let it bother you.....

[ALilOEverything]

Don't let it bother you, even if people strike up a conversation about it. It wouldn't deter me in the least. My husband has a finger that's disfigured from an accident, the nail is really distorted and no one has ever said a word. Most people aren't perfect and we each have our badges and stories. If you don't mind talking about it it might be an ice breaker. Then again I'm a nurse and love to talk about those kinds of things.