Can we request the removal of a certification of us on Swing Lifestyle?

[PB&J]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

How about this.. think a little differently.,. Taking a newbie under your wing and being the first to take thier cherries... you get the chance to "teach them" the proper etiquette within the lifestyle..

And remember, we all had to start somewhere

I know, I agree, new to lifestyle is okay- new to each other is NOT.

[fun4Ds]

PB&J, I am so sorry to hear this happened. Especially to you two !

I'm not sure how close they are in your personal lives ? Do you see them often ?

What if say a year or two from now they "change" for the better.... (people can and do), would you consider them again ?

[PB&J]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

PB&J, I am so sorry to hear this happened. Especially to you two !

I'm not sure how close they are in your personal lives ? Do you see them often ?

What if say a year or two from now they "change" for the better.... (people can and do), would you consider them again ?

Thank you, fun4Ds. Don't worry about us. It's irritating rather than upsetting, mostly because lying pisses me off royally.

We live an hours drive from them, and even in our swinging activities have no common points of intersection, like clubs or parties, so no, we won't be running into them.

I can't see us being willing to consider them again, and it's the lying that makes me say that. You see, if she wasn't happy with what he wanted (which is a relationship where he could go out and see other women, and she could see other men), she should have said so. However, I think that she thought (and maybe rightly) that if she did say that, he would not be as keen on continuing their relationship, because he REALLY wanted an open relationship. So, rather than lose that, she lied about me (and I'm assuming that previous woman) being rude to her. I don't appreciate being used like that.

I don't think that they are a good couple to be swinging with, because their core relationship is based on different expectations, and that's not going to create anything but trouble. They're going to have to change a hell of a lot to make their own relationship work, let alone relationships with others.

Luckily, our swinging life does not depend on them, so that's all good!!

[fun4Ds]

Thanks for explaining, J

I can totaly understand where your comming from.....

[PB&J]

Oh and it gets better...

We didn't get around to responding to their initial email... didn't want to get into a pissing match about lies, etc, so put it on the back burner. So she sent a text to PB asking if we'd gotten the email... he chose not to answer it. It was around then that I realized they are trying to create some drama between us! Obviously he was supposed to be upset that I ruined this sexual bonanza for him!!

Today PB got a text saying that both of them are more than willing for HIM to come over and visit. So yes... they are still willing to play with the husband of the woman who was "very rude" to her. I'm assuming that they think it will be behind my back, because why would PB want to pass up an AMAZING sexual opportunity like that?

I guess we'll have to send an email telling them to leave us alone. Or should we just ignore? I just added a nice little paragraph to our Swing Lifestyle profile about our preference for stable, long-term couples, and our aversion to deceit and lies... if they check that they might get the message.

Sigh...

However, we didn't spend much time worrying about it this weekend, as we were invited to visit friends that we've only played with previously in group situations. We had a delightful time!

[N8ture Girl]

Originally Posted by PB&J

I guess we'll have to send an email telling them to leave us alone. Or should we just ignore? I just added a nice little paragraph to our Swing Lifestyle profile about our preference for stable, long-term couples, and our aversion to deceit and lies... if they check that they might get the message.

Hmm, I think if it were me, I would send a reply back and say... "Thanks, but no thanks." and leave it at that.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by N8ture Girl

Hmm, I think if it were me, I would send a reply back and say... "Thanks, but no thanks." and leave it at that.

I'm with N8ture Girl on this one!

=)

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by PB&J

. . . However, we didn't spend much time worrying about it this weekend,

That's the way to go. Move forward with worthwhile prospects. You'll soon forget the insults of the past.

[PB&J]

Oh it's just all so silly. We've been shaking our heads and laughing over it all together. What a bonding experience for PB and me! I'm not sure if they're serious with their invite to him, or if they are trying to somehow mess us up here at home, and then slap him down too, but I'm sure that they don't think that we are just laughing at them- together.