MFM experience with extremely large cock left me feeling dwarfed..

[weatenan]

We have been swinging for a while now. well kind of, we really have only done mfm, go our own seperate ways once in a great while, we have done a swap one time but did not enjoy it as much.

We recently found someone new to have a mfm with, it was someone my wife knew that she was friends w/ during college. I met him and he seemed very nice and not pushy. For us as a couple we are very picky in the sense that we only will consider other men that she is physically attracted to, and can get a long with as a friend outside of everything.

My wife ran into him one day and mentioned possibly having a mfm get together with him b/c she always thought he was very attractive and they always got along well and it had been a long time since we have had fun.

we went out one night just the 3 of us and had some drinks and a good time, nothing happened and i gave the go ahead for the next meet up because i really liked the guy.
so, a few days later he came over and relaxed for a big, when we finally got started it was a typical meeting. when i finally saw him i was stunned at his size. i'm 7.5" and he made me look tiny, deffinetly double digits. I have never seen my wife be so vocal or twitch and move so much until that night. it was one of our best nights yet. the next night we talked about our experience like we always do, i hadnt told her that i noticed the size of him. but she said she loved every minuet of the experience, had never had so many orgasms in one night and couldnt wait to do it again, so we did.

my question is: i am not a jealous person, and we do this for our pleasure, and its obvious that she is enjoying it very much and has even increased our one on one experiences together. she recently asked me if it would be ok to be alone with him when and if i am not availible, (which we have done once before). So i asked her about his size, and she said that she too was stunned and didnt think they existed only in the movies but she had reached a new height because of it and gave her completly different feeling than ever before. so i am leaving for the weekend and she told me she plans on staying over with him while i am gone. do i need to be worried about this? will i still be able to please her myself if she gets to "used" to his size? i mentioned that sometime we should have me just watch, which she agreed to but wasnt interested in ever before this guy.

[Mobile]

I'm a total newbie here, but this sure seems like a weird thing. I mean, at 7.5" you are like in the 99th percentile of all men. And if he was 10" plus, he had to be in the 99.999th percentile.

My gut reaction is you need to get a new ruler.

But if your figures are correct, how do you think all the other guys in your MFM's felt? Weren't you substantially larger than all of them?

But back to your question, if you're not comfortable with them being together without you, then why not just tell her that. If you don't want to invite him to another MFM, that's ok too, right?

[sweet_tna]

I'm not a guy, so I can't identify with your feeling exactly. But I have played with guys whose packages are larger than my hubby's (and yes, I've played alone with one such guy). And rest assured, while it was a novelty and exciting as hell, I'd still rather be with Mr. Sweet any day of the week and twice on Sunday.

That said, if you're feeling antsy about this, then talk to your wife. You're under no obligation to do anything that you're uncomfortable with.

=)

[Dave_kat]

Every person in the world is built differently. There will always be someone longer, someone shorter, someone thicker, someone thinner. We can't always be on the top end of the bell curve on this one.

While it's natural to be worried about his size, you need to remember something.. Your wife married you, not your penis. Swinging is about experiencing those differences, but holding onto your own love with your SO.

In other words, he's bigger than you. Other men have let you play with their SOs and you're bigger than they are - do you think they were worried about that? They knew where their SOs were coming home to sleep, and so should you know.

[weatenan]

Mobile: i would highly doubt 7.5" is in the 99% been in many of locker rooms in my day and i can honestly say im not the biggest or the bumble bee's. and i do measure correctly so no i dont think i am that far off in his size. maybe you are right maybe its 9" and a 1.5" diff makes it look much bigger. but all i can say is he is almost my size when im erect and he is flacid. but maybe you are rt on just telling her. just dont want jealousy to appear to be an issue after all these years and she is having fun with it.

sweet tna: thank you for your reply, that helps a lot hearing a womens perspective always does help. i havent tried talking to her on the issue of me feeling "antsy" about it, just about the experience in general and she enjoyed it so much that i didnt want to say anything to detour her from our enjoyment.

Dave kat, you are right, she does come home to me and i would say she didnt marry me for my penis haha

[Speed & Trixie]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

And rest assured, while it was a novelty and exciting as hell, I'd still rather be with Mr. Sweet any day of the week and twice on Sunday.


=)

(except replace "Mr. Sweet" with "Speed" )

And Speed had played with women who have different body types than mine -- and I have no doubt that he loves me (and my body) all the more!

Swinging is about variety, yes? And having fun? As long as this guy is respectful and everyone's having fun, it sounds like you'll get past this little "twinge" of... discomfort.

Trixie

[JustAskJulie]

If you aren't comfortable, don't do it.

I had a little waving at the mention that she was going to stay overnight with him while you are gone out of town. That just seems like a lot more than just playing with him when you can't be there.

[DE_BBC]

Originally Posted by Dave_kat

Every person in the world is built differently. There will always be someone longer, someone shorter, someone thicker, someone thinner. We can't always be on the top end of the bell curve on this one.

While it's natural to be worried about his size, you need to remember something.. Your wife married you, not your penis. Swinging is about experiencing those differences, but holding onto your own love with your SO.

In other words, he's bigger than you. Other men have let you play with their SOs and you're bigger than they are - do you think they were worried about that? They knew where their SOs were coming home to sleep, and so should you know.

yep...so true.

[JandY]

If you're 7.5" you got nothing to worry about.

(The following is NOT for boasting purposes, but just to make a point) I hover between 8 and 8.5 on a good day (when the tide is high and the blood is REALLY pumping).

The male half of our swing-partners is, at best, 6" and having both seen it and played with it, I can vouch that 6" is more than enough (and you're 7.5").

Think about it. Go get a 6" nail from the shed and look at the size of that thing.

If the whole body was in proportion, my pal would be about 5'10" but you'd be 7'6" tall.

Both girls agree that the sight differential is quite great, but the actual action part is irrelevant.

Who the heck would even WANT 10"?

On the subject of percentages, apparently I'm one in three hundred and you're one of only three per hundred - so you're blessed (see below).

Average Penis Size


I only rate "B""on the following and the other guy fucking your wife is a "C" at best.

The Authentic Women's Penis Size Preference Chart [PIC]

You might be an "A".

Deffinately no penile dwarf, old chap.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

If you aren't comfortable, don't do it.

I had a little waving at the mention that she was going to stay overnight with him while you are gone out of town. That just seems like a lot more than just playing with him when you can't be there.

I'm with Julie on this thought.

There is waaaay more to be thinking about than the size of your cock compared to his cock.

How unusual was it for your wife to just "happen to run into" an old college friend one day? There is this little warning beeper going off in my head. I could be way too suspicious, but I'd rather give thought to all possibilities than not.

If you aren't comfortable about your wife playing with this guy alone while you're out of town - or even when you're in town - tell your wife and hold off with this plan.

Since it's already Friday night, my post may be too late to make a difference in your decision. Come back and let us know what you decided to do.

LM

[it'sso]

Being at the other end of the spectrum from both you and your wife's new playmate, (or possibly old playmate?) I do think I am familiar with that "feeling" that you have about this, since I too shared it a time or two, in the past. I can tell you that if she wishes to meet this guy when you aren't around, then "swinging" in no way describes the lifestyle the to of you have chosen.
If you intend to go along with it, perhaps you need to find an occasional dish to see alone from time to time. Perhaps one who offers attributes that your dear wife can't provide you.

[safireblues]

I have been with a much bigger guy and...ok...to be graphic. The vaginal sex was incredible! Like change your life incredible.

My hubby is bigger (and thicker) than average, but I know he felt a bit dwarfed in the moment. Here's the thing about a big dick though--it's awesome in the novelty, and on an occasional basis, but if I had to deal with that monster every day, it would be a problem.

I can't imagine being able to fuck like that all the time, anal is definitely out, and I couldn't fit hardly any of him in my mouth. While he was great to play with, it's impractical...

now, a dick like yours...well, a girl can love that dick

[safireblues]

oh, and I can stay with others, and so can my hubby...don't let the dick size scare you.

However, if you feel like she's super into him emotionally and physically and everything else, you may want to move slowly on the "staying alone" thing. If she is really into him, move slowly until everyone knows the rules.

Is he just a single guy? Does he want your wife, would he want a relationship with her or is there a reason he's not capable of anything beyond sex right now?

I'd say move super super slow until her "dickmatization" dies down.

[Additude]

The weekend is over sir and what say you?

How did that work out for you, the wife and Mr. Ten Incher?

[it'sso]

Perhaps if the OP wishes to gain some comfort from his wife's overnighter while he is out of town, he might prefer she spend it with me and my "massive" 4.5 incher?