MFM experience with extremely large cock left me feeling dwarfed..

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by it'sso

I can tell you that if she wishes to meet this guy when you aren't around, then "swinging" in no way describes the lifestyle the to of you have chosen.

Mrs. CXXC and I play together as well as separate. We actually consider ourselves swinging. How would you define it?

Originally Posted by it'sso

If you intend to go along with it, perhaps you need to find an occasional dish to see alone from time to time. Perhaps one who offers attributes that your dear wife can't provide you.

That sounds almost spiteful.

I think the biggest point that must be hammered home is that the OP needs to make his feelings known to his wife. Openness is the best way to resolve this fear or issue.

[ERICANDANN1]

Originally Posted by weatenan

she recently asked me if it would be ok to be alone with him when and if i am not availible, (which we have done once before). so i am leaving for the weekend and she told me she plans on staying over with him while i am gone. do i need to be worried about this?

Uh yeah!!!!!!!! I don't know what your relationship is or isn't. For my wife and I we would never play without the other present somewhere. We, and this is just us, have never understood why a married couple would allow one or both to go off on their own for a night, weekend etc. with someone else without the other. We are in this together and for each other. I would never allow my wife to spend a night or a weekend with someone else by herself and I know she would never allow me to do that either with another woman. Not because of jealousy but, rather in our case we feel it would be disrespectful not to mention that it could potentially lead to developing damaging issues or other problems. If you are comfortable with doing that than by all means do it but, my wife and I got into swinging to enjoy ourselves and to make great friends and have fun with each other. As far as penis size goes I would not let it bother you. Bottom line is you got what you got. Take care and good luck.

[it'sso]

Originally Posted by CXXC

Mrs. CXXC and I play together as well as separate. We actually consider ourselves swinging. How would you define it?


That sounds almost spiteful.

I think the biggest point that must be hammered home is that the OP needs to make his feelings known to his wife. Openness is the best way to resolve this fear or issue.

If you both get to fly solo, then it may be considered as anything YOU wish it to be. If only one of you has the privilege, then others will consider it to be a one sided affair.
When a couple is into something "together" it usually means that both get to enjoy the fruits of the endeavor.
I would have no problem in my wife doing as suggested by the OP providing that I too would be free to do as I wish anytime I wished it.
This seldom is the case in most relationships with which I am familiar.
Not spiteful. Just stating MY viewpoint.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by it'sso

If you both get to fly solo, then it may be considered as anything YOU wish it to be. If only one of you has the privilege, then others will consider it to be a one sided affair.
When a couple is into something "together" it usually means that both get to enjoy the fruits of the endeavor.
I would have no problem in my wife doing as suggested by the OP providing that I too would be free to do as I wish anytime I wished it.
This seldom is the case in most relationships with which I am familiar.
Not spiteful. Just stating MY viewpoint.

Originally Posted by it'sso
If you intend to go along with it, perhaps you need to find an occasional dish to see alone from time to time. Perhaps one who offers attributes that your dear wife can't provide you.

This was the statement I felt could be found as spiteful. Going out and finding a woman with qualities your wifes does not have struck me funny. That is all!

Providing both parties agree and have equality in their activities (Not always physically, see Hot Wife and Cuckhold) I cannot see that there can be an issue unless one move beyond the boundries that have been established. If they have both played solo and she would like to do that agian, I feel she should be albe to do so. However, as he has nothing lined up for himself, perhaps he is feeling a tad left out and is now reconsidering the activities.

The fact that she wants to stay over with her play mate is stated in such a "Matter-of-fact" way by the OP I wonder if that is really an issue at all.

I could be reading this entire situation incorrectly.

As for Mrs. CXXC and myself, providing we stick to our ground rules, solo or couple play is a wonderful thing. If she called me up while I am out of town and informed me of an opportunity to play, I could not say no as I am afforded the very same from her.

[YZF]

Originally Posted by ERICANDANN1

For my wife and I we would never play without the other present somewhere. We, and this is just us, have never understood why a married couple would allow one or both to go off on their own for a night, weekend etc. with someone else without the other. We are in this together and for each other.

Mrs. YZF and I did that once. And we wound up with a permanent third as a result. Not that I mind (two women in my bed every night, I'd be crazy to mind), but anything can happen in those situations.

[CXXC]

I decided to say SCREW convention! I am not going to use standard or metric measuring systems. As I travel so much, most of my time is spent working with maps. That being said, I am going to be using Rand McNally's legend as my rule. Wow! 1237 Miles! Woooo Hooo! I think I have a world record going on here!
My suggestion is to start at Key West and work your way North. If you hit New England, you are a Stud! If you only get to GA, well, ummm,

[it'sso]

"As for Mrs. CXXC and myself, providing we stick to our ground rules, solo or couple play is a wonderful thing. If she called me up while I am out of town and informed me of an opportunity to play, I could not say no as I am afforded the very same from her."

Ergo, both your wife and you appear to have a relationship different than that of the OP. Regarding my suggestion of him finding a playmate that can offer him something which his wife doesn't, presently, Isn't this, in fact what his wife has been enjoying?
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[curiousagain]

As a SM I don't think you need to worry about size, but you don't sound comfortable with her staying with the SM while you are out of town. Forr some couples/singles that would be no problem but since you aren't comfortable with it, it's a no brainer. She shouldn't do it. Maybe at another time you will be comfortable but until then, just don't.

Everybody is into what they're are in to. Obviously at this time, it's not for you so it's not for "y'all".

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by it'sso

Ergo, both your wife and you appear to have a relationship different than that of the OP. Regarding my suggestion of him finding a playmate that can offer him something which his wife doesn't, presently, Isn't this, in fact what his wife has been enjoying?
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I cannot disagree with you. I guess it was the way it struck me at the time or the way I read it. It just sounded so tit-for-tat. The biggest point however, is that the OP needs to tell his wife how he feels. Ignorance will only bring aobut more mistakes and heartbreak.

[willyoats]

Here we go again with the worry about size of the other guy's cock. So she had a really good time with another cock. So what, provided she comes home to you all the time.

My wife has had some REALLY good times with cocks that are bigger, especially thicker, than mine. but for the whole package to spend a lifetime with, I have no worries. I win hands down every time, even after she screwed a lot when I wasn't around.

What counts is whether she is attracted to much more than the big cock, which may well be a passing fancy. That's the time to worry.

[The Fuse]

Hear, hear!

[turnuptheheat]

Originally Posted by safireblues

I have been with a much bigger guy and...ok...to be graphic. The vaginal sex was incredible! Like change your life incredible.

Interesting. After reading so much about how cock size does not matter, this is a real curiosity.
Is there more that you could add about "change your life incredible"?

[JTcamp05]

Originally Posted by safireblues

Here's the thing about a big dick though--it's awesome in the novelty, and on an occasional basis, but if I had to deal with that monster every day, it would be a problem.

I can't imagine being able to fuck like that all the time, anal is definitely out, and I couldn't fit hardly any of him in my mouth. While he was great to play with, it's impractical...

now, a dick like yours...well, a girl can love that dick

I think many woman will agree.....I'm no expert, but in my experience the ladys are more comfotrable with the average cock... Not to say its not fun to "play" once in a while! I wouldnt worry a bit!

[joaninla]

Originally Posted by JTcamp05

I think many woman will agree.....I'm no expert, but in my experience the ladys are more comfotrable with the average cock... Not to say its not fun to "play" once in a while! I wouldnt worry a bit!

I've got to agree. A big cock is fun every now and then, but I too am far more comfortable with the average.

[GerdOEvert]

We used to party at "The Inn Place in DC'. It burned down and never reopened.

There was a guy who was thre from time to time. 5'9" maybe, and with a 10, 12, 14 inch slim cock. I did not take a tape to measure it
but it was "looooonnnnnngggggg"

The ladies loved him.

He said he was in "Vacuum Cleaner Sales" I think he was joshing us.

Otto and Eileen