Party couple were no-shows...Are we being played?

[lardub]

Hello everyone, I'm not the most masterful writer and to be truthful my spelling and grammer suck, I will do my best lol..
Anyway about six weeks ago S (my wife) and I attended a house party with about ten or twelve couples. As it was our first foray into the house party realm, we were nervous and weren't sure what to expect, the night started off well with us sticking to each other and standing mostly by ourselves. The host were wonderful and indroduced us to each couple as they arrived, after all who had signed up arrived the games began we started feeling much more relaxed and some of the games included interaction with the other guest, kissing etc, I'm sure you all know.
Anyway we spent most of the evening with the couple who sat directly next to us, as the games ended and everyone started pairing up and going to rooms, we went out to have a smoke and discuss what or who should be our focus for the evening. Well the couple next to us I was attracted to the female but alas S said the male didn't do anything for her, so we agreed that we would be cordial and bow out of any play situation that may arise, much to my regret. when we re-entered the house. S noticed a guy and stated "Oh I could go for that" well the female did nothing for me and I voiced that and said I would take one for the team. She reminded me of our rule for the night that we both have to feel comfortable, and that their would be no team building.
So we spent the rest of the night sitting in the living room with a number of other couples chatting and learning about local clubs and other idle chit chat.
Well the time came for us to leave as S had to work in the morning and as we got up and started to say our goodbyes we met a couple and both of us were instantly attracted to both of them, we chatted for about a half hour exchanged emails and left.
Since then we have been in contact with the male half through MSN chat on a regular basis. This past weekend we attended the same house party and waited for them to arrive, they never did, it put a huge damper on the evening, as S had been chating with him and we were under the impression that they would be there.
Monday evening I was on the PC and got an instant message from him, he stated they had gotten the weekends mixed up, I guess it could happen but why would he not say something to S when he was chatting with her. The big problem here is that we have made plans with them for a weekend away, and last nite he stated that maybe they should register soon, I have red flags going off, as our time is very important to us and I wonder should we just move on or just put it down to human nature and give them another shot as we really seem to hit it off when we met and when ever we have chatted. We have already registered for this weekend arranged time off work, and someone to watch the kids. Should we just keep on with our plans as this is a lifestyle weekend and attend and make the best of it. Its just a real downer as their is a high level of attraction.
I guess I'm not really asking much here am I, perhaps its just an exercise in getting it down and thinking about it, kinda like venting lol
L & S

[TNT]

Originally Posted by lardub

Should we just keep on with our plans as this is a lifestyle weekend and attend and make the best of it.

Ummmm, yes.

Why are you allowing the fun you can have be determined by one couple showing or not showing up?

There have been times that we've been to house parties hoping that a particular couple or single man would show up...yes, there was a mild sense of disappointment that they didn't make it but, we damn sure didn't let it interfere with the fun we had.

It's great when you meet a couple where there is all around mutual attraction but, its not wise to be so caught up in them that you can't have fun if they don't show at any particular event.

Go to your weekend event, have fun and don't let the fact that this couple may or may not show be the determining factor in you two having a good time.


Teresa

[lardub]

Thank you for replying, I fully intend to show S this once she gets home from work, gotta love sick days, except for the being sick part...
Larry

[Edison Carter]

Ed here-- Do not develop emotional attachments or expectations for people you really don't know that well. More importantly, they may be great for sex but not the most courteous or responsible in other aspects of their lives. This is fine, because it's just supposed to be about great sex.

As is often the case, TNT has it right on this one. We've had more than one occasion where plans to meet up with another couple at a house party or the local club have fallen through. In several cases, it's actually turned out to be a benefit as we've unexpectedly met some really fun people we might not have, had we been "tied up" with a planned meeting. Go, have fun and look at it as a possible opportunity to meet new people!

Mr. Cpl.

[sweet_tna]

As usual, TNT's right on the money. If you're gonna' go to a house party/social/whatever, do so because ya'll want to go. IF the couple you were hoping to see shows up . . . the whoo-hoo. If not, then see who else trips your trigger.

=)

[PB&J]

We've made this mistake early on in our swinging career. Just go out and enjoy yourselves, wherever you're going. It's always fun to see who's going to show up... sometimes things have a way of working out.

[lardub]

Thanks everyone for the advice, I'm thinking we will take that advice and just go and make the best of what ever fate throws our way.
We've also decided that from now on we will tell couples that this is where we will be if you show great and perhaps we can have some playtime. Watch this we will end up somewhere and have to divide our time between two couples, because they will all show up, although if all agree could be the makings of a fine evening, six people lots of imagination...

[JustAskJulie]

to TNT as well. Don't go to house parties (or any parties/clubs) with expectations of hooking up with a particular couple, or any expectations of something particular happening. YOu'll only be let down as you already learned. GO to have fun and what happens happens. If they show up, great. If they show up and you hook up EVEN BETTER. If they don't show up, meet new friends and perhaps you will find another couple that you enjoy even more. And consider that they could show up and things just not work out for the four of you to play... don't count on it. Make your own opportunities, and make your own fun. Don't count on others for it. If there's not a couple there that you want to play with all the way around, go play with each other

[exploringRM]

Its been mentioned in other threads, but we find it easier at a house party to agree that we can play alone if the opportunity arises. That takes the she's hot/he's not problem away. When we first started our rule was same room and we play with couples. Well that didn't last along time. We do strive to meet couples for playtimes at clubs or more private evenings but when we hit a house party it's a little more wild for us.

Of course that has caused some fun "score" keeping as I have found more women I like (and played with) at parties than she has men..lol.