Daughter caught us - How to handle this?

[Alura]

My first thought was, "Just who got caught?"

I think y'all handled the situation with perfection. Communication is always the answer. Y'all opened up a whole new arena of understanding. You and your daughter will never have to be afraid to share thoughts again, no matter what the subject.

Congratulations!

Mr. Alura

[dodgechevy]

Originally Posted by Alura

My first thought was, "Just who got caught?"

Mr. Alura

Hehehe.

Just had a funny thought, imagine somewhere out on the web. The daughter has started her own thread on how she was caught by her parents?

[Additude]

Originally Posted by Alura

My first thought was, "Just who got caught?"

I think y'all handled the situation with perfection. Communication is always the answer. Y'all opened up a whole new arena of understanding. You and your daughter will never have to be afraid to share thoughts again, no matter what the subject.

Congratulations!

Mr. Alura

And along with Mr. Alura's train of thought, which makes a good point, have you considered what you & your daughter are going to do regarding any future meetings at swinger events?

That might be something to think about.

[Chitowndk4u]

I love reading happy endings like this.

[realcplub2]

Kudos To PlayingNow

I would tend to agree that the issue you Daughter wrestled with wasnt that Mom and Dad were there playing rather that she was seen there getting ready to partake.

The embarassment, she has been going thru seems like what any daughter would, after being caught, in the act or as in this case, nearly in the act.. Its normal, and again Kudos to how you handled it.

We have had similar discussions after our daughter in law made a few comments, and it was clear either our oldest son had talked and she knew we were, or it went further than that, and they have seen a profile or posting out on the web somewhere.

We both agree that if any of the kids were to bring it up, we would be honest with them and explain it, much the same as you did.

[JustAskJulie]

I'm glad to hear that it worked out well in the end. THere's really no reason it should not have as there's no reason to lie about anything when it's already out there. I would suggest that you find some way to avoid running into each other at the same parties in the future...lol.

[dumbasarock10]

Wow, that is impressive. The closest I've come is simply being caught naked at the resort by my mother. My mother actually got me the membership; she's the DJ. But up until about 3 years ago, I was always too prudish to go full monty. Well, one night, 3 tequila's and a cute blonde waitress at the hot tub later, I loose the inhibitions, and the clothes. I'm figuring "Mom's up at the DJ booth, she won't come out here. Well...."Hey son, want me to bring you another drink?" Like it was nothing at all. I turned and ducked down into the water as fast as I could while everyone else laughed at me. "Oh stop it. I saw it before you did." she says. She of course, wears a bikini at the club house so I'm spared that trauma. Of course, now seeing your situation, mine seems superfluous. And I hope you'll forgive me, but upon first reading the story, just the initial awkwardness of it was amusing. I couldn't help but crack a smile. It's like something out of an episode of Seinfeld. I don't mean to make light of your distress, and I could never imagine, I'm sure it was traumatic. But what are the odds of that happening anyways?

[VanHlebar]

Just wanted to add that I am glad everything worked out for the best and yea even I got a little misty upon reading your daughter's concern.

We have done our best to try and foster an open relationship with all four of our kids and we have tried with those that are old enough to let them know that sex is nothing to be ashamed of and is very natural. We are pretty sure that my two children, the oldest of the four, know about our lifestyle. Neither have ever said anything directly but have made off comments about our "friendships" with certain friends.

MrsVan and I have often had conversations about what we would do if we ran into one of our children at a club or party and well, you just can't really know unless you are in that situation.

On the question asked by someone else of what are the odds of running into a child at a party/club, for us I think probably higher than average. We have 3 children that are very open and one in particular is way too much like me. Hopefully we never have it come up, but if we do, I sure hope that we are able to handle the situation as wonderfully as you have!

-Van

[cocpl2007]

Originally Posted by Playingnow

It has been nearly two weeks now since running into our daughter at the party. She finally called me last night late. I could hear the tention in her voice. I said nothing and let her ask first which she did. I told her that her Mom and I had been playing for a year now and just because we were enjoying sexual pleasures from others, didn't mean any loss in our love for each other.

I never asked her why she was there. I didn't have to. She began explaining to me why and I interupted her. I told her it was her freedome to do as she wished and she didn't have to explain. She reminded me of how protective I was as she was growing up and I told her because I loved her and didn't want her to get hurt by some young boy who only had one thing on his mind. Her perfect little body. She does have a perfect little body and unlike me, is very cute.

I told her not to embarressed by the situation and not to let this ruin her feelings of sharing with others as long as she plays safely.

I guess hearing this coming from her Dad, made things a little easier, I think! She then asked me something I wasn't expecting. Would I be able to hug her and hold her in my arms like I always have in the past. I asked her why I wouldn't be able to. I told her I had always held her and hugged her with love from my heart. She said yes, but now I had seen her naked and seen her exploring her sexual side. I asured her I was not upset and would never judge her for enjoying life.

So we are taking it from here.

Seems like you've had an excellent outcome, in spite of all of your angst about the possible repercussions of your Daughter's discovery. Our heart goes out to you all. Good Luck

The Co's

[Miss Sunshine]

how about an update? have you played with your daughter there since?

[ArousedInterest]

Wow, that would be a shock. Seems like it all will be OK, though.
We are lucky ours are to young yet, for a situation like that to happen yet.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by Miss Sunshine

how about an update? have you played with your daughter there since?

I do believe this was the issue in question...

Rather, the new issue that needs to be addressed since everything has fallen into place.. a schedule and cross checks to make sure to be a seperate parties/clubs to avoid the future tensions

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Miss Sunshine

how about an update? have you played with your daughter there since?

I realize that it is an egregious breach of bulletin board etiquette to publicly correct somebody's spelling, grammar or punctuation. But this one is a screamer, so I must.

I hope you meant to ask, "Have you since then played while your daughter was there?"

[Miss Sunshine]

no offense, but I don't need you correcting anything. If you feel a need ,find a board for the obsessive and compulsive grammar nazis

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Miss Sunshine

If you feel a need ,find a board for the obsessive and compulsive grammar nazis

Such places exist?

I apologize. I was wrong to characterize this as improper grammer.

I perceived something in the order of the words: have you played with your daughter there since as compared to have you played since with your daughter there.