were we had?

[xsexycouplex28x]

We get a message from what we thought was a couple...to attend a lil party just a few couples..right before we get there we call the guy to see how to get their...he infroms us the his g/f which turned into a friend was still working and didnt know when she would get off....but theres gonna be more couples coming....soo we attend and find out that the couple just left soo now its me my girl and the male part of the couple...drinking and having fun in the hot tub....one thing leads to another and we basically full swap with the guy....even though he is a lil pushy...she likes it ...but it wasnt until afterwards that we thought about it....did we just get played by a posing single guy...?

now I feel as we should have stoped what was going on and relized but...It was really just the heat of the moment....

And now me the male part feels like I should have stoped it....

just wondering if anyone else has had an experince like this......

[LFM2]

Yeah, it's possible he was NOT part of a couple and it's possible that there weren't other couples invited to this party. Some people will use what ever line works to get what they want. From your post, this guy sounds like a manipulator and a user. Steer clear of these fakers as much as you can.

[BiloxiCouple]

The party doesn't start till you want it to.......

[xsexycouplex28x]

wow...I dont know what to say....we competly got lost in the moment...and we usually are soo careful...I should have know from his pushyness....

[fun4Ds]

You really wont know unless you keep in contact with him and find the pattern. Or at least his girlfriend. Did you even get a chance to talk on the phone with his partner ? A call to work or cell phone should have been in order.... I would think

Other wise, I hope he was good at sex..... Then at least you HAD him

We've HAD a few

[2inSanDiego4u]

Originally Posted by xsexycouplex28x

wow...I dont know what to say....we competly got lost in the moment...and we usually are soo careful...I should have know from his pushyness....

Well, you've learned your lesson, so next time just be much more careful about this sort of situation. We always meet couples for coffee or drinks first in a public place before things go any further. This effectively weeds out all the fakes and flakes out there.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

The party doesn't start till you want it to.......

That says it all right there!


I guess if you want to verify his status, you could let him know you'd love to get together with him AND his friend/girlfriend, then see how far he takes it before offering excuses.
(personally I wouldn't bother, but take it as a lesson learned and move on).

[jjtrindc]

Interesting that your question is "Were we had?" -- cause it sounds like you had a good time. Now do we think that he was a single guy? Most definitely based on the circumstances. Had we shown up and found it to be just the one person, we would have bailed. That's us. MFM's just aren't are party. But you had fun so that's great. I guess that's one way to learn a lesson the fun way.

[xsexycouplex28x]

yea...but I feel like I (the male part) should have steped in and stoped it....and I feel as the guy is just some scum bag who lied to us both...and we should have bailed once we got there but...I don't know what was going threw my head....kinda left us rethinkin the whole lifestyle....

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by xsexycouplex28x

kinda left us rethinkin the whole lifestyle....

I totally understand why you'd say that, however, I don't have a problem with the lifestyle, but just maybe be more careful in the future.

Be a little more wary with men (and women for that matter) who pose as married or having a significant other and then that significant other is "unavailable" when it matters. This is where you have to learn to follow your gut and just leave. Tell him you'd love to meet again when he's/she's there. Also, just for safety sake, we alway meet the first time in a neutral place. Cafe or diner would work.

Good luck in the future.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by xsexycouplex28x

yea...but I feel like I (the male part) should have steped in and stoped it....and I feel as the guy is just some scum bag who lied to us both...and we should have bailed once we got there but...I don't know what was going threw my head....kinda left us rethinkin the whole lifestyle....

Yeah, sounds like you were HAD--literally and figuratively. But, since your lady wife seemed to enjoy it, then it's not a total wash. That said, I highly recommend you do a better job of following your instincts next time. If something doesn't feel right . . . SPEAK UP.

=)

[xsexycouplex28x]

yeaa I guess its just a lesson learned.......just felt like we should have known better

thanks guys...

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by xsexycouplex28x

yeaa I guess its just a lesson learned.......just felt like we should have known better

thanks guys...

And here's the other lesson to be learned: We all make mistakes, and there's no sense beating ourselves up about it when we do. (Unless, of course, you're into that . . . )

Just learn from the mistakes and move on.

=)

[realcplub2]

We MUST learn a little more each day.. Here is the lesson for today..

When invited to a party, and the excuses are fast coming.. and YOUR the only couple there.. Oh yes its a party.. and you are the party FAVORS

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by xsexycouplex28x

yea...but I feel like I (the male part) should have steped in and stoped it....and I feel as the guy is just some scum bag who lied to us both...and we should have bailed once we got there but...I don't know what was going threw my head....kinda left us rethinkin the whole lifestyle....

Think of it this way...

If you dated a woman who jacked you around, didn't show up for a date, and when she did she brought along another guy and you never got a moment alone with her to even talk, would you be kinda rethinkin dating women?

I don't think so

If you and your wife had fun, take the fun. Don't over analyze. You probably were had. So what?

For the future, decide if you want to accept a situation like this. If you don't, a polite "thanks but no thanks" is all it takes. Let him know that the two of you play with couples only, no exceptions. That's how it works for my wife and I. Couples only, and same room. Else, it's a non-starter and we won't play. The important part here is YOU get to decide, not the person you're meeting up with.

To my wife and I, lying is ugly and a complete turn off. We don't care if you don't tell us everything, or even 1%. But, what you do tell us should be the truth.