Sex on her period??

[awesomecplmn]

So we are scheduled to attend a party this Saturday and my period just started today. Then if I count forward, I am scheduled to get it a couple days before another big party we wanted to attend. Is this the universe's way of telling me it's not liking my new lifestyle??

Hubby doesn't like to have sex while I am on my period, but I've heard lore of men who love it. What's the story? Are any swingers getting lucky during that time of the month, and HOW on earth does one approach getting THAT out on the table??

[SecretAsianMan]

I know a few gals who've come to parties and have asked the guests not to involve her in any type of intercourse (nor receive oral) because her period showed up. Some choose to simply be voyeurs that night ... or they get involved by doing everything else NOT involving her genitals (giving oral, manual stimulations, having her breasts fondled & played with, etc.)

It'll vary from person to person if they want to engage in any type of intercourse during their period. Some guys are okay with it. Some gals are okay with doing it. Some are totally freaked by it and don't want to at all... others like it so much that it's practically a fetish.

What are you most comfortable with? ...and simply let the people you're thinking of playing with that night know your circumstances and discuss what y'all would be okay with.

[tribbles]

So far, the ladies just say it "I'm on my period" and then conversation of what they are comfortable with is next.

The Mr does enjoy playing with ladies on their periods....he even has his 'red wings'. (So he earned the first with me, but he has others now!) I confess, I just can't seem to get mine. But fingers and toys have been fun to use. We just put a towel or two down and play.

[jjtrindc]

Exact same thing happened to us recently. We were planning on going to a private party when my wife realized that she would be on her period. We decided to cancel. On the positive side, it opened up the evening for her to go to a pole dancing intro class she'd been interested in...lol. A win win in my book!

We personally have no problem have sex while she is on her period, but really depends on her mood. Because we have kids, getting out for the night is a pretty major investment of time and cost and she didn't want to risk "not feeling sexy". Had it been an off-premise event the equation may have been different.

As you say, lots of different people in the lifestyle. If you are up to playing during that time of the month, go for it.

[Opportunists]

periods happen... doesn't do any good to get frustrated about them. just tell people you are on your period. we would recommend sooner, rather than later.

the last two times we went out with couples, they let things progress nicely and then sprung the news on the way home.

i know mrs. opps doesn't feel too sexy in any capacity when she's on hers, so we usually find other things to do that don't involve swingers that weekend.

[realcplub2]

As a general rule, we dont play with others while the Mrs is on hers.. However, She does enjoy the fun we share together instead.

For her its more a issue of how it might be recieved by others.. Breasts are more sensative, and verge on painful to be even lightly played with. And then there is the "mess"

[sweet_tna]

For me, it would depend on the type of party it was. If it was more of a Meet n' Greet/off-premise party, I'd go and just have fun hanging out & meeting new folks. Any play below the waist would be off limits for me. And of course, we'd let folks know right off.

You should do whatever you're comfortable with. Just make sure you communicate your situation to others.

=)

[rpu3]

Some of the women on the Board have had success using Instead as protection when swinging on one's period.

I don't have sex on my period with men other than the spouse and even with the spouse, I'm not doing it until the last couple of days when it's far less of an issue. I'm not interested the first three days whatsoever due to my general crankiness during that time.

Good luck with however you proceed!

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by rpu3

Some of the women on the Board have had success using Instead as protection when swinging on one's period.

I don't have sex on my period with men other than the spouse and even with the spouse, I'm not doing it until the last couple of days when it's far less of an issue. I'm not interested the first three days whatsoever due to my general crankiness during that time.

Good luck with however you proceed!

I totally forgot to mention the Instead thingy's!! I'll use 'em during the last couple days with the husband fixture ONLY, too. (And for pretty much the same reason)

=)

[jdavisauto]

A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken". At less that what women and my lady half says during that special time. That just the guy or couple the opportunity to tell you that he can fix you, that is if you are into sex during that time.
Now I had sex with my lady half during her period but most times we just waitted for the 3 to 5 days (I think). I really didn't like to have sex with her during that time. Now we nevr have to worry about that little problem again.

[avid]

I'm not so fond of having sex on my period, but it looks like I'm gonna have it for this weekend. Unfortunately, we have a big weekend away planned. I don't have any problems with the guys playing, and I'll just be the "fluffer". I'm still sad, though, because it looks like a fun weekend.

Originally Posted by jdavisauto

A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken".

I just want to present another side to this. When I have my period, I'm not "broken" at all. My body is working perfectly, as it should.

I feel that sending the message that we're broken does something for the love that we women should feel for our bodies and the way they work. Self-love is vital, ESPECIALLY with this hobby we have.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by awesomecplmn

So we are scheduled to attend a party this Saturday and my period just started today. Then if I count forward, I am scheduled to get it a couple days before another big party we wanted to attend. Is this the universe's way of telling me it's not liking my new lifestyle??

Hubby doesn't like to have sex while I am on my period, but I've heard lore of men who love it. What's the story? Are any swingers getting lucky during that time of the month, and HOW on earth does one approach getting THAT out on the table??

I am not sure how long your period normally lasts. Since you started on Wednesday, Saturday would be day 4. Many women's cycles are tapering off by then (even if it's a 7 day period)...so a courtesy mention that you are in the middle of your period, and let potential playpartners access the situation. The first time we swapped the other woman had started the day before. We didn't mind..as her boyfriend was fond of saying, 'I'll swim in that river, but I won't drink from it.' Yeah, kind of a yucky visual I think...but it let us know where he stood on the subject.

I guess I got lucky with my first boyfriend and then later, my first husband who had no problems playing during that time...it just meant we threw down some towels or played in the shower.

I think for most women, especially if they don't mind playing on their period, it's just easier to say 'No play tonight b/c of this' rather than risk having a potential partner think that playing during that time is the most discusting thing they've ever heard of. I mean, until the situation is presented you never know if your're getting a 'eh, just throw some towels down' kind of guy or an 'ew yuck yuck yuck' kind of guy.

Do what you are comfortable with. What does your hubby think about you playing during your period? If you do play, remember to use lube.

[jdavisauto]

Originally Posted by avid

I'm not so fond of having sex on my period, but it looks like I'm gonna have it for this weekend. Unfortunately, we have a big weekend away planned. I don't have any problems with the guys playing, and I'll just be the "fluffer". I'm still sad, though, because it looks like a fun weekend.




I just want to present another side to this. When I have my period, I'm not "broken" at all. My body is working perfectly, as it should.

I feel that sending the message that we're broken does something for the love that we women should feel for our bodies and the way they work. Self-love is vital, ESPECIALLY with this hobby we have.

Sorry that you took this the wrong way, your body being broken was NOT what I said. What I said was "A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken"." Most swingers would say I understand and leave it at that. You can say whatever you want to say. Hell one girl I met a while back just came right out and said "Not tonight, I'm on my period and bleeding like a stuff pig". If that works for you then I guess that's ok to say also. It's whatever works for you.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by jdavisauto

Sorry that you took this the wrong way, your body being broken was NOT what I said. What I said was "A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken"."

Ok...but technically it is what you said. "Sorry, but I'm broken"....yes, I've heard others use it and we all know what they are implying without having to come right out and say "period", "bleeding", or the ever scientifically correct "menstruation" (altho to be honest, I've yet to actually hear someone say that word or any derivative thereof ).

But in saying that it does imply that you are not functioning correctly or are damaged in some way...and I believe the point that avid was trying to drive home is that women aren't damaged or functioning incorrectly, quite the contrary.

[rpu3]

Sorry that you took this the wrong way, your body being broken was NOT what I said. What I said was "A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken"." Most swingers would say I understand and leave it at that. You can say whatever you want to say.

I wouldn't say that Avid took it the wrong way; she just didn't view it the same way you do. Doesn't make her wrong any more than a period makes her broken.

I am not fond of "I'm broken" either. I'm not broken; I'm just doing the same thing most women have been doing every 22-60 days since Eve ate the apple so why say something that isn't true. I just say it's that time of month or period.

To each their own as to terminology. However, it doesn't mean that 100% will like a particular word or turn of phrase.