Sex on her period??

[avid]

I'm really a big believer in research. My concern about research surrounding pharmaceuticals is that "he who pays the piper, calls the tune". I haven't seen a bunch of research that WASN'T funded by the pharmaceutical industry.

The Cochrane Library reports six randomized controlled trials that were worth including in their analysis of continuous oral contraceptive use. Their summary states: "The studies were too small to address efficacy, rare adverse events, and safety. Continuous pill-taking (for more than 28 days) appears to be a reasonable approach to oral contraception."

Here is another quote I found:

"When you tamper with the way the body works naturally you can't predict long-term outcome until you study long-term outcome. And right now we don't have that data."

I just like to be careful around these things. Might it seem a little over the top to tamper with our hormonal levels so that we can go to parties to have sex with strangers?

Believe me, when I planned my weekend away last weekend, I was holding my breath I wouldn't get my period. I'm SO happy that I didn't get it, and I had a FANTASTIC weekend! As an aside, we went to Hedo North (Hedo North 2008 - A Truly Hedonistic Experience).

[awesomecplmn]

I really appreciate all the comments and advice. We went to our party and I wore a tampon, then before going to the after party I put in an instead. These work great when the flow is low. I find they can slip and make a big mess if the flow is heavy.

In any case, it turns out that we didn't even play. All that worrying for nothing. LOL.....But good news is that we met a couple we are having a date night with in a week and a half. So I won't be worrying about my period that night.

I think for the future I'm going to just use the instead and see if it works for me before trying hormone birth control.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by jdavisauto

Again I am sorry if I offended anyone, that was not my intentions. When I said that, I did not mean to implied that a lady was broken because of a natural function of the female body. Not as in the sents of my body being broken with two froms of cancer which is now starting to effect my eye sight. Ok I will just go over here in the corner of the room, sit down and keep my mouth shut.

I'll be sitting there with you, since I use the phrase, "broken," too. I know it's a natural function of my body and all that, but when I'm cramping like all hell I sure feel broken . . .

(I said I'd be in the corner, but no promises to keep my mouth shut)

=)

[Vjklander]

I believe it might just be that is why showers were invented.

[quivers4me]

"When you tamper with the way the body works naturally you can't predict long-term outcome until you study long-term outcome. And right now we don't have that data."

I just like to be careful around these things. Might it seem a little over the top to tamper with our hormonal levels so that we can go to parties to have sex with strangers?

In my younger years I tried many methods of birth control for the obvious reasons. While some were effective at preventing pregnancy I never liked the effect on my body and system. I had a tubal 19 years ago and after the first year or so my cycle regulated to the point of being able to predict when I started almost to the day. It was nice to not mess with the hormonal stuff that comes with the pill and to let my body do what is natural. Now that I am older I'm finding I am less predictable in when I start. I'm just putting that down to peri-menopause and hope it happens soon. It will be nice to be done with that aspect of my life.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by Avid

I just like to be careful around these things. Might it seem a little over the top to tamper with our hormonal levels so that we can go to parties to have sex with strangers?

I don't disagree with your comment on big pharmaceutical sponsored studies or wanting to be careful with one's health and well-being. Actually, I should thank you for the reminder of who has actually sponsored the studies. I hope long-term studies in all three conditions (no pill, "normal" pill use, "continuous" pill use) will happen. I'm curious as to what will be found, as I have to wonder what the difference is in taking 7 more pills a month, and what the usefulness of the withdrawal bleed during the placebo week. But that's probably turning into a whole 'nother thread in a different forum.

[avid]

rpu3, I betcha we'd have a great conversation over lots of aspects of female sexuality if we were in the same room!

Thanks for taking my post as it was intended - just another point of view.

[howie1222]

Yes, Avid. First, nothing of what I say below is to be used or understood as medical advice! I would like to answer your second question first. It is not known how long any particular woman can take birth control pills (BCPs) continuously. Thank you RPU3 for mentioning the brand of BCPs called Seasonale. Yes, it is designed for the woman to take 84 hormone pills, one every day, and then skip 7 days. That comes to exactly 91 days. The woman using Seasonale has four periods per year. I suppose that she could take BCPs for four or six months if she wanted without doing any harm. For twenty or thirty years I have prescribed regular BCPs for a few patients so that they can take them in that fashion. I did this even for some patients in their 30s and 40s who (because of their religious faith) were still virgins and who certainly didn't need the BCPs for contraception. Some women have very painful cramps during their periods, and the cramps can be reduced by the use of BCPs. However, for a small percentage of women the BCPs cannot completely eliminate the cramps. (I strongly suspect that many women who have especially crampy periods actually have the condition called endometriosis, in which there is tissue outside the uterus which is pretty much identical to the inner lining of the uterus.) So I told them that they can take the pills so that they have their periods and cramps only four times a year instead of thirteen times a year. Yes, all women are strongly advised not to smoke if they are taking BCPs. Non-smoking women can continue to take BCPs until after they are past menopause. Well, enough of that.

Now a question for you. In the totally natural setting, how often would the average woman have a period? I'll give you the answer below. First, in order for me to explain what is natural, I need you to take a trip with me--using your imagination--back through time. To get to the natural existence we need to travel to prehistoric times, before people domesticated animals and came to understand what caused pregnancy. Prior to the development of religion and the institution of marriage people probably began sexual activity at about the same age as our youngsters today develop that interest--during their teens. The average woman needs about four months of exposure to sperm in order to conceive (25% chance each month). So after four months of sexual activity by the fertile female she would be pregnant. IF she survived pregnancy and childbirth she did not have Enfamil or Similac to feed her baby. She did not give her toddler Gerber or Heinz. She breastfed! And she breastfed. And she breastfed some more! Even today there is a tribe of Africans, the !Kung (that exclamation point represents a clicking sound at the start of the tribal name) who live essentially that same type of existence I just described. The mothers and their babies have been observed by the anthropologists, and they found that the women breastfeed their babies for about three years. The tribe is so remote from modern civilization that the only contraception they have is that provided by breastfeeding. Breastfeeding the way the !Kung women do it actually has a fairly good success rate at preventing pregnancy, although some breastfeeding women can and do get pregnant. So now we can put together the pieces of this puzzle. The prehistoric women or the !Kung women get pregnant after four months of sexual activity, the pregnancy lasts 9 months, after which they breast feed for about three years. When they wean the baby the mother will have another four periods and be pregnant again. So once every four years the women have about four periods, an average of one period per year. That is the Natural course of events. I have a strong suspicion that those women probably don't ever develop endometriosis.

I hope that you enjoyed your imaginary trip through time with me and that I didn't ramble on too long. Isn't the human body absolutely Amazing?

[avid]

Yes, I agree, lactation amenorrhea can be an excellent way of preventing pregnancy.

On the other hand, though, it's not "unnatural" for a woman to menstruate monthly, if she is not having intercourse.

[howie1222]

Quite true, Avid.

[gatorvol64]

Ok, when I had periods the first day (maybe 2) were hell. Cramps and heavy bleeding. However, once this 1st or 2nd day was past, I found myself being in a well...bluntly...a horny mood. My husband and I always had sex during my period. I'm strange in more ways than one and I guess so are my hormones.

Now,as to why I don't have periods any more. It isn't "natural". Gator has had a vasectomy and I didn't need birth control. However, before swinging even entered the picture, I was having even more problems with my periods. Nothing on a regular basis and more painful than ever when they occurred. I talked with my doctor for a couple of years. He suggested BCPs to regulate them and help with the pain. I wasn't interested because I thought they were unnecessary. He finally convinced me and I started using them. A period once a month was actually welcome since they were lighter and less painful. I then heard about Seasonique (later Seasonale) and we discussed those. If I was regulating them, I was willing to regulate them to less frequent. I now use Lybrel. They are continuous, year round. I don't have a period as long as I take them. I feel better, in regards to my hormones, than I have in years.

I'm not advising anyone to take BCPs of any kind. That should be decided between you and your doctor. I'm just telling my experience with the topics of this thread. Oh and I'm 44 now. We all take risks in life and this is one I'm willing to take. Benefits are multiple for me.

Vol

[prettylady]

I know this thread is taking a slight left turn from the OP.
But I would like to ask, has anyone heard of or had the laser sugry that is suppose to stop periods althoghter?
My periods are painful and heavy the first two days as well. I am intersted in this procedure, but like Avid said research is paid for by someone and I find first hand opinions suit me best when it is time to make the final decision.
By the way after day two Dog and I will have sex, but we wont play.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[JustMrsJ]

I don't play when I am in the middle of my period at least the first couple of days. When it is near the end, I will.

[Curiosity0725]

ugg, that's actually one thing i can not stand. i've done it before and each time it grosses me out. makes me feel like i just raped someone.

but, yes, i have heard about many guys liking it... whatever floats their boat i guess.

[SexyBitch&Him]

Hummm....guess I have mixed feeling about this. I know that my hubby didn't like that whole sex and the period thing only very ocasionally in the shower near the end. I have had a hysterectomy so it is NO problem that we have to deal with now. I don't think that I would partake in a woman on her period but I would touch and play a little I guess. I also remember that when I was on mine that actual intercorse felt great!!! So I would go with what ever you are comfotable with, you can let the others knjow and take it from there I have heard that some don't mind so maybe its not a complete loss.