Should we or Shouldn't we...Swing?

[3sumff]

Originally Posted by tittietwister

The phrase "friends with benefits" is so overused by people who don't know the difference between friends and acquaintances that it has become completely worthless as a descriptor in my opinion.

I will agree with you a little tittietwister, nice name by the way, "friends with benefits" is overused. But I believe in the sexual realm friends/acquaintances are the same. Why? These are people you obviously share your sexual desire with. The time that was taken to get to know what each other like and don't like is considered a friendship/acquaintance. Right or wrong?
We have tried both, and we haven't been able to have find that one where we just click on all levels. Oddly enough, and I am sure I will get some shit from this, we both want a level of almost liking the other sexual partner. A comfort in which is similar to what we have, but not all the way. We are very much in Love...people! Its just having sexual excitement. Sorry if this response is all over the place.
We just want to have a comfortable and exciting time! I think that is why we are done with the profiles and parties of any kind. Perhaps one day, we will find our friends or acquaintances.
Just a little response to SweetTnA...after hour orgy party. We are very envious of you two...you lucky suckers. Would love to be a part of that! Thanks everyone!

[fun4Ds]

We really think you are doing the thing that works for you. That is the best way.

Let us know how that works, your not alone by any means. I cant say you deserve any shit for how ya feel. That is just the compatibility you are looking for. Who could dissagree with that

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by 3sumff

For one we enjoy the thought of the lifestyle, especially, when we incorporate it with our sexual sessions. We love flirting with other couples. Whether it turns sexual or not! Once again, we have had some good times with some of our experiences.
Now, what we don't like...We really don't care to go to the parties or the meet and greets. We feel that that the situation is just to set-up! I know this sounds weird, but we would like a more natural way of swinging.
For example, we meet a couple and there is "NO" talk of swinging. Actually, swinging isn't even the reason why we are friends. As time goes on, we become really good friends. Then for whatever reason, the couple becomes interested in "swinging." Fine, sounds great and sounds a little more natural. They know us, they have become in tuned to us. This situation sounds better!

Unfortunately, what you are looking for is very rare and while it does happen it happens just as you described it... when you aren't looking. It's just one of those things that you will probably end up keeping in the back of your head and pulling out as a fantasy then maybe someday at some point you'll meet a couple that you become friends with and things just happen to turn out perfectly.

From the sounds of it, you not only want to find this perfect couple but you want THEM to be the one to initiate things with you or you just want things to spontaniously happen where it appears that no one initiated anything, which makes the likelihood of this fantasy becoming reality a lot less likely.

[3sumff]

Maybe you are right J.A.J, and you know what that is fine with us. Like I said, we are done with the profiles and parties. Looking for that more natural hook up situation. At this point, we are really aren't worried about it. Our mind will always open to any situation that strikes our fancy.

[des1re06]

I can relate to what you're feeling.

We always wanted to find a couple (or several) that we could get together with on a regular basis and travel with as well. We've found a few couples like this who are very close friends and sometimes we don't even have sex. It's a nice plus if it does happen, but sometimes we just want to hang out.

I can tell you that the closeness between us and those couples we share this relationship with makes for much more satisfying sex than the one-nighters. Even though they are fun too.

We're not considered poly because we aren't exclusive, but are very close friends and care for each other.

Good luck in your search!

Mrs. D