First time full swap question?

volunteerguy · 04-01-2008, 10:32 AM

We have went from talking about a swinger lifestyle to going to nude beach last year to now going to Desire a lifestyle Resort in Mexico in 2 weeks. We both want to experience play and even a full swap. The question is would Desire be the place to experience this for the first time or should we have first time closer to home?

Need some advice / help.

Volunteerguy

tribbles · 04-01-2008, 10:59 AM

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The question is would Desire be the place to experience this for the first time or should we have first time closer to home?

I think that is kinda up to the two of you. Which option leaves you feeling the most comfortable?

sweet_tna · 04-01-2008, 11:03 AM

For me, it would be more a matter of WHO we were swapping with than the where. If you think you'd feel less inhibited at a place like Desire, and find someone you want to play with, than go for it. If you'd rather have the home field advantage, then by all means do so.

=)

***JustAskJulie*** · 04-01-2008, 11:12 AM

Desire is definately the TYPE of place where you could experience a full swap if you decide you want to do so.

Greg & Sheryl · 04-01-2008, 05:45 PM

There's no rule governing where and when you must have your first full swap, but the atmosphere at Desire may be conduscive for taking that step. Have fun!

WildMiCouple · 04-01-2008, 10:10 PM

Desire is definately a great place to test the waters.
You're away from all of the usual stresses of life.....enjoying a tropical location.....meeting fun couples from all over the world....partying nekkid.... and in a no pressure environment. And if your there for a week, it gives you time to get to know others and feel comfortable with them for your first time. Then you can go home and resume your normal life

You guys will have a wonderful time

Brett

thetanman1957 · 04-02-2008, 03:23 PM

We went to Desire Cancun in Jan and met a lot of great people. Go without expectations and make the most of your vacation. You will find people from all walks of life. Some may be looking to play and others not. Do not be pushy and let things evolve as they may.

Mr. Sweet · 04-02-2008, 08:13 PM

For me, the only benefit to doing the Desire as opposed to close to home is the whole: "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" deal.

If things were to turn out bad (and I certainly don't think they would) it would be easy to leave it behind you in Mexico.

Either that or I just have Vegas on the brain since we're going soon!!

MrsVan · 04-02-2008, 08:18 PM

I would have to agree with most on here that it is a matter of how you both feel about it..We have been to Hedo and I think that in any setting whether it be Desire or Hedo will allow you to feel more comfortable in testing the waters..Just remember to go at the slowest person's pace and make sure that you both are comfortable.

Good luck and let us know how it works out for you both.

MrsVan

TemptressCarole · 04-02-2008, 08:46 PM

Our first experience in the lifestyle was at Hedo in Jamaica. We had great fun and like it was mentioned in a previous post, you can leave it behind if you want to.

celtic239 · 04-02-2008, 11:26 PM

We've been to Desire twice. Don't go with any preconcieved notions or expectations. There are many non swingers that go there. You will have a better chance of "hooking up" if you go when there is a swing club going or during a Take Over week.

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04-01-2008, 10:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
volunteerguy Active Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 12 Location: GA Status: couple Blog Entries: 2	First time full swap question? We have went from talking about a swinger lifestyle to going to nude beach last year to now going to Desire a lifestyle Resort in Mexico in 2 weeks. We both want to experience play and even a full swap. The question is would Desire be the place to experience this for the first time or should we have first time closer to home? Need some advice / help. Volunteerguy

04-01-2008, 11:03 AM	#3 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,928 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet SLS Name:Sweet_tna	Re: First time full swap question? For me, it would be more a matter of WHO we were swapping with than the where. If you think you'd feel less inhibited at a place like Desire, and find someone you want to play with, than go for it. If you'd rather have the home field advantage, then by all means do so. =) __________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than die wondering what it's like.

04-01-2008, 11:12 AM	#4 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,268 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: First time full swap question? Desire is definately the TYPE of place where you could experience a full swap if you decide you want to do so.

04-01-2008, 05:45 PM	#5 (permalink)
Greg & Sheryl Blogging Swingers Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 722 Location: Denver, CO Status: Couple	Re: First time full swap question? There's no rule governing where and when you must have your first full swap, but the atmosphere at Desire may be conduscive for taking that step. Have fun! __________________ Greg & Sheryl Our Swinging Blog

04-01-2008, 10:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
WildMiCouple Never up.....never in Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 541 Location: se Michigan Status: Couple SLS Name:wildmicouple	Re: First time full swap question? Desire is definately a great place to test the waters. You're away from all of the usual stresses of life.....enjoying a tropical location.....meeting fun couples from all over the world....partying nekkid.... and in a no pressure environment. And if your there for a week, it gives you time to get to know others and feel comfortable with them for your first time. Then you can go home and resume your normal life You guys will have a wonderful time Brett __________________ Take it easy baby......but take as much as you can.

04-02-2008, 03:23 PM	#7 (permalink)
thetanman1957 Registered Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Milwaukee Status: couple	Re: First time full swap question? We went to Desire Cancun in Jan and met a lot of great people. Go without expectations and make the most of your vacation. You will find people from all walks of life. Some may be looking to play and others not. Do not be pushy and let things evolve as they may.

04-02-2008, 08:13 PM	#8 (permalink)
Mr. Sweet Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 97 Location: Poconos, PA Status: Too busy reading all of Mrs. Sweet's posts SLS Name:sweet_tna	Re: First time full swap question? For me, the only benefit to doing the Desire as opposed to close to home is the whole: "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" deal. If things were to turn out bad (and I certainly don't think they would) it would be easy to leave it behind you in Mexico. Either that or I just have Vegas on the brain since we're going soon!! __________________ "All right, you caught me. Speaking the plain truth is getting pretty damn dull around here."

04-02-2008, 08:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
MrsVan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 667 Location: Ohio Status: M.Female SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: First time full swap question? I would have to agree with most on here that it is a matter of how you both feel about it..We have been to Hedo and I think that in any setting whether it be Desire or Hedo will allow you to feel more comfortable in testing the waters..Just remember to go at the slowest person's pace and make sure that you both are comfortable. Good luck and let us know how it works out for you both. MrsVan

04-02-2008, 08:46 PM	#10 (permalink)
TemptressCarole Registered User Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 2 Location: Vancouver Status: M. Female	Re: First time full swap question? Our first experience in the lifestyle was at Hedo in Jamaica. We had great fun and like it was mentioned in a previous post, you can leave it behind if you want to.

04-02-2008, 11:26 PM	#11 (permalink)
celtic239 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 170 Location: new york	Re: First time full swap question? We've been to Desire twice. Don't go with any preconcieved notions or expectations. There are many non swingers that go there. You will have a better chance of "hooking up" if you go when there is a swing club going or during a Take Over week.

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