He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me

needathird · 03-30-2008, 06:56 AM

hi we are a couple and b/f is bi and a cross dresser we have not found any bi men for playing so im having to do the fuckin lol dont get me wrong i like doing it what bothers me is when he wants me to fuck him im doing with out and also he jacks off byhimself instead of playing with me hmmmmmmm why

FlaPlaya561 · 03-30-2008, 08:47 AM

Self Pleasure? Maybe just the thought of it turns him a bit more. Im sure he enjoys it ...I do also enjoy it when im in that situation...

Chris&Amelia · 03-30-2008, 10:11 AM

Why don't you incorporate that into your loveplay? Make it a mutual masturbation session?

Have you asked him why he would rather masturbate then have sex with you?

sc4play · 03-30-2008, 10:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chris&Amelia

Why don't you incorporate that into your loveplay? Make it a mutual masturbation session?

Have you asked him why he would rather masturbate then have sex with you?

Ditto...well said

des1re06 · 03-30-2008, 10:43 AM

Hi and

It sounds like the pleasure is only on his side. Are you expected to find pleasure outside of your relationship? Are you female?

Just trying to understand the dynamics of your "relationship", as it confuses me as to what you're getting out of it. A sexual relationship (in my opinion) is give and take.

Mrs. D

***JustAskJulie*** · 03-30-2008, 02:16 PM

Does he ever have sex with you (where's he's doing the fucking)? If not, I have to wonder if he's more than bi... and just not ready to admit it.

Good luck & Welcome to the board!

**LFM2** · 03-30-2008, 03:42 PM

Hi there and welcome to the board!

Nothin' wrong with doing the fuckin', but it's important that you're satisfied, too.

I was thinking was Julie said. Maybe he's not bi but actually gay?

2aussies · 03-31-2008, 12:10 AM

You know, for a lot of men masturbating is more about getting rid of the urge quickly rather than about sex. I would rather have sex, but sometimes it's easier to just jerk off and get rid of the urge so you can move on to something else. I think you need to talk to your partner, but approach it in a non-judgmental way. If you're in the swinging lifestyle, you need to be able to talk about everything to do with sex in an open and honest way. That's my take on it anyway.

Chicup · 03-31-2008, 12:59 AM

I wasn't sure if you were a same sex couple or not, and your profile says 'me and my gf' and your only post is about your bf, so I have no idea exactly who we would be talking about here.

You also said he wants you to fuck him but you don't get it in return. So are we talking stap on here or what?

Taken at face value, the only thing we can do with such a limited post, your bf, as Julie implied, is gay.

Tia Vampire · 03-31-2008, 07:37 PM

Try a double strap-on. That way the both of you are getting satisfacion.

**two4youinswva** · 03-31-2008, 07:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Does he ever have sex with you (where's he's doing the fucking)? If not, I have to wonder if he's more than bi... and just not ready to admit it.

That. Or, he's just a really selfish person.

NumbskullsX2 · 04-04-2008, 08:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by needathird

hi we are a couple and b/f is bi and a cross dresser we have not found any bi men for playing so im having to do the fuckin lol dont get me wrong i like doing it what bothers me is when he wants me to fuck him im doing with out and also he jacks off byhimself instead of playing with me hmmmmmmm why

Why????? Because he's a bisexual crossdresser and you're a woman, that's why.

This sounds like a question for "the fruitcake lady"

Edison Carter · 07-09-2008, 11:05 PM

Ed here: 1. he's really a gay crossdresser and not really into women 2. he's a bisexual cross dresser and not really into women. 3. He's just not really into you.

I'm poking fun, but this really is a 'fruitcake lady' question, where the obvious is cited quickly.

vegaskid · 07-10-2008, 12:29 PM

You probable should consider leaving him and finding someone who will appreciate what you have to offer. The jacking-off part is natural but being bi and cross-dressing will eventually get deep in the way. Being bi-curious is not bad, even I like to play with a cock but I'm not really bi and I do take care of my lady and jack-off as well.

Vegaskid

Dee612 · 08-06-2008, 12:47 AM

Try a double headed dildo so you both have a piece, then call him buddy!

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03-30-2008, 06:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
needathird Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1 Location: ohio Status: couple	He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me hi we are a couple and b/f is bi and a cross dresser we have not found any bi men for playing so im having to do the fuckin lol dont get me wrong i like doing it what bothers me is when he wants me to fuck him im doing with out and also he jacks off byhimself instead of playing with me hmmmmmmm why

03-30-2008, 08:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
FlaPlaya561 The Neighborhood PC Tech Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 153 Location: West Palm Beach Florida Status: Fun Single Male SLS Name:FlaPlaya561	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Self Pleasure? Maybe just the thought of it turns him a bit more. Im sure he enjoys it ...I do also enjoy it when im in that situation... __________________ Silence Is Golden/Duct Tape Is Silver FlaPlaya561@Yahoo.com With Webcam

03-30-2008, 10:11 AM	#3 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,441 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A SLS Name:PA_Panache	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Why don't you incorporate that into your loveplay? Make it a mutual masturbation session? Have you asked him why he would rather masturbate then have sex with you? __________________ "May God be with you."

03-30-2008, 10:43 AM	#5 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,080 Location: East TN Status: Couple SLS Name:Des1re06	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Hi and It sounds like the pleasure is only on his side. Are you expected to find pleasure outside of your relationship? Are you female? Just trying to understand the dynamics of your "relationship", as it confuses me as to what you're getting out of it. A sexual relationship (in my opinion) is give and take. Mrs. D

03-30-2008, 02:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,268 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Does he ever have sex with you (where's he's doing the fucking)? If not, I have to wonder if he's more than bi... and just not ready to admit it. Good luck & Welcome to the board! __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

03-30-2008, 03:42 PM	#7 (permalink)
LFM2 Happy Fall, Y'all!! Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,835 Location: State of Confusion Status: Couple SLS Name:LFM2 Blog Entries: 4	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Hi there and welcome to the board! Nothin' wrong with doing the fuckin', but it's important that you're satisfied, too. I was thinking was Julie said. Maybe he's not bi but actually gay? __________________ "One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other." Jane Austen

03-31-2008, 12:10 AM	#8 (permalink)
2aussies Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 15 Location: Queensland, Australia Status: Couple	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me You know, for a lot of men masturbating is more about getting rid of the urge quickly rather than about sex. I would rather have sex, but sometimes it's easier to just jerk off and get rid of the urge so you can move on to something else. I think you need to talk to your partner, but approach it in a non-judgmental way. If you're in the swinging lifestyle, you need to be able to talk about everything to do with sex in an open and honest way. That's my take on it anyway.

03-31-2008, 12:59 AM	#9 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,342 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me I wasn't sure if you were a same sex couple or not, and your profile says 'me and my gf' and your only post is about your bf, so I have no idea exactly who we would be talking about here. You also said he wants you to fuck him but you don't get it in return. So are we talking stap on here or what? Taken at face value, the only thing we can do with such a limited post, your bf, as Julie implied, is gay.

03-31-2008, 07:37 PM	#10 (permalink)
Tia Vampire Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 767 Location: Florida Status: couples SLS Name:tiavampire Blog Entries: 1	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Try a double strap-on. That way the both of you are getting satisfacion.

07-09-2008, 11:05 PM	#13 (permalink)
Edison Carter Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 412 Location: Bloomington, Il Status: Couple SLS Name:EdisonCarter Blog Entries: 1	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Ed here: 1. he's really a gay crossdresser and not really into women 2. he's a bisexual cross dresser and not really into women. 3. He's just not really into you. I'm poking fun, but this really is a 'fruitcake lady' question, where the obvious is cited quickly.

07-10-2008, 12:29 PM	#14 (permalink)
vegaskid Here to Stay Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 40 Location: Las Vegas Status: couple Blog Entries: 1	Re: He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me You probable should consider leaving him and finding someone who will appreciate what you have to offer. The jacking-off part is natural but being bi and cross-dressing will eventually get deep in the way. Being bi-curious is not bad, even I like to play with a cock but I'm not really bi and I do take care of my lady and jack-off as well. Vegaskid

08-06-2008, 12:47 AM	#15 (permalink)
Dee612 Registered Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 6 Location: Santa Clarita, California Status: Single Male	He jacks off by himself instead of playing with me Try a double headed dildo so you both have a piece, then call him buddy! Last edited by JustAskJulie : 08-06-2008 at 03:12 PM. Reason: removed link

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