she tells me he don't do anything for her sexually

well tryin to make it short..wife and I have been lookin for a little adventure. So I say what if we have my friend over and if you want maybe we can let him watch she like no way. So after about 2 weeks she says she might do it and I say ok. I know him well but she doesn't. anyway he comes over and we were drinkin a little she gets bold and tells me she wants to have fun. but she don't allow him to touch or do anything no problem cause he has always had the hots for her and he say he be happy just seein that hot body. went very well too. So now he has been over a few times and has watched us and so she even lets him use a dildo on her while givin me head. and yes she is 1 that can have non stop orgasms. Now the last time he was over she wants a backrub which I love doing to her she relaxes so good from it. she tell me its ok he can rub her legs and after a bit she lets him rub her all over he's not allowed any type of peneteration she says thats only for me .(now I let her call the shots I have no problem or issues its really hot seein her doing all this) Now she tells me he don't do anything for her sexually or turn her on that its just hot bein able to do these things. I just want to know what you think about this and if I should ever talk her into lettin him sex too. He tells me he is happy to help out anytime. So let me know what you think ?????????

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

So let me know what you think ?????????

I think I've read this same exact question posted before on here but for the life of me I can't find it....I'll keep looking as I know there were numerous responses posted to it.



Teresa

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Now she tells me he don't do anything for her sexually or turn her on that its just hot bein able to do these things. I just want to know what you think about this and if I should ever talk her into lettin him sex too. He tells me he is happy to help out anytime. So let me know what you think ?????????

Very simple, she says he does nothing for her and you have no business trying to talk her into doing something she does not want to do.

There is nothing to think about here, she don't want to do it so it should not happen.

[Pinmonkey]

Maybe let her pick out someone to engage in this type of activity too. You picked your friend and are comfortable with it, but maybe she isn't because, as you state, she doesn't know him very well. She may need to/want to, know the other person well in order to feel comfortable enough to take it to the next level, as it were.

[MoonLightKiss]

VegasLee is right. If she does not want to have sex with him, for whatever reason, you should not try to talk her into it. She said she doesn't want to, she gave you her reason, end of story.

[dayhiker]

I don't think we know for sure what is going on in her head. She very well could be straight forward telling it like it is. Then the above comments all apply.

It also could be that she is aware that crossing from visual and touch to sex opens a lot of other issues that haven't been talked about yet. Is it adultery? Will hubby be jealous? Will hubby want a girl now?

I'd say you need to talk for quite a few days to think thru all the new issues that are at your doorstep.

please register and keep us informed.
dayhiker

[blondie77]

I agree with TNT......I've read a thread not too long ago that sounds exactly like this one but I can't find it either. What I'm really wondering is this: What is the other guy getting out of this? He can't have sex with her, isn't getting anything out of it but occasionally doing her with a dildo and giving her massages. Well...maybe that's his thing, but I can't see a guy sticking around too long without getting SOMETHING in return.

[Additude]

Let her do what she wants to do in her own time. Don't push it, but if you want, encourage it. If she says he doesn't do anything for her sexually then let it go at her pace. Maybe you could just say something like, "If it did go further, I'd love to watch". Maybe she is just feeling a little reserved and doesn't want to give you the wrong feelings by her suggesting her and him screw. Maybe she is waiting for a sign of approval from you first.