How single male finds single female into swinging

Ashley · 04-17-2003, 02:17 AM

I got a kick out of it too.
Ashley(who has more lacey lingerie than street clothes!)

OhioCouple · 04-17-2003, 05:54 PM

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Originally posted by EternallySingle
..... she had more bathing suits and lace lingerie than street clothes (even though she is a banker or nurse), and she always had a drawer full of new Everready D-Cells, but no flashlights or portable radios to use them in.

This is hysterical. I can't say that I own more lingere than I do street clothes, BUT, I've got quite an assortment. When anyone of the kids are suspected of dropping in, we do the "three stooges routine, minus one" in trying to hide the evidence. We do have a flashlight, but I believe the batteries in that are probably dead. Never dead though in the toy compartment. I suppose I need to check and see if the bedside batteries are interchangalbe with the survival kit items. It doesn't hurt to be prepared....

Lori

Perseus · 04-20-2003, 04:08 PM

But which is the survival item, the flashlight or the toys....

Perseus

Flori_DAMAN · 04-20-2003, 04:13 PM

You gotta have a backup...one may need the flashlight to find the toys....

lol,

John, the real survivalist.

ircouple4swing2 · 04-24-2003, 05:41 PM

Very interesting issue at hand here, when getting past the comics. Now I personally believe that when I was a single man or am without my partner, I beleive that it's all about your approach to how you address a couple or host to a party as a single man. I did not find it to be very difficult to attend parties nor join couples once that couple realized that I was for real, was polite , respectful of there relationship and desires, and was just a fun person to party with. Now I did find issues outside of the fact that I was a single man but that is a whole different subject dealing with folks in the lifestyle with closed minds or clouded minds, maybe I will bring this up in a new forum.
Good luck in your hunt!!!!

EternallySingle · 04-24-2003, 06:08 PM

It is not that difficult to find couples if you are a single male and serious, but that was not what this topic was about. It was about finding single women to swing with and how long you should be involved with them before telling about the lifestyle and your involvement in it.

On that point, I've found (and I think I've said it in other posts) that single women in the lifestyle are NOT interested in even friendships with single men in the lifestyle. Not being a woman I cannot even guess why that is, but I've been told on numerous occasions by single women I've KNOWN were in the lifestyle and were platonic friends that they did not want ANY type of relationship with single men that was not strictly sexual. I've also been told by single women in the lifestyle that I had a sexual relationship with that they didn't want anything more than a sexual relationship...not even friendship (talking about work, music, going to movies, etc) and especially not anything resembling dating, from single men in the lifestyle. However, many have tried (and failed) to introduce men not involved in the lifestyle into it, only to have the man leave either immediately or after finding out it wasn't an occasional thing. I guess its one of those mysteries of human nature you have to accept.

OhioCouple · 04-25-2003, 01:43 AM

I have to agree about the single women in the lifestyle. The online paysites that we have belonged too and even the single women we met at a house party that we talked with extensively, were most definitely not looking for an intimate relationship (as in terms of dating or marriage). The online ads of the single females clearly state that up front.

Having talked at length with one single woman at the house party we attended, she had been involved in the lifestyle prior to her divorce and she had no desire to ever get married again. She loved being around sexually open people and of course enjoyed the fact that sex was readily available when she wanted it, with no strings attached. She was satisfied with the way her life was and she loved the fact that she had sexually open friends. She also loved her peace and quiet when she went home and living her life without having to worry about dining at a certain hour if she didn't have to, wasting a whole day away reading a book or soaking in a tub.

Lori

danc694u · 04-25-2003, 10:04 AM

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Originally posted by dreamguy4fun
Any suggestions on finding swinging partners?

Thanks,

Hit the chat rooms that cater to your area. We frequent several where there are single females and couples all the time.

I'm not saying it will be easy. Just that it is possible.

Roxysbayou · 04-25-2003, 12:16 PM

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Originally posted by OhioCouple
I have to agree about the single women in the lifestyle. The online paysites that we have belonged too and even the single women we met at a house party that we talked with extensively, were most definitely not looking for an intimate relationship (as in terms of dating or marriage). The online ads of the single females clearly state that up front.

Is it just me, or do the single women on those paysites usually seem to be a bit older?

It seems as if they have either been divorced and are not looking for a steady relationship, or just fed up with traditional dating.

Maybe it's because the under 30 crowd are still picking out white dresses and having babies.

Hmmm...just an observation.

danc694u · 04-25-2003, 12:22 PM

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Originally posted by Roxysbayou
It seems as if they have either been divorced and are not looking for a steady relationship, or just fed up with traditional dating.

Be warned, a couple we play with uses those types of sites. They get PAID to.

The wife is a knock out, she post as single and bi in her ads. So you can't always believe what you are reading. But, she makes good money.

Just an observation also.

Flori_DAMAN · 04-25-2003, 12:25 PM

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Originally posted by danc694u
Be warned, a couple we play with uses those types of sites. They get PAID to.

The wife is a knock out, she post as single and bi in her ads. So you can't always believe what you are reading. But, she makes good money.

Just an observation also.

I suspect that the majority of single female adds posted are for the purpose of profit.

John

Roxysbayou · 04-25-2003, 12:27 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by danc694u
Be warned, a couple we play with uses those types of sites. They get PAID to.

The wife is a knock out, she post as single and bi in her ads. So you can't always believe what you are reading. But, she makes good money.

Just an observation also.

I have often wondered about a few. The ones that look like they were clipped from the pages of a Playboy Magazine. Hubby has responded to one I think, of course his note is still showing Not Read...lol. Poor Guy!

OhioCouple · 04-25-2003, 12:51 PM

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Originally posted by danc694u
Be warned, a couple we play with uses those types of sites. They get PAID to.

The wife is a knock out, she post as single and bi in her ads. So you can't always believe what you are reading. But, she makes good money.

That is really interesting. I had sort of wondered about that just due to the fact that I couldn't fathom why some of them would be "single".

And yes, Roxy, I've noticed they all appear to be older. Generally in the 35 years and up range. While I am sure that some are genuinely single, I can't for the life of me figure out why many of them would need to place an ad. They could open the front door and the wind would blow in a few hundred couples every morning as they stooped out to pick up their newspaper.

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Hubby has responded to one I think, of course his note is still showing Not Read...lol. Poor Guy!

ROFL!!! Rejection is tough, even when it isn't in a written format.

Lori

04-25-2003, 12:54 PM

Ive seen ads like those too which seemed bogus...but i dont get it. Do the owners of the site pay her to post the ad to attract people to the site? ...and what would be the purpose of that? I dont see why bogus ads would do anything but discourage people from using the site.

Can someone explain this?

danc694u · 04-25-2003, 01:07 PM

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Originally posted by Seymore

Can someone explain this?

It's all about the money. Like the fortune tellers 900 numbers.

There's a sucker born evey minute on the web

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04-24-2003, 06:08 PM	#36 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male SLS Name:ABSingleMan	Remember, this is just BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE...yours may have been different It is not that difficult to find couples if you are a single male and serious, but that was not what this topic was about. It was about finding single women to swing with and how long you should be involved with them before telling about the lifestyle and your involvement in it. On that point, I've found (and I think I've said it in other posts) that single women in the lifestyle are NOT interested in even friendships with single men in the lifestyle. Not being a woman I cannot even guess why that is, but I've been told on numerous occasions by single women I've KNOWN were in the lifestyle and were platonic friends that they did not want ANY type of relationship with single men that was not strictly sexual. I've also been told by single women in the lifestyle that I had a sexual relationship with that they didn't want anything more than a sexual relationship...not even friendship (talking about work, music, going to movies, etc) and especially not anything resembling dating, from single men in the lifestyle. However, many have tried (and failed) to introduce men not involved in the lifestyle into it, only to have the man leave either immediately or after finding out it wasn't an occasional thing. I guess its one of those mysteries of human nature you have to accept. __________________ "Style is not lusting after somone because they are cool. Style is loving yourself till everyone else does too." Prince

04-25-2003, 01:43 AM	#37 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	I have to agree about the single women in the lifestyle. The online paysites that we have belonged too and even the single women we met at a house party that we talked with extensively, were most definitely not looking for an intimate relationship (as in terms of dating or marriage). The online ads of the single females clearly state that up front. Having talked at length with one single woman at the house party we attended, she had been involved in the lifestyle prior to her divorce and she had no desire to ever get married again. She loved being around sexually open people and of course enjoyed the fact that sex was readily available when she wanted it, with no strings attached. She was satisfied with the way her life was and she loved the fact that she had sexually open friends. She also loved her peace and quiet when she went home and living her life without having to worry about dining at a certain hour if she didn't have to, wasting a whole day away reading a book or soaking in a tub. Lori __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

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04-24-2003, 05:41 PM	#35 (permalink)
ircouple4swing2 Registered Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 7 Location: Geneva, Ny Status: interracial couple	Very interesting issue at hand here, when getting past the comics. Now I personally believe that when I was a single man or am without my partner, I beleive that it's all about your approach to how you address a couple or host to a party as a single man. I did not find it to be very difficult to attend parties nor join couples once that couple realized that I was for real, was polite , respectful of there relationship and desires, and was just a fun person to party with. Now I did find issues outside of the fact that I was a single man but that is a whole different subject dealing with folks in the lifestyle with closed minds or clouded minds, maybe I will bring this up in a new forum. Good luck in your hunt!!!!

04-25-2003, 12:54 PM	#44 (permalink)
Seymore Posts: n/a	Ive seen ads like those too which seemed bogus...but i dont get it. Do the owners of the site pay her to post the ad to attract people to the site? ...and what would be the purpose of that? I dont see why bogus ads would do anything but discourage people from using the site. Can someone explain this?