what are couples looking for in a single guy for a 3some?

[webbguy]

I am a very nice single guy, mature,48, 5'8",150lbs. and with the recent posts about 3somes, a question came to mind...what do couples really look for in a single guy for a 3some? I have not had very good luck as a lot of compitition is out there, but I am a very sincere and nice guy and still no luck. Hope you can give me a hint, lol.

[Maus-Katz]

but some of the things that would be important to us:

A gentleman who is sincere (no phonys), definately not arrogant but confident and mature. Good natured sense of humour, and VERY respectful to both my wife and myself. Did I mention gentleman?

Gee, sounds like what we would want from ANY playmate, M/F, as a single or couple!

M

[Vjklander]

I agree with M and would add a bit. We look for someone (M, F, or MF ) who we would like to go with for a beer at Hooters, fishing for the day, bowling, dancing, hanging at a nudist resort etc. As far as what we look for in a contact: Preferably have a profile with a pic at SLS or on a homepage on yahoo or something. A pg pic is fine. Don't put in your ideal desirements, rather put in the range of qualities you are interested in. Most people would rather be accepted than rejected and seeing that they fall within the parameters you are looking for may help them overcome hesitancy in contacting you. Since we are both 'XXL', we look for someone who mentions acceptance of larger body sizes.
J

[BettyAnnMBSC]

when "looking for" a single M playmate....

well, first, we don't often look for M playmates -- we get plenty of invitations to go through from the various boards. Most start with something akin to "hey slut, wanna f**k?" and are immediately deleted.

The next big group explains how he can "teach you things you never immagined" or that he has "the biggest c*ck you've ever seen" -- yeah! get real.... delete

Next are those that come with a pic of a penis. Nothing else, just a penis. To me that says "hey look! I'm a dick!" delete

The ones that get a reply start something like "Hi. I read your profile at xyz and like that part about abcd. My profile is at www.something if you're interested in chatting" This generally gets a reply looking for a little more -- then maybe an invitation to meet.....

I liken it to meeting people in person. You don't have much luck walking up to someone and saying "hey b*tch let's screw" but you might have much luck if you start with "hi! I'm John" and look her in the eyes and smile. So why not do the same online -- "Hi, I'm Betty... "

looks, size, age, etc... not important. Ability to communicate like a decent person and maybe a little personality go a long long way....

good luck

[slvgrl52]

Slvgrl52 & Master couldn't agree more, I think guys who want to try a threesome need to change their mind set of who they are dealing with. Most of the would be potentials automatically assume that there is something wrong with our sex life. Like maybe E.D. or some other reason we need help in bed. Could it be that when you love somebody, to give her a gift.... to experience the 'excitement of somebody new' makes a lot of sense. And like any other present I've given her, I want to be there when she unwraps it.
You see, after 34 yrs of marriage, the only thing I can't give her is the 'excitement of somebody new'.........or can I????

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by webbguy

I am a very nice single guy, mature,48, 5'8",150lbs. and with the recent posts about 3somes, a question came to mind...what do couples really look for in a single guy for a 3some? I have not had very good luck as a lot of compitition is out there, but I am a very sincere and nice guy and still no luck. Hope you can give me a hint, lol.

I can't answer that question, because Jay is completely not into having another man in the relationship, unless it is a couples thing. No single men is what I am trying to say lol. I wouldn't feel comfortable with it either, because I would not want Jay to be uncomfortable.

[JnCC]

I've seen this question asked literally dozens of times in a half-dozen different ways over the years, usually by a single male.

"What are couples looking for in a single male?"

"Why are single males looked down upon in the lifestyle?"

"Why aren't I, as a single male, more successful in meeting couples in the lifestyle?"

I have yet to see a post which said...

"This is what I, as a single male, can offer a couple, that another couple can not. This is why I am both unique and indespensible to a couple's sexual fantasies""

I guess what I'm wondering is, how can a guy seriously presume that he's the answer to some couple's "question," when he doesn't know what the question is himself?

Maybe this is one of those situations wherein merely by asking the question, one answers it as well.

[newandexcited]

Originally Posted by JnCC

I've seen this question asked literally dozens of times in a half-dozen different ways over the years, usually by a single male.

"What are couples looking for in a single male?"

"Why are single males looked down upon in the lifestyle?"

"Why aren't I, as a single male, more successful in meeting couples in the lifestyle?"

I have yet to see a post which said...

"This is what I, as a single male, can offer a couple, that another couple can not. This is why I am both unique and indespensible to a couple's sexual fantasies""

I guess what I'm wondering is, how can a guy seriously presume that he's the answer to some couple's "question," when he doesn't know what the question is himself?

Maybe this is one of those situations wherein merely by asking the question, one answers it as well.

Could not have said it better myself. Bravo.

[steve225]

Just a few words on the topic of single men.
Yes there are couples out there that req. you "services" but there are so many wiling participant up until it is time to perform, then 2/3 vanish.
if you do find one either he cant get i up becose i am in the room or
he thinks he i some kind of sex god giving you wife amasing pleasure but usualy cums with in 5 minute and leaves
therhas been more MFM in our sex life in the past 10 years then couples.
so where do we find playmates..
close personal freinds is by far the best, but choose wisely......
hedo 2 or 3 .....also a wonderfull place
and a few years ago there was a club in toronto that once a month would allowed single guys in, they would walk around and meet couples and if everything was good they would eiher leave with the couple or simply take the wife to a back room.
i quickly became a "meat market" but for the time it lasted it was alot of fun, wives were cheering when someone would goto the back with this one guy,when they were done he would bring her back to your table where you were sitting with other husbands
a very different feeling
at the time we stop going thing were starting to get out of hand a little,sex at the tables, ladys with "cum" on there faces or breast worn as a medal....
too bad it was fun but got too nasty for us.

[bigjoehd]

darn good question,we prefer to play with single men/women as oposed to couples & what we look for first off is that the man is respectfull right from the start,an email address or username like f*ckmaster2000 or something along that line is an automatic dismissal for us,when we first start talking with a new friend if they have nothing to say about anything except sex then its another automatic goodbye,when we get pic's of just the guy's penis it's another mood killer & most likely a goodbye.

respect,common sense,tact,tastefull conversation & personality are the main factors that we are interested in,the main thing for single men to remember is that most if not all couples that are willing/looking for single men to play with them is that they are not a hired d!*c,they were invited into something very special & they will impress both the male & female alot more by just being a normal human being instead of acting like they are some kind of sex machine.

[EternallySingle]

Originally Posted by JnCC

I've seen this question asked literally dozens of times in a half-dozen different ways over the years, usually by a single male.

"What are couples looking for in a single male?"

"Why are single males looked down upon in the lifestyle?"

"Why aren't I, as a single male, more successful in meeting couples in the lifestyle?"

I have yet to see a post which said...

"This is what I, as a single male, can offer a couple, that another couple can not. This is why I am both unique and indespensible to a couple's sexual fantasies""

I guess what I'm wondering is, how can a guy seriously presume that he's the answer to some couple's "question," when he doesn't know what the question is himself?

Maybe this is one of those situations wherein merely by asking the question, one answers it as well.

I've thought that same thing. As a former half of a couple, I know what I have to offer a couple (I'm not going to tell you, figure it out for yourself). When I do decide to write to couples, I always lead with that then tell them if they want to LEARN more about me then write and tell me something about themselves other than they want to meet with me. Its really not that hard.

I think a better question is what are single women in the lifestyle NOT looking for in single men in the lifestyle that make non-swinging single men more desireable for just dating...but thats just me being difficult.

lighten up. Its Wednesday (I think...not enough sleep this week)

[rpu3]

We are very new to this, and have only had two MFM encounters with the same person and would gladly repeat with him if things worked out with scheduling, etc.

But we are noticing a trend with other men. Many have been mentioned. Hate getting the emails that basically call me a slut or whore, or consider it a done deal just because they wrote AND I'm a slut. Delete. Don't even consider emails that come from BIGDICK4U, etc. Again, we don't consider those who only post penis pictures. If you fail to consider that we are a couple, we are not going to meet.

If you send a decent email, have a decent profile, and are willing to share a face pic, you will get return emails from us, regardless if I have any potential attraction to him or not. If you mention that we are a couple, and include him in the email conversation, another plus. I personally would like to exchange a few emails to see if we share enough common interests and viewpoints to carry a conversation should we meet. I do agree with EternallySingle on that one - I'm more than willing to talk about myself, as is my spouse, and hope the single male does the same.

The thing we have just noticed is that if we actually say that we'd like to meet for coffee or a drink, the 3/4 of the people we've actually considered emailing stop emailing. We just had one person stop emailing us once we said what neighborhood we live in (it ain't bad, but it ain't the rich neighborhood - and we love our house and its requisite renovations). Only one other person besides our first experience has followed through on a meeting, and he was a really great guy and we look forward to meeting with him again.

We don't stand people up, we are direct and honest, and don't waste people's time, but sometimes I get angry at seeing some of the posts from singles, because I've found many single men playing games. I know there are good single men out there, but it's just as hard to find them as it is a compatible couple, IMO.

Sorry if it seems "ranty".... kind of early... and despite our limited experience, I do feel strongly about the single guys and their gameplaying among the majority of them. It so gives the good ones a permanent strike that they may not deserve.

Ms. rpu3

[rachan]

Clean, height/weight proportionate, reasonably nice looking and a hard cock

[Elijah]

So dear friend why dont you have any luck?

[chaddd]

i look at this section daily...thank everbody for there advice...thank you all it really helps a single guy