Do swinging and dating mix?

[OhioCouple]

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Originally posted by Alura:
...Just ask your favorite couple to help. You may have to agree that the other lady can have both guys to herself, too, but that should be no problem.

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Actually Mr. Alura, the scenario you describe may be a reality very soon! We have a couple that we have become "rather acquainted" with and this scenario has been talked about. There is no problem here on either of our ends with sharing!

I think it will be a fine experience indeed.

Lori

[Quin]

I'll tell ya, TellYa...there is never a way to tactfully approach the subject of being single and swinging with someone you're dating. It's never really received very well by the males I've dated since way, way back to the time I was right out of college. While there have been some guys that have practically drooled all over me when I did tell them about my swinging, there were more that eventually ended the relationship between him and I because they couldn't handle it.

Since marriage isn't something I want or desire, I don't invest that much into a dating relationship(s). Maybe if I were looking for marriage things would be different. I don't tell the males I date until I feel the time is right (usually before it gets sexual).

Currently I am seeing a divorced swinger, so there aren't any problems with it, but before him I was dating a very nice guy, kind of a shy country guy. He could barely stand to see me in a string thong bikini (he was always trying to cover me up when we were at the lake or on my jetski and was constantly urging me to buy a one piece swimsuit or a bikini that did more than just cover my nipples and my pussy...do they still make those?), somehow I just knew that he wasn't going to handle the swinging thing. I told him and he did go to a club and a few swinging parties with me to see if it was for him but he came to the decision that it wasn't for him and that it's not something he wanted his girlfriend involved in. So I ended the relationship, regretfully, because he was a sweetie.

If I were in fact looking for marriage, I would probably forgo the swinging but since it's not something I want (marriage), there's no reason for me to give it up for a *dating* relationship.

I will say tho, that whatever is in your past is just that, in your past. Everyone has a past and a female/male that you date either has to accept you as you are (as your past makes you the person you are today) or not know at all. Sometimes in life, there are just some things that are best off remaining with you and not going any further. But that call is yours.

Good Luck!

Quin


[ November 08, 2002, 07:59 PM: Message edited by: Quin ]