How do I meet couples interested in single males?

SlowHand5150 · 04-05-2001, 11:03 PM

I'm a single guy, so I know I have that against me... but I have a few fantasies I want to explore, and I love taking part in other's fantasies, so by what I've read, I have that going for me... ads in general suck, at least in my area...so how do I track down people around here?

advice from anyone would be appreciated

MiCpl · 05-21-2001, 01:29 PM

You could try looking for clubs in your area

Lysander · 07-26-2001, 12:47 AM

I recommend staying away from the clubs. Instead... assuming you have a significant other... get to know a few couples with whom you can become friends, have something in common, etc. For instance, when I lived in Virginia, we were all Redskins fans and used to meet regularly to watch the games. You don't get the kind of variety you do at clubs, but there's no telling where these people have been, and there's no telling what they have. Try to stay with a select group of couples. That way, you reenforce your friendships, and there's more trust. At least, that has been my experience.

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-26-2001, 12:50 PM

Based on the initial post, I wouldn't assume this guy has a significant other. About the only way he's gonna get an initial crack into hte lifestyle is if he's lucky enough to have clubs near him that accept single guys AND if he's got the right attitude to actually be included in any activities that might happen at that club.

I really don't think you should assume that just because people go to clubs they are all that much more promiscuious than couples who don't. It's just a different way to meet people and have fun. And no matter how you meet a couple or how well you think you know them.. you can't say for sure how "active" they are or who they are out swinging with when they aren't with you.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

LaylaSusanne · 07-26-2001, 08:57 PM

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Originally posted by JustAskJulie:

I really don't think you should assume that just because people go to clubs they are all that much more promiscuious than couples who don't. It's just a different way to meet people and have fun. And no matter how you meet a couple or how well you think you know them.. you can't say for sure how "active" they are or who they are out swinging with when they aren't with you.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Thank you, Julie. I was going to say the same thing. Tom and I began swinging by going to a club, because, well, we didn't know any other way, and there are a lot of clubs here.

We picked the most private, low-key club we could find. And we love going there. The other swingers who go have become our friends, and we're comfortable there.

As for being promiscuous...NOT! Most of the time, we either play with each other, or we wait and come home...
The few times we've swung with other couples, it was people we have known for several months, we've gotten to know them, and they us, and it was great!

We see who they are with at the club, and most of the couples have just a few friends they play with regularly. I have seen more of a focus on safe sex at the club than what I hear has happened to friends who met in other ways and swung at home. (or actually didn't, because the guy didn't want to wear a condom) At the club, they hand them out, and you BETTER wear one!

We would not bring someone to our home to swing with, usually, because we have 3 teenage sons. We are much more comfortable going out. We HAVE had friends over, once, when the kids were gone, but that rarely happens, so if we counted on that, we'd get to swing like twice a year!

So, everyone has their own reasons for the way they prefer to do things. Don't judge by that. Okay?

LIZA · 07-26-2001, 09:09 PM

"You don't get the kind of variety you do at clubs, but there's no telling where these people have been, and there's no telling what they have. "

Oh please.........No telling where these people have been??

There is really no telling where your friendly neighborhood Redskin's fan has been, either!
I can't believe anyone with any knowledge would make such an ignorant and ridiculous comment.
Do you thing swing clubs are just nonstop sex orgy's where people are taking on 4 or 5 partners a night??

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04-05-2001, 11:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
SlowHand5150 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 1 Location: Chesapeake, Va. USA	How do I meet couples interested in single males? I'm a single guy, so I know I have that against me... but I have a few fantasies I want to explore, and I love taking part in other's fantasies, so by what I've read, I have that going for me... ads in general suck, at least in my area...so how do I track down people around here? advice from anyone would be appreciated

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*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,268 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Based on the initial post, I wouldn't assume this guy has a significant other. About the only way he's gonna get an initial crack into hte lifestyle is if he's lucky enough to have clubs near him that accept single guys AND if he's got the right attitude to actually be included in any activities that might happen at that club. I really don't think you should assume that just because people go to clubs they are all that much more promiscuious than couples who don't. It's just a different way to meet people and have fun. And no matter how you meet a couple or how well you think you know them.. you can't say for sure how "active" they are or who they are out swinging with when they aren't with you. Julie http://www.swingersboard.com __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

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05-21-2001, 01:29 PM	#2 (permalink)
MiCpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2000 Posts: 106 Location: MI	You could try looking for clubs in your area

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Lysander Registered Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7	I recommend staying away from the clubs. Instead... assuming you have a significant other... get to know a few couples with whom you can become friends, have something in common, etc. For instance, when I lived in Virginia, we were all Redskins fans and used to meet regularly to watch the games. You don't get the kind of variety you do at clubs, but there's no telling where these people have been, and there's no telling what they have. Try to stay with a select group of couples. That way, you reenforce your friendships, and there's more trust. At least, that has been my experience.

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LIZA Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 426 Location: ORANGE COUNTY, CA Status: Married Fem.	"You don't get the kind of variety you do at clubs, but there's no telling where these people have been, and there's no telling what they have. " Oh please.........No telling where these people have been?? There is really no telling where your friendly neighborhood Redskin's fan has been, either! I can't believe anyone with any knowledge would make such an ignorant and ridiculous comment. Do you thing swing clubs are just nonstop sex orgy's where people are taking on 4 or 5 partners a night?? [This message has been edited by LIZA (edited 07-30-2001).]