Suggestions on Approaching friend for MFM

daytoncouple · 04-21-2001, 10:57 PM

my husband and i have a guy friend who i find very attreactive and my husband wants to see us together. our only problem is we don't know how to approach him. i feel as if i'm getting signals from him, he loves to flirt with me. any helpful hints?

Stratecpl · 04-22-2001, 09:12 AM

Daytoncouple,

We're in a similar situation. It's difficult to tell anyone how to do this, very awkward, you see....

You could invite him over for a visit or drinks, just as a friend-friend type deal. Somewhere along the way, one or the other could *mention* to him something suggestive. You could get up and walk out of the room, taking care to look seductive and catch the friend's eye. If your husband is on-track with you, he could mention to your friend that you have a great-looking ass or something. If he agrees and raises hie eyebrows (lol) then your husband might go one step further and just ask him if he'd like to "sample the goods!"

Naturally, this would bring on a few nervous moments, but the air would be cleared for some definite "Yes, I do" or "no, I'm not interested" type communications. If he's interested, he will make his intentions known, once he gets over the initial shock of the moment!!! LOL

If not, then a simple change of subject is all that's required.

Good luck, and have fun!!

Ron
husband of Stratecpl

04-22-2001, 11:06 AM

Thanks for the advice!

We've shared these simular thoughts together about our single male friend for awhile now, but haven't made that next step from fantasy to reality. The thought of having an MFM gives me an erotic ZING!

Wife of CyberMWCouple

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 04-22-2001).]

Stratecpl · 04-22-2001, 12:06 PM

CyberMWCouple,

It's surprising that so many couples are really interested in the MFM threesomes. Matter of fact, they are totally tremendous!! LOL If you have this desire, then by all means go for it!! We do it fairly often, and it's terribly fulfilling.

Not to mention how easy it is to get going. We've discovered that a single guy is a whole lot less complicated than any couple is. He will have a lot less hangups and problems. When he arrives, there's no doubt in your mind what he wants!!!

Ron again

04-22-2001, 05:07 PM

Ron,

We haven't cum across the right male/female "friend" for our 3some fantasies....Yet.

They would have to be someone who respects our relationship, amoung all the special qualities we look for in our swing partners.

Wife of CyberMWCouple

txmojo · 04-22-2001, 11:58 PM

Hello you two,

Here is a simple but effective tool... Pass along a "greeting card" with the suggestion inside... A "Blank inside" card works great, with a discreet front picture that leads to a note about your wishes and a invitation. Adult Toy store has good cards!

By giving him a card he can decide without being in front of either of you if he wants to or not. Everyone has a "gracefull" out. Here is the best part... If he is interested, then he will approach you.

From there, your fantasy is just around the corner... Ahhhhh, the power of the suttle, but suductive word...

Enjoy,

[This message has been edited by txmojo (edited 04-22-2001).]

***JustAskJulie*** · 04-23-2001, 11:04 AM

the great thing about mfm 3somes vs. couple/couple 4somes.. is that there is only 1 person that the two of you have to agree on .. vs... 4 people all having to agree on each other. I personally like stratecpl's idea.. hell check out the stories section you'll find all kinds of ideas there from people who have already had them work

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

04-24-2001, 08:40 AM

Thanks all of you for your valued advice!

We've read the stories and chatted with other couples who've had MFM's experiences before, but I guess it's all in the timing, which we feel isn't right....Yet.

Until then, we'll just keep looking for that special someone...

Wife of CyberMWCouple

daytoncouple · 04-26-2001, 01:30 PM

well, we did it! we asked him and yes there for a few minutes things were quite akward, but i said no weirdness, no matter what we are all still cool friends! so everything is cool! we still haven't done "IT" but only time will tell, (which i think this weekend might be the time)

04-27-2001, 06:04 PM

daytoncouple,

Cool! Do keep us up-to-date on your "rendevous", and we hope everything works out for all of you!

Wife of CyberMWCouple

croozin2 · 05-05-2001, 12:25 AM

My hubby and I agree on believing the MFM threesome is less "troublesome," if you will (no offense), than couple with couple, but I have a question: is it "fair" (to the hubby) to have more frequent MFM play? Does he ever feel like the wife is getting all the fun and/or that it's "his turn" to have FMF fun?

BTW, great message board -- pertinent questions, friendly people, good advice and helpful tips from everyone. It's very cozy here.

Wife of croozin2

Stratecpl · 05-05-2001, 05:56 AM

Croozin,

It's true that she receives ALL of the attention in this type deal, but I can guarantee you that no one will feel slighted!! The male will gain great respect for his wife or partner during this encounter as she (more than likely) gives both of you more than you can handle!!! I highly recommend it!!

Ron, husband of Stratecpl

05-05-2001, 11:39 AM

Oh, we don't plan on only having MFM's! We're also in the process of searching for single females for our FMF's as well....

This way, neither of us will feel "left-out".

Wife of CyberMWCouple

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-05-2001, 11:58 AM

It really depends on what that couple is into. Personally my husband isn't into the idea of FMF threesomes but he loves seeing me with other guys, so MFM 3-somes are ideal. We do also play with couples and this is very important because he should have a chance to play with someone else as well.

But there are plenty of guys I've talked to who aren't interested in playing with anyone else at all, they just want to see their wife please and be pleased, so it all depends on that particular couple and what turns them on.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

CanadianCouple · 05-25-2001, 10:24 PM

One way of broaching the subject with someone you're interested in, either a single or another couple, would be to mention you'd heard or saw on TV something about the swinging lifestyle. You could keep your tone neutral until you get his/their reaction. If it seems positive, go from there and make your pitch.

There's always the risk of rejection and the accompanying embarrassment, but without risk there's no chance of success. The other single or couple MAY be interested in you, but are afraid to make the first move for fear of that same rejection.

Dan of CanadianCouple

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04-21-2001, 10:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
daytoncouple Registered Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 6 Location: dayton, oh usa	Suggestions on Approaching friend for MFM my husband and i have a guy friend who i find very attreactive and my husband wants to see us together. our only problem is we don't know how to approach him. i feel as if i'm getting signals from him, he loves to flirt with me. any helpful hints?

04-22-2001, 09:12 AM	#2 (permalink)
Stratecpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2000 Posts: 456 Location: TN, USA	Daytoncouple, We're in a similar situation. It's difficult to tell anyone how to do this, very awkward, you see.... You could invite him over for a visit or drinks, just as a friend-friend type deal. Somewhere along the way, one or the other could mention to him something suggestive. You could get up and walk out of the room, taking care to look seductive and catch the friend's eye. If your husband is on-track with you, he could mention to your friend that you have a great-looking ass or something. If he agrees and raises hie eyebrows (lol) then your husband might go one step further and just ask him if he'd like to "sample the goods!" Naturally, this would bring on a few nervous moments, but the air would be cleared for some definite "Yes, I do" or "no, I'm not interested" type communications. If he's interested, he will make his intentions known, once he gets over the initial shock of the moment!!! LOL If not, then a simple change of subject is all that's required. Good luck, and have fun!! Ron husband of Stratecpl __________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history"

04-22-2001, 12:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
Stratecpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2000 Posts: 456 Location: TN, USA	CyberMWCouple, It's surprising that so many couples are really interested in the MFM threesomes. Matter of fact, they are totally tremendous!! LOL If you have this desire, then by all means go for it!! We do it fairly often, and it's terribly fulfilling. Not to mention how easy it is to get going. We've discovered that a single guy is a whole lot less complicated than any couple is. He will have a lot less hangups and problems. When he arrives, there's no doubt in your mind what he wants!!! Ron again __________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history"

04-23-2001, 11:04 AM	#7 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,260 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	the great thing about mfm 3somes vs. couple/couple 4somes.. is that there is only 1 person that the two of you have to agree on .. vs... 4 people all having to agree on each other. I personally like stratecpl's idea.. hell check out the stories section you'll find all kinds of ideas there from people who have already had them work Julie http://www.swingersboard.com __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

04-22-2001, 11:06 AM	#3 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	Thanks for the advice! We've shared these simular thoughts together about our single male friend for awhile now, but haven't made that next step from fantasy to reality. The thought of having an MFM gives me an erotic ZING! Wife of CyberMWCouple [This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 04-22-2001).]

04-22-2001, 05:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	Ron, We haven't cum across the right male/female "friend" for our 3some fantasies....Yet. They would have to be someone who respects our relationship, amoung all the special qualities we look for in our swing partners. Wife of CyberMWCouple

04-22-2001, 11:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
txmojo Registered Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 5 Location: Texas	Hello you two, Here is a simple but effective tool... Pass along a "greeting card" with the suggestion inside... A "Blank inside" card works great, with a discreet front picture that leads to a note about your wishes and a invitation. Adult Toy store has good cards! By giving him a card he can decide without being in front of either of you if he wants to or not. Everyone has a "gracefull" out. Here is the best part... If he is interested, then he will approach you. From there, your fantasy is just around the corner... Ahhhhh, the power of the suttle, but suductive word... Enjoy, [This message has been edited by txmojo (edited 04-22-2001).]

04-24-2001, 08:40 AM	#8 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	Thanks all of you for your valued advice! We've read the stories and chatted with other couples who've had MFM's experiences before, but I guess it's all in the timing, which we feel isn't right....Yet. Until then, we'll just keep looking for that special someone... Wife of CyberMWCouple

04-26-2001, 01:30 PM	#9 (permalink)
daytoncouple Registered Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 6 Location: dayton, oh usa	well, we did it! we asked him and yes there for a few minutes things were quite akward, but i said no weirdness, no matter what we are all still cool friends! so everything is cool! we still haven't done "IT" but only time will tell, (which i think this weekend might be the time)

04-27-2001, 06:04 PM	#10 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	daytoncouple, Cool! Do keep us up-to-date on your "rendevous", and we hope everything works out for all of you! Wife of CyberMWCouple

05-05-2001, 12:25 AM	#11 (permalink)
croozin2 Registered User Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 1 Location: Spokane, WA USA	My hubby and I agree on believing the MFM threesome is less "troublesome," if you will (no offense), than couple with couple, but I have a question: is it "fair" (to the hubby) to have more frequent MFM play? Does he ever feel like the wife is getting all the fun and/or that it's "his turn" to have FMF fun? BTW, great message board -- pertinent questions, friendly people, good advice and helpful tips from everyone. It's very cozy here. Wife of croozin2

05-05-2001, 05:56 AM	#12 (permalink)
Stratecpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2000 Posts: 456 Location: TN, USA	Croozin, It's true that she receives ALL of the attention in this type deal, but I can guarantee you that no one will feel slighted!! The male will gain great respect for his wife or partner during this encounter as she (more than likely) gives both of you more than you can handle!!! I highly recommend it!! Ron, husband of Stratecpl __________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history"

05-05-2001, 11:39 AM	#13 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	Oh, we don't plan on only having MFM's! We're also in the process of searching for single females for our FMF's as well.... This way, neither of us will feel "left-out". Wife of CyberMWCouple

05-05-2001, 11:58 AM	#14 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,260 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	It really depends on what that couple is into. Personally my husband isn't into the idea of FMF threesomes but he loves seeing me with other guys, so MFM 3-somes are ideal. We do also play with couples and this is very important because he should have a chance to play with someone else as well. But there are plenty of guys I've talked to who aren't interested in playing with anyone else at all, they just want to see their wife please and be pleased, so it all depends on that particular couple and what turns them on. Julie http://www.swingersboard.com __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

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