If you don't do singles this bud aint for you

[Flori_DAMAN]

As a single male that has been swinging as a couple for many more years than a single I would propose that couples that are interested in singles...and those other single swingers give an honest opinion.

I choose to not be involved in a relationship currently. I also choose to swing. What is it about me that makes me so attractive to couples that like singles?

I know I am because so many express an interest in me. I know many single females in the same boat.

I think this is an important subject.

The reason I think I am attracted to couples that like single guys is because I am not pushy, or demanding, I am handsome, have lots of experience in the lifestyle and consider the sanctity of a marrraige to be of utmost importance. I also know that if I were not handsome not one of the couples that express interest in me would give it a second thought though.

Lately I have recieved many offers to swing with couples. I have gotten to know quite a few people on this board intimately. Some single females, some couples. They always just like the fact that I am non-threatening.

Is that the only quality that allows me to expore this lifestyle succesfully? I know IM not the best looking guy on the block. I know I am no body builder.

I also know that true swinging couples that are not only into couples love the adoration of both single guys and single women.

I have talked to a few other guys that seem to be in demand also and they relate the same thing to me.

Ya know, there are very few couples on this board that I would actually swing with though. THat is another thing. I am picky also. There are people that just live to pick on me. Some couples that don't do single guys love me anyhow and I love them.

I am sure some single guys that want to swing should not swing. They are only interested in getting laid easily. I know of some couples on here that should not swing either.

I mean with single men. Many couples should not swing with singles. That seems so basic it hardly seems like mentioning. I mean who needs to hear it anyhow? It is like the weight issue, or the attractive issue. No one can be insulted because of a category. Only if they chooses to be. There is one female on this board that is vindicative. IF she wanted my dick so bad she could taste it I wouldn't whip it out for anything in the world. There are too many like minded couples that love singles like me to feel obligated to......well OK< more than one. Yes, there are more than one single women that seem to attack single men.

I rarely hear single guys attack single men. I hear great advice from some though. I hope you don't mind MR. Alura, but you are a true guy that isn't into singles but would never insult one. I respect that. I guess some females need to somehow overstate there objections out of animosity rather than really contributing to everyone in the lifestyle, whether they be single or couples.

John

[Roxysbayou]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN

The reason I think I am attracted to couples that like single guys is because I am not pushy, or demanding, I am handsome, have lots of experience in the lifestyle and consider the sanctity of a marrraige to be of utmost importance.

I think that this description of yourself is exactly why others in the lifestyle come to trust you. A big part of it for me is that you are FOR REAL. You don't put on an act, what you see is what you get.

The last statement alone is a rare gem.

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN
As a single male that has been swinging as a couple for many more years than a single I would propose that couples that are interested in singles...and those other single swingers give an honest opinion.

I choose to not be involved in a relationship currently. I also choose to swing. What is it about me that makes me so attractive to couples that like singles?

I know I am because so many express an interest in me. I know many single females in the same boat.

I think this is an important subject.

The reason I think I am attracted to couples that like single guys is because I am not pushy, or demanding, I am handsome, have lots of experience in the lifestyle and consider the sanctity of a marrraige to be of utmost importance. I also know that if I were not handsome not one of the couples that express interest in me would give it a second thought though.

Don't sell yourself too short, John. I would dare say that part of the reason you are attractive to couples is not so much handsomeness, but more of the personality you normally display here on the Board. Upbeat, jovial, trying your best to be helpful, trying to lighten the mood when it gets too somber...someone that most of us would want to claim as a friend. And that is probably what makes you attractive to couples.

I also know that true swinging couples that are not only into couples love the adoration of both single guys and single women.

I have talked to a few other guys that seem to be in demand also and they relate the same thing to me.

I am sure some single guys that want to swing should not swing. They are only interested in getting laid easily. I know of some couples on here that should not swing either.

And there are some single females that should not swing, too. There are some couples that should not swing, too, and I think the Board if full of that evidence.

I have no quarrel with couples that choose not to swing with singles. That is a decision that the two of them must reach together and they do not owe me any explanation. However, I have grown a tad weary of being told that singles cannot swing because we are not half of a couple. I suppose that the truest definition of the word would preclude "swinging," but to me, using the word "swinging" is similar to saying I'm going to go get a Coke. The "Coke" may be Pepsi, Dr. Pepper, or 7-Up. Just a rather generic term meaning I'm getting a soft drink. I really believe the intent of "swinging" is sharing physical pleasures so from that standpoint, I can swing.

As for singles not being accepted in the lifestyle...I only know the ads are chock full of couples searching for the "elusive bi-female." More so than the "elusive male," but nonetheless, the couples are out there searching for us. I sometimes find it hard to understand the reasons for some peoples attitudes towards singles. It has always seemed to me that the spouse of a couple could cause as many problems in a couples relationship as a single.

I rarely hear single guys attack single men. I hear great advice from some though. I hope you don't mind MR. Alura, but you are a true guy that isn't into singles but would never insult one. I respect that.

I have now had the opportunity to meet the Alura's socially. I believe they have been selectively involved in this lifestyle for so many years that they are entirely comfortable and secure in who they are - together and separately. When people reach that point, they no longer have to be threatened or intimidated or rude to others. They become accepting of others. And that might also be part of the reason you are attractive to others. You, too, are comfortable with who you are. - EBF

PS: And for what it's worth, I wrote this one time and lost it. I think it made more sense the first go-round.
John

[Tellya Later]

Originally posted by Roxysbayou
I think that this description of yourself is exactly why others in the lifestyle come to trust you. A big part of it for me is that you are FOR REAL. You don't put on an act, what you see is what you get.

The last statement alone is a rare gem.

That pretty much sums it up on my end too. I'd only add that the qualities that make you a dateable single guy and quite the catch....also make you ones that make you interesting to other couples. I think the two go hand in hand really.

I mean when was the last time you saw a crude, unkempt, and generally rude single guy get the attention of the girl that catches everyones attention.

[alabamafuntonig]

Flori_daman

I myself do like to swing with singles and couples alike. The fun times I have are important. A single person we choose will always respect us or else. (Lol) His intentions have to be honest. If a single guy is just after pussy he can hit the door. There are couples out there in non swinging relationships that have single friends. Why? Because they have a common bond. In this life style if you have things in common it’s always a better time. It gives us both (me and Mrs. Bama) pleasure to be with single guys/girls. We have several friends that we play with and they are not like the mean asshol$s some people on the board make them out to be. They are not pushy; In fact they are shy and timed sometimes. Well that’s my 2 cents and i'm with you Florida man. If you are going to swing with us you better treat my wife and me like you want to be treated.

[peace3]

Originally Posted by Flori_DAMAN

As a single male that has been swinging as a couple for many more years than a single I would propose that couples that are interested in singles...and those other single swingers give an honest opinion.

I choose to not be involved in a relationship currently. I also choose to swing. What is it about me that makes me so attractive to couples that like singles?

I know I am because so many express an interest in me. I know many single females in the same boat.

I think this is an important subject.

The reason I think I am attracted to couples that like single guys is because I am not pushy, or demanding, I am handsome, have lots of experience in the lifestyle and consider the sanctity of a marrraige to be of utmost importance. I also know that if I were not handsome not one of the couples that express interest in me would give it a second thought though.

Lately I have recieved many offers to swing with couples. I have gotten to know quite a few people on this board intimately. Some single females, some couples. They always just like the fact that I am non-threatening.

Is that the only quality that allows me to expore this lifestyle succesfully? I know IM not the best looking guy on the block. I know I am no body builder.

I also know that true swinging couples that are not only into couples love the adoration of both single guys and single women.

I have talked to a few other guys that seem to be in demand also and they relate the same thing to me.

Ya know, there are very few couples on this board that I would actually swing with though. THat is another thing. I am picky also. There are people that just live to pick on me. Some couples that don't do single guys love me anyhow and I love them.

I am sure some single guys that want to swing should not swing. They are only interested in getting laid easily. I know of some couples on here that should not swing either.

I mean with single men. Many couples should not swing with singles. That seems so basic it hardly seems like mentioning. I mean who needs to hear it anyhow? It is like the weight issue, or the attractive issue. No one can be insulted because of a category. Only if they chooses to be. There is one female on this board that is vindicative. IF she wanted my dick so bad she could taste it I wouldn't whip it out for anything in the world. There are too many like minded couples that love singles like me to feel obligated to......well OK< more than one. Yes, there are more than one single women that seem to attack single men.

I rarely hear single guys attack single men. I hear great advice from some though. I hope you don't mind MR. Alura, but you are a true guy that isn't into singles but would never insult one. I respect that. I guess some females need to somehow overstate there objections out of animosity rather than really contributing to everyone in the lifestyle, whether they be single or couples.

John

I am a single guy trying to find some local couples to swing with. It is hard for a single guy to find a couple that want a single guy, most want a couple of female. I understand that to a point. But alot of us single guys are looking for nice fun loving couples to have fun with. I know there must be some couples out there that are looking for the same. all of us single guys are not pigs just looking to just use the woman for our own pleasure. Like my self I really enjoy helping to bring pleasure to everyone involved . To me that is the most enjoyable part of it. It is good friends, good fun, pleasurable times for all. maby I am just looking at it all wrong, you tell me. Thank You peace3

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by peace3

I am a single guy trying to find some local couples to swing with. It is hard for a single guy to find a couple that want a single guy, most want a couple of female. I understand that to a point. But alot of us single guys are looking for nice fun loving couples to have fun with. I know there must be some couples out there that are looking for the same. all of us single guys are not pigs just looking to just use the woman for our own pleasure. Like my self I really enjoy helping to bring pleasure to everyone involved . To me that is the most enjoyable part of it. It is good friends, good fun, pleasurable times for all. maby I am just looking at it all wrong, you tell me. Thank You peace3

For starters, according to your profile, you ARE NOT single. Second, there are actually a lot of couples out there who are interested in SINGLE males, but who wouldn't touch a married (cheating) one with a 10-ft pole. Third, you come across as very whiny in your post (what about me?) and that attitude won't get you anywhere.

[peace3]

Thank you for your reply. I understand what you are telling me and you are right for the most part. I should have gone more into my single approach to swinging. I did not mean to wine but you are right I was winning. That was a mistake on my part.
Thank You for your response
peace3

[BodyScape02]

Amen Julie... Amen!

WE are one of those couples... and for me the sexiest single male is the one who used to swing and got divorced... they get it and understand it is not all about them getting a little somthin somethin...

it is about a 3 person US.

~Cat

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by Flori_DAMAN

What is it about me that makes me so attractive to couples that like singles?...I know I am because so many express an interest in me...I think I am attracted to couples that like single guys is because I am not pushy, or demanding, I am handsome, [and] have lots of experience in the lifestyle...I also know that if I were not handsome not one of the couples that express interest in me would give it a second thought though.

Lately I have recieved many offers to swing with couples...I have gotten to know quite a few people on this board intimately...They always just like the fact that I am non-threatening....Is that the only quality that allows me to expore this lifestyle succesfully?

Ya know, there are very few couples on this board that I would actually swing with though. THat is another thing. I am picky also...Some couples that don't do single guys love me anyhow and I love them.

There is one female on this board that is vindicative. IF she wanted my dick so bad she could taste it I wouldn't whip it out for anything in the world. There are too many like minded couples that love singles like me to feel obligated to......John

Wow...if I had to guess why you're so popular with all those couples and single women, I'd say it's because you're so humble.

I like you because you're so truthful.

[Tterrific]

Fla,

How well put! Thank you very much for your insight. Though I rarely post,I read here every day and would like to try the lifestyle, but understanding it all is the heart of the matter that I am working on just now. If I could verbalize my thoughts, they would certainly mirror your post on the subject. My confidence will come along, and so will that opportunity.

Have a Great Day!
A Newbie