new life for me as a divorced female

[jodi]

hi. i joined this site last week & received a warm welcome, tnx! it's a pretty big site to navigate, but i believe that i'm learning how.

i'm really not sure where to start with dating or meeting couples or males that are swingers. i've recently divorced and have only swung as a couple in the past. recently i've been actively swinging w/ my friend and her husband, but they don't swing with others.

but as for myself, i'm not sure really what i want. i do like to meet people and like most of you, want to spend time with people that i consider compatible. but, tbh, i'd feel weird going to a swinger club by myself. i'm not even sure what my question is, lol. i don't want this thread to sound like i'm advertising either.

i am just comfortable w/ the idea of swinging and feel that it is moral in that people are not cheating and able to express what they want to physically. but, just not really sure where to get started as a single female. any thoughts or suggestions welcome. i wonder if there are other divorced females in a similiar situation as mine and how they handled it. thanks for reading.

[padoc]

We'd suggest that you hit up a club. If you're in central or south Jersey, consider the Pleasure Garden Club in Philly or TPA in northern MD. Caligula's in AC may work too but we have no first hand knowledge of that club. Single, attractive and willing women are the most rare of commodities in this lifestyle and you would be most welcome.

One of our most erotic times occurred at TPA when we and another couple were walking into a room for play. It was halloween and we were all in some kind of costume. Just as we started to close the door, a single woman in a VERY sexy Klingon costume asked if she could join us. What followed was so hot that I've often thought about writing it up for submission to the stories section. That Klingon lady helped us bring both girls to multiple orgasms and we four returned the favor with her. It was truly a night to remember.

Our point is this, unlike single males, you are unique and in demand and you should take advantage of the opportunity.

[jodi]

ok. thanks for ur reply. i will consider this. i'd just have to break the ice w/ some people.

[N&G]

There are a number of hotel parties in the central NJ area if that's something that might interest you. They tend to be hardcore sex parties but there are always some single women that attend and nobody is obligated to play if they don't want to. Usually single women are free. If you have an Swing Lifestyle account they are in the "Hot Date" area. Some parties allow single men but keep in mind that most men are looking to have sex and not to find their next relationship.

[Newpants]

I also agree with checking out some lifestyle clubs. If you are thinking about getting into the lifestyle your number one priority will need to be looking out for you physical safety.

Most lifestyle clubs are not at all like normal vanilla meat-market clubs where you pay the cover at the door and then you are on your own. Most lifestyle clubs have much lower numbers of people, most of the attendees are couples and the owners and hosts of the clubs know many of the patrons personally and are able to keep an eye on things and ensure everyone's safety and comfort.



Clubs will roll out the red carpet and treat a single lady like royalty and will do whatever they to make you feel safe and comfortable.

My advice is to find some clubs in your area and contact them ahead of time and tell what you are interested in and what your concerns and questions are and make arraingements to go a particular night.

Almost all clubs will have designated host and maybe even some co-host couples. Make arraingments to meet with one of the host couples when you arrive and have them show you around and make introductions and do what they can to make you feel comfortable and welcome.

At clubs you will also be meeting real people face to face and will know more about them in a few minutes of conversation than you will in months of cyber chat with some nameless, faceless stranger on a computer. The internet is full of wierdos, phantoms and wierd creepy guys living in their mom's basement. I am not implying that all people in a club are going to be Prince Galient but you will be able to spot and avoid the wierdos in minutes at a club and most clubs have very strict rules and codes of conduct and anyone causing problems are usually given the boot real fast so most people in a club are honest decent people.

[Coupleerotic22]

I would recommend a local social. There should be several within a short distance to you.

If you are not on swinglifestyle.com, join, it is great.

Once there, select clubs and then look for ones in your area. Check out the details to see if it sounds like fun to you. Look under Attendees to see who is going.

If you see anyone that interested you, send them an email introducing yourself. I would say 3 or 4 couples would be good. As a single female you should have no problem making new friends.

Chat with them and get to know them. Once you feel comfortable with them, tell them you are going to the same social and would like to meet face to face, even if it is nothing more than a friendship. That is an easy way to show up at your first social and not be in the position of knowing no one.

If you have chatted with 3-4 couples it gives you an opportunity to mingle a bit, so you don't feel pressured to hang out with one couple and you will be able broaden your horizons. In all likelihood they will introduce you to other couples. All of a sudden a party where you knew no one (in person) before you walked in the door, is one where you are leaving knowing several couples. Your opportunities will expand enormously and at you can control the pace.

[ENCRYPTEDTX]

Jodi,

Forgive my manners and please accept my welcome.

I am jealous of your location in NJ. In a recent visit to Philly I found lots of warm welcome people in the lifestyle. I will echo others and tell you that Swinglifestyle is a great place to find people.

I was able to make some wonderful friends from Swing Lifestyle and was able to attend a couple of House Parties while in the NJ area. They list events and local club events so you can pick and choose what may interest you.

As you may or may not already know, I will caution you to meeting people from places like Craigslist. Yes, diamonds in the rough do exist, but by finding genuine swingers and lifestyle people you can ward off potential uncomfortable experiences with people who may not fully understand and respect the lifestyle and those in it. You are already fully aware of the great friendships the lifestyle offers and I wish you the best in finding more wonderful friends, and awesome times.

Kyle

[jodi]

hi kyle,

thanks for the welcome and advice about re-entering the lifestyle. glad to know that there is a lot of activity in my area, lol. perhaps we will bump into eachother at one point. if you are ever in the area and attending a club or party, please let me know and perhaps i will be in attendance as well. once i meet some people. thanks again.