Anyone else notice this?

[MsGoneWild]

So... bf and I have decided to take the plunge and swing separately as well as together. For him, its been a great experience so far. He had a lovely date with a very awesome lady and is excited for me to start my venture.

There are a few guys I've been talking to for a while and some guys that are new, all met through Swing Lifestyle and except for maybe a handful of them they all have taken on this ridiculous Jeckle/Hyde personality. Sometime I'll talk to them and the conversation is great, geared to me in a way that MAKES ME WANT TO MEET THEM AND FUCK THEM (this is good), the next day, the guy is back to acting like the jackasses i left behind in HS. Once this happens, they're on the bock list. I don't have time to discern whats real and whats make believe. I dont want to waste my time or theirs. And franky, once they start the "o baby, im just wut u need, u will love my dick" shit, i'm done. (don't take this as i dont want to talk about sex, i'm very interested in what they're looking for out of this and what i want but they just start going on in that way that makes me think that they think they are gods gift to women..)

What i want is spelled out on my profile, what i DONT want is spelled out on my profile. Its not hard.

Is this routine? I know as a "single" girl i'm going to have a lot of attention, but i use the Swing Lifestyle mail system to weed out who i might actually want to talk to. I use YIM to weed out who will actually be worth time to meet, and i use the in person meetings to figure out yes or no. So far.. I've had one in person meet and that was a bust too.

Mostly this is just a rant.. but does anyone else have the Jeckle/Hyde thing go on? Men, women i don't care. relate your frustrations! lol

[curiousagain]

I think everyone runs into this at some point with SM, SF, and couples in the swing and vanilla world. I have had couples email me and want to meet, exchange emails and pictures, set up a date and then they change their tune or one week won't return emails, the next sending me emails with naked pictures and telling me what they want me to "do to" the female.

Sometimes you wonder if you have brought this on, and sometimes you figure it's them. It's just the way it sometimes is. But, if this is happening with everyone you have contact with, maybe you need to try to figure out if it's something you are or are not doing.

[MsGoneWild]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

I think everyone runs into this at some point with SM, SF, and couples in the swing and vanilla world. I have had couples email me and want to meet, exchange emails and pictures, set up a date and then they change their tune or one week won't return emails, the next sending me emails with naked pictures and telling me what they want me to "do to" the female.

Sometimes you wonder if you have brought this on, and sometimes you figure it's them. It's just the way it sometimes is. But, if this is happening with everyone you have contact with, maybe you need to try to figure out if it's something you are or are not doing.

Not everyone, but it seems to go on a weekly cycle almost. For a week, each person i gave my YIM to (could be 1-3 people) will all go nutso, but everyone else will be fine. next week-fine, no one changes, week after that, another 1-2 people. I think they're just getting fed up when i don't put out fast enough. Except thats detailed in the profile.

Thanks for the reply though, i'll look to see what I'm doing that can help fix the situation.

[realcplub2]

You are actually doing alright

Its the ones that IM, and want to meet and yes fuck 20 minutes later that ruin the single guy catagory.. And yes, many were the type you left behind in HS

But, there are quality members as well. Keep at it and dont be discouraged. The fact that your BF is doing well is actually the point..