Is the difference in males & females desire for multiple partners instinctive?

[CABob]

Last I checked, there was roughly the same amount of females to males on this planet. But the logic boards must be different.

In general, do men mess things up by their own instinctive desire to have sex with multiple females? Thus bringing down the supply of available women?

And if that's true...does the opposite majority of women instinctively desire one mate for life? And if it's with another female, does that not also bring down the supply?

Maybe it just comes down to supply and demand?

Happy Hunting

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by CABob
Last I checked, there was roughly the same amount of females to males on this planet. But the logic boards must be different.

In general, do men mess things up by their own instinctive desire to have sex with multiple females? Thus bringing down the supply of available women?

And if that's true...does the opposite majority of women instinctively desire one mate for life? And if it's with another female, does that not also bring down the supply?

Maybe it just comes down to supply and demand?

Happy Hunting

Girls like guys that are self confident. Most self confident guys are faking it. They talk the talk but when it comes to walking the walk they are quite uncapable of satisfying a females innermost desires. Females want to share life. Men want to share genitals. Sure it is easy to impress a gal for a few nights and get her into the sack then once he has "bagged" her she is disposable.

Females are unquestionably the emotionally superior gender. Of course there are exceptions as every female on this board that has a good mate knows.

Either gender can be broken down to categories. You have females that are honest, loyal, intelligent, compassionate and giving. These types have usually been taken advantage of by the jerk guys that make it hard for all the others.

They are not going to just fuck every guy that seems nice. They have been hurt and want proof that you are what they want, not what you claim to be.

Many men think females want someone to run their lives. Many females think men want nothing but pussy.

This creates a situation that is necessary to procreate. It is mother nature talking always.

OK, even if a gal doesn't want a baby, her instincts tell her that a good man is a protector, strong and capable.

A man wants a good looking female because instinctually that means she can carry children and nuture them better in order to produce offspring.

Now most of us don't give a crap about this including me.

Guys like me that have been burnt try to do double somersaults to impress the female they are interested in. They use the way she looks to decide if they are interested.

Girls that have been burnt will get nowhere near a guy physically until he has proven beyond a doubt that pussy isn't all he is interested in.

IF you really want to find a fuck partner then admit it and tell them so right off. Many girls respect this and that is exactly what they want. IF you call them the next night and they are fucking their other male buddy you shouln't feel bad cuz she is doing just what she has the right to do and what she wants to do.

IF you want a LTR, then you had better be very selective. Sometimes you do end up with one even though you screw on the first date, as I did with my dear deceased wife, but that is the exception.

Most LTR's take a long time to create. The average time would be measured in at least half years.

The girls I date always relate horror stories about the guys that date them a few times then leech onto them and think they owe them sex. This is why good females are hard to get. IT should be that way though. IF good ones were easy to get they wouldn't be good.

Anything that is precious is rare. You sound like you want a gem and they are hard to find and you must be very patient once you find one.

Hope all that makes sense, and I hope I don't sound like I am talking like I am a superstud cuz I certainly have had my share of frustration trying to get my gem also.

I have been fortunate to have had a few in my lifetime so far and I am sure I will have one again soon. I never give up and take every opportunity I have to present myself in a positive manner to the women that appeal to me.

I never dwell on the fact that good girls are difficult and never compare them with men. There can be no comparison. Every man thinks he is the best thing that landed on the planet. Every guy thinks he can outfuck every other man. Every man thinks "if only they knew the real me" then they would love me.

Every good female is well aware of this.

Good luck and just be yourself when you approach any female. By all means approach them though. I have always had great looking females hanging from my arm not cuz im good looking but because I approach them and say what I actually feel. Many great looking gals feel thwarted by men because the good ones ignore them, they don't want body builders that own sports cars, although that is acceptable, they really want guys that can tune into them. Guys that will actually talk about feelings. Guys that are sensitive but not wimpy. Guys that never insist on anything but let their wants be known. Guys that don't put them on a pedestal just to get laid but because they think in their heart that she is a queen.

John rambled again.

[CABob]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN
You sound like you want a gem and they are hard to find

I'm just a guy living a decent life.
And I enjoyed you comments, thanks!

[JustAskJulie]

Even if there were exactly the same number of single males as their are single females on the planet, you still have to take into account that not every single male or single female is worth the time of day.

That said, you have to be what women are looking for (more than just a single guy) in order to get one.

[CABob]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie
...you have to be what women are looking for (more than just a single guy) in order to get one.

Well put Julie, perhaps there's someone for everyone then? Because really, I'm no one special.

[jen]

Well put Julie, perhaps there's someone for everyone then? Because really, I'm no one special.

There is, I believe, someone for everyone. On top of that, I believe that everyones - someone - is someone very special.

You don't have to believe yourself to be special, sooner or later that - someone for you -- will come along and prove you wrong.

[Roxysbayou]

Originally posted by CABob
I'm no one special.

I can't believe that you said that! Everyone is special in their own way. Don't be so hard on yourself! I don't know you that well, but I know that you are quite a charmer! The right woman will fall in your lap when the time is right, just wait and see.

[jen]

Exactly Roxy...what you said...no wait, what we said with different words.

I couldn't believe he said it either.

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by CABob
Well put Julie, perhaps there's someone for everyone then? Because really, I'm no one special.

Everyone is special, Bob. Some in ways which have more awareness than others but none the less, just as special. Check out my signature line, a quote by Mother Teresa. Take it to heart, live it and feel it.

[jen]

See Bob, thats three to one in favor of your specialness. Sorry for your luck, you've been outnumbered.

[CABob]

You people sure know how to make an average guy feel special. Thanks!

[Flori_DAMAN]

Could someone define special?

Does that make some people UN special?

John

[jen]

How does that song go?

Make someone happy, make just one someone happy...

Sheesh, I wish I could remember the song.

The thing about specialness in the context we have been typing is that -- yes everyone is special, in that they are themself, individual, & unique.

Everyone has the ability to make someone happy, and that, along with so many other things, = specialness.

About being un-special, I haven't met one yet.

Were you joking John?

[Flori_DAMAN]

no Jen,

I wasn't.

But ya know, we all need confirmation now n then huh?

John

[CABob]

Originally posted by jen
Everyone has the ability to make someone happy, and that, along with so many other things, = specialness.

To me, "special" means a certain combination of characteristics. A certain appearance, attitude, style and grace and sense of humor. That to me, along with so many other things, like Jen mentioned = special.

So nobody's UN special, if you're a true believer that there's someone out there for everyone, right?