Never assume

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by TNT

The only thing that really happened was I got pouty because my fun was interrupted.

So Teresa, he got to see your pouty face instead of your O face.......... definately his loss

Brett

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by TNT

We love single men and in over ten years of swinging, this was only the third time I've ever had a problem with a single man (and it wasn't much of a problem to begin with). Whereas, it would take more than my two hands to count the problems I've had with married men.

It was not my intention of having this thread turn into single male bashing. I wanted it to be an informative piece of advice for those single men that do attend house parties so they wouldn't make the same mistake this particular guy did. And, as previously stated, it's not just something single men are guilty of doing.

T


Teresa

I also didn't mean to just bash the single men. I've also encountered a few married men who think they have card blanche because it's a swingers party. In fact, there have probably been more married men who grope than single men. Drives me nuts either way.

To make things fair and balanced, I've also seen women who will walk up to a man and grab him. I'm not like that, so it's a bit harder to comprehend for me. Single women I've noticed are a bit more reserved than the married women. Single women seem to stand back and wait for someone to talk to her rather than mingle right off the bat and start touching.

I apologize to the single men out there if you thought I was bashing just you . It was not my intention. I should have explained right off the bat that it wasn't just singles that were the offenders.

[Mr TybeeSwing]

They say there is always a reason for a stereotype. It may be a good reason or a bad one but there is always one. The single guy stereotype is one that has a good reason behind it. I am fairly new to being the dreaded single guy and I thought that we were as a whole being unjustly labeled, then I actually met some of my brethren and I got pissed at me. Luckily there are couples and single ladies that will give us the benefit of the doubt, that was the case for me.

Now am I not only the one single guy allow to our local meets, (it doesn't hurt that I usually bring a date) but I am also the one that people come to when someone needs to be quieted down.

I just want to thank all the people that will and do look beyond the antics of my somewhat over testosteroned and under intelligent brethren to give the rest of us a chance.

[TheMiddleDoor]

yeah I can see how reminding a guy to use his "inside voice" could really ruin the mood....when you're a spectator..SHUT UP!

this is one of the reasons why some clubs/M&G/house parties do interviews on the single guys and limit their numbers.

any place that just lets any single guy off the street in is asking for trouble. I've been places where it was just a cutoff.. X number of single guys and then turn the rest away..and we don't care who they are. it was a disaster. they closed down in 3 parties...each time the cops had to be called because of either theft or assault.

respectful single guys who know the rules are usually welcomed everywhere. unfortunately they're not easy to find. which is why some people go to the couples only parties..the club hosts don't go through the effort to find them.

I fully understand WHY they don't....honestly it's a pain in the ass...we easily spend 10 hours a week answering phone calls/e-mails from single guys. and then we do a few hours every weekend doing interviews. after that we background check the promising ones..to see if they're married, have a DWI , anything violent....we weed those out. after that they get a party or two when we watch them like a hawk.

it's not easy. but our people appreciate it. and actually once it's over the guys appreciate it....being welcome at our parties is sometimes how they get into other places.

[qreskupl7476]

In our experience we've found that there are some single guys in the lifestyle that are swingers . . . and others that are just single guys.

The ones that "get it" are cool, wish there were more of them.

The ones that don't "get it" however, can certainly F up a good party. We were at one party where, no matter what we did it seemed, this one dude (who most definitely didn't "get it") just kept showing up and totally blasting our mojo into oblivion. We went to another room and started making out thinking maybe some other folks would join us . . . and there he was hands everywhere they didn't belong. We went to another room . . . and there he was, same thing again. It went on all night like this until the two of us finally gave up on any swinging happening and went into another room to enjoy each other privately and closed the door. Right in the middle of the festivities we were interrupted by the door opening slightly and then slamming shut. Turns out the dude was going to walk in on us, and someone else grabbed the door and closed it rather forcefully to get their point across. They then asked him to leave and not come back. We still don't think he knows why he got the boot.

Once . . . Twice . . . Threeeeeee times a douchebag . . .