Requiem for a Threesome.

[Calgetty]

Last week I stopped at a pub and began chatting with a woman and we really had a nice time. After a while her male friend joined us and we had a drink together. She made a comment about having dinner and going back to her place. I did not want to creep her out by asking if she meant a threesome but apparently thats what it was,

How does one ask without being disrecpectful? I think we were all receptive to the idea but no one asked. Went home thinking what if...

Any suggestions for someone new?

[Rockon]

I usually try to turn the conversation twords sex.
If they start telling past stories chances are you are in!

[bbarnsworth]

The unanswered question is always unanswered. Next time, ask What's the worst that can happen?

Try stopping at the same pub again, same time and day of week.

[BiloxiCouple]

Use common sense.

They may want to swing.

Or cruising for an unwilling slave....

[ncmd_couple]

Many years ago a friend of mine and I went on a road trip. We decided that we would point blank ask any woman we desired, "Wanna F---?" Yeap, got slapped a couple of times, but had one hell of a weekend!

S

[two4youinswva]

Can you fill in some blanks for me?
Did you have dinner and go back to her place, where nothing happened?
Or, did you decline the dinner/her place offer, and go home wondering what happened?

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Or cruising for an unwilling slave....

Yea, that would put a damper on the evening.

Or perhaps they needed a kidney.

[Calgetty]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Can you fill in some blanks for me?
Did you have dinner and go back to her place, where nothing happened?
Or, did you decline the dinner/her place offer, and go home wondering what happened?

Regretfully the latter. They left and I was three sips from the end of a vodka tonic before I saw Miss Take join me for the rest of the evening. Bbarnsworth is right... I'll try again.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Yea, that would put a damper on the evening.

Or perhaps they needed a kidney.

YIKES!!!!

Ahh yes the WHAT IF game...

Or as Dennis Hopper said in Apocalypse Now

"Did you that IF is the MIDDLE word in LIFE, If you can keep your head while all others are losing thiers....."

Live DYNAMICALLY... when such an opportunity presents itself like that.. ASK

At worst you get slapped, or threatend by the boyfriend.. Or they says yes and as CHICUP reminded.. they are organ theives and you lose a kidney.. But since it was thier / her house.. kind of doubt that was the case...

the only way to know for sure was to ask... going with the flow with a pair that arent dure how to bring it up, can easily lead to cold feet.. By LIVING DYNAMICALLY.. ( I think thats my new catch phrase for the year...) You take the uncomfortable conversation and throw it on the table for discussion.. Or get a definative answer.. either way

[SecretAsianMan]

If you were okay with having a threesome with the two of them - I guess maybe (without asking the question) - you could've just followed 'em home for a drink and see where it lead.

I'm the first to admit that I seriously need to get hit over the head with a "clue-by-four" at times when my dates/friends are hinting that I should just make-a-move or go back with them to their place.

[slevin]

I wouldn't have even worried about asking if she was inviting me along for a threesome or not. If she was obviously asking me to join them for dinner then back to her place I would have gone along if I was interested and let things go where they go. If I was enjoying myself with them then the worst that would happen is I'd have a nice dinner, good company and I'd head home. Best case, it ends up in a threesome

It never hurts to ask, but I would have just gone along with it and brought it up at the opportune time, if things hadn't already progressed that far.

[absingleman]

Originally Posted by Calgetty

Last week I stopped at a pub and began chatting with a woman and we really had a nice time. After a while her male friend joined us and we had a drink together. She made a comment about having dinner and going back to her place. I did not want to creep her out by asking if she meant a threesome but apparently thats what it was,

How does one ask without being disrecpectful? I think we were all receptive to the idea but no one asked. Went home thinking what if...

Any suggestions for someone new?

What you described above is how most of my threesome experiences happened. I would be talking to a woman, her husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, or roommate would show up, they would suggest going somewhere else to eat or for drinks, then we all end up in bed. Only happens one time out of a hundred, but its how couples pick up people for threesomes (or more) when they don't know them and don't know they swing.

Personally, I think you were uncomfortable with the sudden inclusion of another man when you thought you were going to make a one on one hookup. If you are going to be a SMS, you gotta be ready for that kind of thing, buddy.

[DigginIt]

You were there and you know if the chat was flirtatious or not. I would have just said... "Sounds great...am I invited?" with a shit eating grin on my face.

You would have either gotten the dirty disgusted look, the laugh back and a "sorry dear, this is a private party" type of response or the hopeful "you think you are up for the challenge" type of response.

Either way, regret is a terrible, terrible thing.

[Meetussoon]

Love the new catch phrase. Live Dynamically. Remember Miss Take next time, as said before, she/they may cruise the same pub weekly or on occasion, walk up-confess your George Costanza defect, and ask if you can pour her some whine at home.

[Calgetty]

Originally Posted by Meetussoon

Love the new catch phrase. Live Dynamically. Remember Miss Take next time, as said before, she/they may cruise the same pub weekly or on occasion, walk up-confess your George Costanza defect, and ask if you can pour her some whine at home.

Nice!