Annoying Single Males

[exploringRM]

So does the lifestyle push single males to be annoying or are there just annoying single males? (and perhaps you can expand that into couples as I read here they can be pushy though we've encoutered any in person).

Spent last night at the swing club and today at a M&G at a strip bar, and my wife has just never been so in the sights of single guys. Even today the guy did not get the hint after we got up and moved after he sat down. He was not being physically in appropriate, just very predatory. The wife was not in the best of moods today (tired from our fun last night) and just that small encounter sent that mood spiraling down.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Both men and women have the capacity to become an annoyance. It's not "the lifestyle" that pushes men or women into annoying behaviour.

I will have to lay out a definition before I expose the rest of my logic. Single men are not really participating in the lifestyle. They are simply nipping around the heals. My definition includes that you do have to be married or involved in a committed relationship to be a "swinger". Many singles are accepted into the intimate company of swingers (life-stylers, if you prefer) owing to the fact that they are right-minded, interesting and fun. A single is an annoyance when he or she makes no effort to understand.

I have to wonder about the swing club you describe. Any club my wife and I have ever been to, just one word to a club employee or volunteer would have had the pest tossed out on his ear with an invitation to never come back. For a meet-n-greet event, you're on your own.

[exploringRM]

At the club the single guys were not out of line physically..they are just always there trying moving into your space. I'm the same way when I shop, pushy sales people annoy me. I will seekTHEM out when I need the help.

I sort of posed the question as I did to see what others though. To me it seems like the pushy single guys hit on anything they see figuring at some point they'll catch someone who is interested.

And I know not all single guys are this way, but you know all it takes is a few to really piss you off. Last year I remember a single guy ran into us at a club and said thank you. He was thanking me for responding to his email or chat (don't recall) just saying thanks, but no thanks.

We try to be nice to everyone and that's probalby our fault that we don't just ignore the guys. This guy today started talking to us as soon as we got into the M&G, we didn't even have our coats off. Then he kepts coming back and sit with us, suggesting that we meet with him something. When we said we are only into couples, he said well we can meet him and his g/f...ugh!

[SW_PA_Couple]

OK, I better understand what you are saying. There is, in fact, one particular guy that we regularly encounter at a party venue that is basically "open" to whomever wants to come (not a club). He "clings" to us and to others. And as you described, he once decided that he had found the key that would open the lock -- he had a woman in-tow. Like you, I am much too polite and use the tactic of repeatedly excusing myself from his company. My wife, I'm afraid, is not so shy. She gives him the old high-school tactic of pretending he is not there. Last time I herd her say to him in a sharp tone of voice, "Do you know me?"

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by mojo1921

I AM A MALE FROM OHIO I AGREE CAN YOU INTRO ME TO SO OF YOUR FRIENDS IN OHIO ON LINE I LIVE IN COLUMBUS AND AM NEW TO THE BOARD.

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by mojo1921

I AM A MALE FROM OHIO I AGREE CAN YOU INTRO ME TO SO OF YOUR FRIENDS IN OHIO ON LINE I LIVE IN COLUMBUS AND AM NEW TO THE BOARD.

You should read this thread better, they are talking about guys like you. Pay attention.

Your profile says you are a married male, does your wife know you are swinging?

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by mojo1921

I AM A MALE FROM OHIO I AGREE CAN YOU INTRO ME TO SO OF YOUR FRIENDS IN OHIO ON LINE I LIVE IN COLUMBUS AND AM NEW TO THE BOARD.

We have been sent a gift. We now have a chance to ask a person who is quite evidently an expert (I'm working under the assumption that although he is married he is acting singly). So I hope exploringRM will excuse me if I echo the original question.

So does the lifestyle push single males to be annoying or are there just annoying single males?

[xxxboxy]

I'd say that the single males are likely to be annoying regardless but the lifestyle may exacerbate their annoying behavior.

[PB&J]

Originally Posted by mojo1921

I AM A MALE FROM OHIO I AGREE CAN YOU INTRO ME TO SO OF YOUR FRIENDS IN OHIO ON LINE I LIVE IN COLUMBUS AND AM NEW TO THE BOARD.

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

We have been sent a gift. We now have a chance to ask a person who is quite evidently an expert (I'm working under the assumption that although he is married he is acting singly). So I hope exploringRM will excuse me if I echo the original question.

So does the lifestyle push single males to be annoying or are there just annoying single males?

I wonder if this guy appreciates irony? Probably not.

[dlflorida]

Originally Posted by mojo1921 View Post
I AM A MALE FROM OHIO I AGREE CAN YOU INTRO ME TO SO OF YOUR FRIENDS IN OHIO ON LINE I LIVE IN COLUMBUS AND AM NEW TO THE BOARD.




Why are you SHOUTING???

Talk about annoying...

[Chicup]

I have a negative view of 4/5th of single male swingers.

I see them as single for a reason. So bad social behavior is to be expected to some degree, thats why they are single and trying to get wild sexy fun time from a swingers club because those women are SLUTS.

I feel the same way about most single females in the lifestyle though for different reasons and motivations.

So just think of it like the fakes, the old pictures, the 'could you convince my wife', etc etc that plagues us with couples. Another inconvenience and time waster but nothing more.

[TheMiddleDoor]

at a M&G or a club the remedy is simple. you tell the host/hostess/security who is annoying you.. and they get rid of them. if they don't get rid of them..find another club and tell your friends to do the same.

a club can ALWAYS get another single male. a bad word about a place from a couple or two can kill a club, so it is in their interest to keep them happy.

we have a certain number of single males that have an "open invitation" to our parties..they have proven over time that they are reliable, respectful, and understand the rules and people's personal space. most of them are single due to divorce and were part of a swinging couple beforehand, so they understand how NOT to act as a single male.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

You should read this thread better, they are talking about guys like you. Pay attention.

Your profile says you are a married male, does your wife know you are swinging?

Vegas, You do know how to make me laugh!! Thank you!!!

My take on the single males is similar to SW PA's. However, I liken them to dogs. When you are in the kitchen preparing food, they are practically underfoot just WAITING and HOPING that you drop something. They get as close as possible whilst trying not to trip or upset you as they know all too well, once they pass that line, they are kicked out of the kitchen.

As for Mrs. CXXC and myself, we genrally dont have play time with single men in the LS. We prefer to find suitable men within the clubs around our area. The infromation is given to them shortly after they express interest in her that we are swingers. Their reactions will make us move forward or on to the next individual on another night! Never more than one attempt in an evening.

If they become possesive, they will be out of the kitchen post haste!

Most of the single men we have met in the LS clubs are fairly harmless. We went to Hedo a couple years ago. They were horrible there! These idiots could not BUY A CLUE!! As everyone here knows, I speak my mind pretty plainly. Well, sometimes, you just have to use a sledge hammer to get your point across! DUH!!!! Then again, these guys are not "In the lifestyle".

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by dlflorida

Originally Posted by mojo1921 View Post
I AM A MALE FROM OHIO I AGREE CAN YOU INTRO ME TO SO OF YOUR FRIENDS IN OHIO ON LINE I LIVE IN COLUMBUS AND AM NEW TO THE BOARD.

Why are you SHOUTING???

Talk about annoying...

Ohio is a state has a large number of square miles. It takes a lot of shouting to have your voice heard there.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by exploringRM

So does the lifestyle push single males to be annoying or are there just annoying single males? (and perhaps you can expand that into couples as I read here they can be pushy though we've encoutered any in person).

There are just annoying single males (and married males). The lifestyle does not necessarily make them that way. I've met more annoying single males in the vanilla world than I ever have in the swinging world.

In fact, I have had more trouble with married men in swinging than with single men in swinging. Seems that the married men think because they are married and have a woman for my husband, that they can push and get away with a lot more than single men. I've never had a single man ask me to meet him alone where as I've had numerous married men do so.

When you talk about annoying single men you have to remember, what's annoying to one couple isn't necessarily annoying to another.

If you encounter a single that is annoying you, the best thing to do is just say you're not interested in single men and move on. Subtle hints that you're not interested shouldn't be used, just tell them no thanks. If they then keep persisting, that's when it's time to have the host/hostess talk to them.


Teresa